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Help me make The Decision. I need advice please :(

54 replies

PoorOldDog · 12/10/2014 13:54

I've namechanged, I've no idea if I'll be flamed for this, so I'd rather it wasn't under my usual name. If anyone thinks I'm being cruel, please say so constructively! :)

My old lady JRT is 15. Nearly a year ago she had either a stroke or old dog vestibular disease. Since then she has deteriorated, lost loads of weight despite eating like a horse, has lost most of her hearing and sight.

She has been on vivitonin which I believe has kept her tottering along.

In the last week, she has taken a bit of a dive, she sleeps a lot, bumps into things when she walks around, she looks like she's lost more weight (if that's possible). She is still interested in eating, I would say this is the only time she has any spark now.

The vet can't find anything extra wrong, just age. We're to take her back next week where no doubt the vet will want to run a battery of tests (again).
The vets are the sort to keep animals going if they possibly can, doing all sorts of tests and scans etc.
In all but the most dire of situations, their advice will always be to keep trying, so dh and I know that it is likely to be our decision, which feels quite shitty tbh.

So how do we know when it's the right time to make The Decision? (:()

She's been a fantastic dog, gentle with our dc, bags of character (code for; a bit of a bugger!), bright, lively and lots of fun to have around.
It's awful to see how much she's aged recently, but I'm sure she could be limped on a while longer, but it's whether this is right for her.
Is the spark we see at meal times enough to say that she has a good quality of life?

On the one hand, we don't want to be hasty and make a decision that we'll regret, wondering forever if it was too soon.

On the other hand, we don't want to leave it so long that she has no quality of life and she's living because we're too selfish to put her needs first (iykwim)

If she was your dog, what would you be doing?

OP posts:
boobyooby · 13/10/2014 10:57

I'm so sorry DD, I've only just seen this thread so not been able to comment earlier. One thing that stood out for me was the weight loss, dogs tend to tolerate a lot of pain and discomfort before it shows and although eating ok the gradual loss of weight would indicate something somewhere wasn't quite right. Could of course just be old age, rather than something majorly wrong. I would not be subjecting my pet to any more tests at that age but I'm so sorry you are approaching this decision. It is never an easy one, but one you should take comfort from that you are doing your very best for your pet.

I'm really sorry to see she has taken a turn for the worse today too, thinking of you and cyber hugs.

DishwasherDogs · 13/10/2014 11:01

Thank you x

JennyOnTheBlocks · 13/10/2014 11:05
Thanks

got a lump in my throat reading this thread, thinking of you Dishwasher

hard times ahead, but remember the best times of the past x x

CalamityKate1 · 13/10/2014 11:23

I'm really sorry you're going through this :(

We lost out old girl earlier this year. She had a bout of vestibular disease and did recover but wasn't quite the same. Then she got it again. The vet had said that it does tend to recur. It's a horrible thing. She was almost 14 (at least) and she'd had enough. We let her go.

You know your dog. Wishing you strength whatever decision you make x

spiderlight · 13/10/2014 11:40

So sorry Flowers and a massive unMumsnetty ((( hug ))). Wishing her a swift and easy passing.

Gileswithachainsaw · 13/10/2014 11:48

Oh dish so very sorry. She is a lucky dog to have such a loving owner.

Sweet dreams puppy. Run free now.

ThanksWine

You have taken such good care of her for her to get to 15. I hope in time you can look back and laugh and smile again at all the stupid things she did and the wonderful times you had. Xx

DishwasherDogs · 13/10/2014 11:53

"Sweet dreams puppy. Run free now."
:(

She could never go off her lead ever until she was 8 and we got a small field. After we dog proofed it we let her go and she ran and ran, so fast that her back legs stretched out behind her higher than her back. We'd never seen her so happy.
I think we'll bury her there, she was such a happy, crazy little thing :) :(

LST · 13/10/2014 11:59

I'm so sorry Op. Be rest assured you did the right thing Thanks

CalamityKate1 · 13/10/2014 12:08

The last thing I said to DDog while she slipped away was "Sweet doggy dreams". It's the last thing I say to them when I go up to bed :(

OneSkinnyChip · 13/10/2014 12:10

Reading this with tears for you OP. It is devastating but you are giving your old lady a peaceful end. Thinking about you Thanks

NickiFury · 13/10/2014 12:23

Am crying reading your thread OP. You clearly love her very much. I've just been to the vet with my old boy this morning, he is 12, I am hoping for a few more years with him yet, he's arthritic and his eyes are a bit cloudy now, when the vet said that, it really brought it home to me. He's such a good old boy.

I hope everything goes as well as can be expected, big hugs Thanks.

Gileswithachainsaw · 13/10/2014 12:47

Sounds perfect Smile

Sad x

EasyToEatTiger · 13/10/2014 12:54

Big, big hugs to you.

DishwasherDogs · 13/10/2014 13:47

She's gone :(

Dh came home and in the end we both went, which I'm pleased about. We both cuddled her as she died.

Ddog 2 and 3 are both very subdued. The big Labrador looks very sad and keeps climbing on my knee.

Dreading the dc coming home, they've never known life without Leapy :(
She's been a brilliant dog. Can't believe she's gone :(

Thank you for all being lovely, I really appreciate it Thanks

NickiFury · 13/10/2014 14:00

I'm so sorry. At least you both got to be with her at the end. When you described how happy she was running in that field I could almost see her. She sounds as though she was very happy and loved and no dog can ask for more than that x

twojues · 13/10/2014 14:15

I'm sorry to read this. Glad you were both with her to say goodbye.

Big hugs.

soddinghormones · 13/10/2014 14:27

So sorry to read this - she sounds like she was a wonderful dog

boobyooby · 13/10/2014 14:38

huge hugs, with a tear (ahem, dust I mean!) in my eye as I read this. Run free little one. I'm glad you have somewhere perfect to bury her, and take comfort from the memories you have. Glad you managed to say goodbye to her, she would have fallen asleep knowing it too xx

frostyfingers · 13/10/2014 15:01

So sorry to see this - it's hard, really hard, but absolutely the right and kindest thing to do at this stage. I hope you've got lots of happy memories stored up, the sharpest pain eases fairly soon, but the dull ache and "catch your breath moments" stay a while. Be kind to yourselves for the next few days.

Costacoffeeplease · 13/10/2014 15:01

Sorry to hear that but sounds like it was the only thing to do, still hard though, I know

PolterGoose · 13/10/2014 17:37

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moosemama · 13/10/2014 17:47

I am so sorry. Flowers

It sounds like she had a wonderful, long and happy life with you and she passed knowing how much she was/is/and will always be loved.

((hugs))

luxaroma · 13/10/2014 19:24

So sorry you had to let go of your beautiful dog, fwiw I think you made the right decision, for the right reasons.

fuctifino · 13/10/2014 19:58

So sorry Flowers. I hope your dc aren't upset for too long Sad

DishwasherDogs · 13/10/2014 20:30

Thank you Thanks
Ds1 is gutted, they've grown up together.
Ds2 is quite shell shocked and hasn't said much since I told him :(
We buried her tonight and put some wild flowers in with her and her lead and collar.
Poor girl :(