In order to keep our dog I need to...

[joanofarchitrave]

• take him on his early morning walk (around 6.30am - I work fulltime)
• ensure ds takes him out after school, preferably without being asked
• take him out every evening with dh
• take him to the vet when needed
• do the errands to buy food etc.

DH is at home full time, though obviously he has his own things to do. I will do what it takes, I hope, as I don't want to rehome the dog and particularly don't want to tell ds that we would be rehoming him. But I'm just going to vent on here -

For FUCK'S sake.

I don't really understand - do you not do these things now?

Sorry re-read your message - you want DH to do some of it?

If I'm reading this right OP, your husband doesn't do these things so it falls to you (and ds)??

The dog sounds less needy and demanding than DH.
I suggest if anyone needs to be rehomed, then the dog should not be top of the list

Oh the temptation - I'm sure dh would love a nice roomy run at Blue Cross

I feel the balance is better at the moment (I do early walk, vet and errands, and dh does main walk in the day, ds does short extra walk) but dh has had a bad time recently and has proposed the above as a way to keep the dog 'if I still want to'. I suppose I might lose some weight.

Think you need to post this in 'Relationships'. You must know what they'll tell you to do.

^^^ agreed, this is a husband issue, not a dog issue, post in Relationships for great advice, op

Is he working from home?

I am at home full time for the foreseeable future (I am a carer for my daughter who has severe disabilities) my husband works full time. I do Everything with dog, but we both wanted her, it's just I have more time iykwim. Did he not want her/him?

I'm forced to the conclusion that he didn't, really, though he said he did. That's what undermines me I think - i definitely felt even at the time that he was a slightly more passive partner in the project and therefore I do feel like I have to take more of it on. That's it really - live and learn. Thank you for posting, there's no resolution I'm afraid, as I'm not going to leave him.