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Feeling guilty about incident with my dog today

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TooOldForGlitter · 26/04/2015 20:07

I don't think I was out of order but maybe I was harsh. It's still bothering me now. Sorry if its long.

We went to a steam fair today, we were stood looking at some of the vintage motorbikes and my dog was stood next to me. An old man came up and gave my dog the remnants of his ice cream cone. A sweet thing to do no doubt but my boy can't tolerate anything with cows milk. He gets a terrible tummy, think liquid shit...I immediately told him (dog) to drop it which he did and said to the man I'm sorry he can't eat ice cream it makes him ill but thank you. That is honestly word for word what I said. The man said nothing and walked away.

A bit later we were stood at a different area and a woman came over and told me I'd really upset her elderly dad who loves dogs and wanted to treat mine. I said sorry again, but that if he'd asked me I'd have given him a treat of my own to give to my dog but that he can't eat ice cream. She called me a snotty bitch with "no clue about dogs and clearly not about people" and walked off.

I feel like I could've handled it better but am also pissed off at the same time. I'm just ranting here really. Pfffft! Wine please?

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LoveVintage · 26/04/2015 22:36

I would never dream of offering a dog food without asking first. I don't actually think I would even ask to give another dog I don't know some ice cream . Regardless, you were firm and polite so nothing to beat yourself up about.

More excitingly, are we about to see the rise of Mumsnet bandanas?

villainousbroodmare · 26/04/2015 22:46

I don't think you were at all unreasonable, but surely it's the woman who was vile and obnoxious, not the old fellow with the ice cream who was just making a naive but well-meaning gesture?

Cherrychocolate · 26/04/2015 23:37

You did nothing wrong. Don't worry about it, you can't let someone feed your dog something that will cause illness just to please them!

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TooOldForGlitter · 26/04/2015 23:44

I do think the daughter was the rude one. I wasn't nasty to the elderly guy. I know different ideas have been around with dogs. My own mum (early 70s) thinks I'm mental because I won't feed my dog chocolate because, and I quote, we gave ours chocolate and he died aged 17. Which he did...but I've tried and tried (until I'm blue in the face) to say that saying I fed my dog chocolate and he was fine is as much use as saying my grab smoked 60 a day until she was 85. i.e. sheer luck!

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TooOldForGlitter · 26/04/2015 23:45

*gran not grab....

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VanitasVanitatum · 26/04/2015 23:48

The daughter was completely out of order, doesn't matter how upset she was she had no right to upset you. To say you had 'no clue about dogs' because you don't want yours made ill?! I feel angry on your behalf!

Well done for not rising though, very mature of you!

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TooOldForGlitter · 26/04/2015 23:50

It must be horrible for you SirVix. I can't imagine how painful it is to watch a parent succumb to dementia. My dad is 73 and vaguely forgetting things now. It feels like we are all on high alert hoping it's just forgetfulness and nothing worse Flowers

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Adarajames · 26/04/2015 23:51

Here! Drives me mad when people jut feed your dog without asking, wouldn't bloody fees your kids like that (one hopes!!)! Used to be one elderly lady that insisted on feeding my young dog when she saw her despite my repeated asking her not to, result being that my dog started to think elderly women were a good source of food and would charge up to them which was scary enough, but I'd finally taught her not to jump up for food (16mnth old rescu, this was not an easy task!!), only for this women's actions to restart that behaviour too, cue a risk to injuring older women! I ended up havin to shout at the woman, and painted a big 'do NOT feed me' sign on a hi viz dog coat that she wore for next few months to get the message cross!
So no, you weren't rude, thy were bloody rude for feeding your dog without checking first and for having a go when you asked him not to!

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TooOldForGlitter · 26/04/2015 23:51

My assertiveness definitely needs some work Blush

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BabeRuthless · 27/04/2015 07:25

You didn't do anything wrong. My 8 year old son knows not to give dogs treats without asking the owner first. You were very polite and your dog sounds a lot more restrained than mine!

Greyhorses · 27/04/2015 08:16

I feel your pain with this. I have a dog who has a damaged oesophagus and can choke on solid foods. I am constantly grabbing treats from her mouth from well meaning people Hmm

I have seen collars with do not feed on- it may be a good idea if it keeps happening!

Gymbob · 27/04/2015 20:29

trouble is people feed dogs treats for the pleasure of watching them eat it. they don't feed them for the dog sake. it's usually selfish behaviour.

I would be furious if someone fed my dog something without asking me first.

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