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The sadness following the death of your dog

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Owllady · 14/10/2013 16:38

It really is heartbreaking isnt it? It's been 10 days and I still feel utterly dreadful. I picked up her ashes on Friday and I just couldn't speak to anyone in the vets and left crying my eyes out. I just feel sick all the time as though I was responsible and I just miss her so much. She would have done anything for me, she was just one of those dogs :( I think the shock hasn't worn off yet either. She was hit by a car and it didn't stop, so i had the police here last week as well

I just feel devastated. I know she was a dog but I miss her so much

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KiplingBag · 14/10/2013 16:42

Oh I am so sorry to see this and know just how you feel having lost 3 of my old faithfuls in recent years. Your cirumstances add to the awful shock and grief.

All other pet owners wll know the feelings you are going through. It is a member of the family after all.

Time is a great healer and the wonderful memories will live on with you forever. You were blessed to have her in your life xx

MoaningMingeWhingesAgain · 14/10/2013 16:43

They leave a huge gap don't they. so sorry x

NotScared · 14/10/2013 16:46

Awww so sorry to hear this how sad. x

Thinking of you and know how you feel. They're part of the family and are so sadly missed.

Take care OP.

SnakeyMcBadass · 14/10/2013 16:50

You're allowed to be sad, to miss her and to grieve. You've lost a friend. Be kind to yourself, and ignore anyone who does the whole 'It's just a dog' thing. She wasn't 'just a dog', she was your dog, and you loved her and she loved you. Parting is painful x

ErrolTheDragon · 14/10/2013 16:57

It is awful. I think its particularly bad because they are your responsibility, and also its such a physical relationship - they leave a huge hole in your life.

CEvert · 14/10/2013 16:59

Sorry to hear about your dog. Hope the police catches the driver.

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Owllady · 14/10/2013 17:04

I just feel so upset, I looked after her properly, walked her everyday, loved her and then some bastard mounted my neighbours garden and hit her and then just drove off leaving us, well me standing there, whilst she yelped in pain. She had a tail pull injury, the worst the vet had ever seen, and was already incontinent because of it and he felt even if operated on it would have a 30% success rate and we may have to make the decision later on to euthanise and I just couldn't let her be miserable, but I keep going over and over it in my head - as to whether I did the right thing. I stayed with her until the end and she seemed like she wanted to go, she snuggled up to me like she does at home and licked her lips and closed her eyes whilst I stroked her. She was 11yo and was such a nice dog, I know they all are! :) but she was my little dog. I had her a few months after my sister died and I think she gave me comfort and of course I keep thinking of all the stuff we went through together

God I am so sad

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NotScared · 14/10/2013 17:06

OMG that's horrific. You'll most likely have PTSD?

Have you been to your GP?

KiplingBag · 14/10/2013 17:07

That is very sad, I too ope they catch the bastard who did this.

Clearly you are still in shock with all the replaying of the event. It must have been very traumatic for you. And it hurts doesn't it. Physical aches for the loss.

She sounded a dear little thing xx

SnakeyMcBadass · 14/10/2013 17:09

You did the right thing for your dog. Horrible for you, of course, but you spared her any more pain and let her slip peacefully away while being stroked by her favourite human. I have no doubt that your last kindness was letting her go no matter how much it has hurt you.

Floralnomad · 14/10/2013 17:09

How dreadful for you x

OneStepCloser · 14/10/2013 17:32

I`m so sorry, so awful for you x But he knew you loved him and you a

1MitchellMum · 14/10/2013 17:33

What a horrible horrible person to do that to you and your poor dog. Ten days is nothing really, I grieved for ages after my four dogs died (over a period of nine years). The pain does get easier in time though I still do get upset sometimes. Far worse for you as it was the result of someone else's behaviour. You certainly did the right thing for her. Have you tried Melissa (herbal stuff to put in your bath)? RIP lovely doggie, and I hope you start to feel a bit better soon. x

OneStepCloser · 14/10/2013 17:34

allowed him to go. You are grieving, it will take some time. Just be kind to yourself. x

OneStepCloser · 14/10/2013 17:34

Sorry, post halved!

daisy5569 · 14/10/2013 18:12

Owllady I really do understand how you feel, 3 weeks ago I came home and found my little Jack Russell girly dead at the top of the stairs, she had not looked right earlier in the day and although she was old 15 1/2 it was still such a shock. I always used to worry that I would find one of my dogs had passed away in the night or while I wasnt there but to be honest now its happened to me it wasnt so bad and at least she passed away at home hopefully in peace.
I really feel for you, must have been dreadful for you to go through what you have, but I believe that to let your dogs go when they are in pain and not enjoying life anymore is the best thing we can do for them. She had you with her at the end too which is lovely.
I still cry over my little girl and miss her so much, even though I have another dog, I still miss her funny little ways and even find my self talking to her (now I sound mad!)
I can just about speak about her without crying and hope one day to get another little JRT but at the moment its all too sad.
Hope you feel better soon look after yourself, they may just be dogs but they really do get inside our hearts x

poachedeggs · 14/10/2013 18:48

Owl :( as I know I lost my old girl around the same time as you lost yours (although without the awful trauma of the injury of course) and I think it's very early days. We live more closely with our pets than we do with most of our friends and family, and yet society expects us to get over the loss so much more quickly.

The Blue Cross have a pet bereavement advice line which you might like to use. I believe they also have an email contact service.

You know you did what was best and right. It doesn't make it any easier, I know that, but you saved your faithful old girl from enduring any more than she had to. It is just a case of putting in the time now, and letting the grief come. I am finding the times that are hardest are when I'm doing dull household things like washing up or changing beds, for some reason it catches me.

Have a hug from me x

poachedeggs · 14/10/2013 18:49

*as you know

fanoftheinvisibleman · 14/10/2013 18:52

So sorry Owllady, that sounds utterly traumatic. Look after yourself.

spanky2 · 14/10/2013 18:58

So sorry. My cat died 6 years ago next month and I still miss her. With time you will be able to remember the happy times without crying. With time you get used to the feeling of missing her. So tragic to lose her this way. She was a member of your family.

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Owllady · 15/10/2013 12:21

thanks everyone, I feel alright today again I was a right mess yesterday. I am a slave to my emotions at the best of times, I think yesterday was one of them

You are all so lovely though xx and I am sorry other people are going through it too

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ErrolTheDragon · 15/10/2013 12:44

Glad you feel a better today.

Like all grieving, it tends to wash over in waves, but on a gradually ebbing tide.

maudpringle · 15/10/2013 17:22

Owllady I am so sorry you have
lost your doggie and a huge part of your life

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