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Saying goodbye to my boy tomorrow

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IamMummyhearmeROAR · 02/12/2013 12:27

We made the decision today on his 10th birthday. He is the loveliest, sweetest beagle boy and my heart is broken. He is the only dog I've ever owned and we've had a lovely life together. He has end stage kidney failure and isn't in pain but he is no longer eating or drinking enough to take his meds or keep hydrated. I love him so much and can't imagine life without his big brown eyes and his bin raids and his Scooby Doo legs as he runs around the house up to mischief. He is loved by so many people. I'm so sad. Please give me strength to get through the next few days xx

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DharmaLovesDraco · 02/12/2013 12:44

I'm so, so sorry ((((hugs)))) sending you lots of love xx

diplodocus · 02/12/2013 12:54

So so sorry, but glad he seems to have had such a great life and was so loved. He sounds lovely.

SnakeyMcBadass · 02/12/2013 12:58

It is never easy to love a dog enough to let them go x I'll be thinking of you and sending you strength.

GideonKipper · 02/12/2013 12:59

I am filling up reading your post.

My boy had surgery last week and he's been so out if sorts since. It's really brought it home how used we get to having them around with all their daft ways, and how bonded we are to them.

Are you going to have him sleeping with you tonight?

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IamMummyhearmeROAR · 02/12/2013 13:56

Thank you all for your kind words. I'm not sure what we'll do tonight. Probably we'll just stick with our normal sleeping routine as he isn't distressed and changing the normal order may unsettle him. Moving him would be for me and he's all that counts. He has a lovely cosy bed by the kitchen radiator. My lovely boss is letting me have some time off and I'll get some quiet cuddles before we go to the vet. Can't believe We're at this point I've dreaded. Your support means so much. Doggy people understand xx

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GideonKipper · 02/12/2013 14:25

I am choked up again.

He'll have some lovely time with you and a peaceful passing.

mistlethrush · 02/12/2013 15:09

Its clearly the right time - but it doesn't make it any easier. We did have the vets come to our house last autumn as our old girl really didn't like going there.

fanoftheinvisibleman · 02/12/2013 19:24

I hope you can enjoy your time together before you have to be brave enough to let him go. Thinking of you.

Blistory · 02/12/2013 19:32

How lovely to have a dog that is loved by so many - he sounds very special.

I hope you have a peaceful night.

LaurieFairyCake · 02/12/2013 19:35

I'm so sorry to hear that. How loved he was and how lucky he was to have you.

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IamMummyhearmeROAR · 02/12/2013 20:22

All day today I've had people coming to say goodbye and leaving in tears. He's had lots of cuddles and some tasty nibbles previously banned from his diet. I've sat beside him for most of the day, feeling his warmth while I can. Not a bad birthday for a wee dog. Your words of comfort have really touched me. What a lovely nest of vipers mumsnet is xx

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Tinateaspoon · 02/12/2013 21:09

I think we might be close to saying goodbye to our old man. I completely understand how you feel, it is so so hard. Wishing you every strength tomorrow. Sleep well little beagle Sad

GideonKipper · 02/12/2013 21:27
Sad
muddylettuce · 02/12/2013 21:41

Argh. I feel for you. Good luck tomorrow, just know you're doing the best thing for him. Hugs. X

needastrongone · 02/12/2013 22:10

Sending you my thoughts too for tomorrow. Take care.

punter · 03/12/2013 07:44

We went through this last year with our loved Battersea boy. I do hope you can cope with today and let him go with pride and love. Many hugs and best wishes.

MissMarplesBloomers · 03/12/2013 08:01

One of the hardest & yet ultimately kindest things you will do for him. Ask the vet if you can cuddle him while he goes, it is very peaceful & he will fall asleep feeling your love.

Big hugs for you all xxx

Lainey1 · 03/12/2013 08:51

Hi, I totally understand what you're going through. It is one month and a day since I, too, had to make the gut-wrenching decision to end my little girl's life. She too, got kidney failure - we brought a specialist in, who told us it was 'hopeless'. Even as a non medic, I knew from the astronomically high blood count and x ray, that she did not have a chance. Her death has devastated us. It was the suddeness and the shock of it also. Completely unexpected. She was our world and at age 4 and a half, what happened to her was tragic. I derive comfort from knowing how great and wonderful a life we gave her - full of love, cuddles, treats galore, long walks, long drives and fun holidays and pubs in The Lakes... Her life was short but so so filled with joy and kindness. You have to now do the right thing for her and be there to hold her, which I know you will. It's not easy but I believe it's out of your hands now and in the hands if the Gods, so to speak. There is a poem called 'Rainbow Bridge' which might comfort you. It's worth a try when you're up to it. I have read so many beautiful words but my favourite one is in a little box with her ashes and a lock of her fur - all that I have left of her, sadly. If you would like it, I will find a link or write it for you on here. Meantime, God bless you both.

GideonKipper · 04/12/2013 07:25

Lainey- Sad how devastating for you.

How are you IamMummy?

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IamMummyhearmeROAR · 04/12/2013 17:37

Big hugs Lainey.

Yesterday I came home at 2.30. My mum had been with him all day and I took over the cuddles. My dh came home and eventually it was time to make the journey. He went into the room wagging his tail and we sat on the floor with him while he was sedated. Just after the needle came out he looked right at me, right into me with his huge brown eyes and there was so much love and understanding in those eyes, my heart broke into tinier pieces.
Within 5 minutes he had lain down on a fleece bed and we kissed and stroked him and told him we loved him. The vet came back and we carried him to the table. I put my face to his and whispered how much he meant to me while his paw was shaved and he was injected. He gave 3 big sighs and he was gone.

I have been a restless soul since he's gone. I've forgotten how to be without a dog. We have set up a wee shrine on his chair with his collar, photos and drawings by the children. It hurts.

Thank you all for your thoughts

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FayeKorgasm · 04/12/2013 17:52
Thanks

That was such a gentle lovely description of his last moments. A much kinder end than letting him suffer.

I've given my girl a big hug. I hope I am as strong as you OP when I have to be.

coffeeinbed · 04/12/2013 17:58

Oh dear.
So sorry about your boy.
Take care of yourself, you did the right thing.

happydaze · 04/12/2013 20:37

Oh that is so sad, so sorry for you, it really hurts to let them go but you let him go with love.

furbaby · 04/12/2013 20:54

Thinking of you and your family .
You did the best by him but it hurts so much doesn, t it .
Having to make the decision and helping your darling dog move on to another place is possibly the kindess but hardess thing you have done .
Thinking of you and be kind to yourself in the next few weeks /months , it gets easier but you will be surprised by the little things that remind you of him and make
you sad again Thanks

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