So, if we have nightmare dog pts what happens afterwards?

[VivaLeBeaver]

Still going round in circles. My gut feeling is we need to do this and I think we will. I'm just trying to prepare dd for it.

She's been sobbing and hysterical clinging onto the dog and begging me "please don't kill my puppy" over and over again. It's heartbreaking. I'm crying now, just typing this.

She came to me this evening and said if it does happen she knows dh won't want another dog. She says she can't cope without one as its company for her in the evenings after she finishes school until we're back from work. Which is true, especially now winters coming. We live in an old house and dd is convinced its haunted, she won't go to the loo unless the dog goes with her.

I really don't feel I want another dog. I'd never get a rescue or an older dog after this as I don't feel I'd know what we were getting and am worried about been in this boat again. Dd asked if we could get another greyhound but the reason why we didn't get a greyhound with this one was because of our previous dog, a greyhound, dying during a dental. And greyhounds are prone to needing dentals. Plus I wanted a smaller dog. And one which I could trust off lead more and most have crap recall.

I really don't think I could cope with a puppy, the chewing, etc. Plus there's 2 days a week where the dog needs to be left for approx 5 hours and I don't think that's fair on a puppy.

I just feel like I never want another dog........but I feel its so unfair on dd. to kill her puppy, she's an only kid, struggles with friendship issues, is lonely and then say she can't have another?

Viva I just want to give you and your dd a hug. I can't imagine how you're all feeling. It must be heartbreaking. I would give yourselves a little breathing space and not rush into anything.

Look after yourselves.

Viva, I think you're jumping the gun. You need to decide how to deal with the dog you've got before even contemplating another one. I feel for your DD, it must be very upsetting for her, but she can't have the final say here. I'm so sorry that the breeder has been so shit

I think you're right, we need to not rush into anything. Which is hard when we're all so upset and I'm just desperate to try and make things as right for dd as I can. Thanks.

You need to sort out your current situation first, then work out what you're doing about a pet.

Rescue dogs are assessed - if you got one from a rescue that uses foster homes they'd be able to give you a real history of what they're like to live with and unlike a breeder they'll be upfront about any issues...it's actually a much more reliable way of getting a dog tbh.

You could get a cat - orientals are very dog like, my siamese is cuddly, affectionate, plays fetch and follows me round the house.

But first you do really need to take care of what's going on now, work that out and then go from there.

So sorry for your troubles with your dog, I have been following your threads. I really feel for your daughter though, the only reason I had a dog as a teenager ( a mongrel jrt/fox terrier/ many other breeds in the mix!) was because my grandad died, leaving a two year old dog that one of my aunts got him after my gran passed, my mum didn't have a choice really but the dog was my best pal. We are considering a dog and after very thourough researching we're going with a golden retriever pup next summer. Would you perhaps consider a GR rescue? Once they're through the pup years (imo 3 years +) they're pretty laidback dogs (well, all the ones I've known anyway), if they've had their daily excercise if you can deal with the hair. But all the GR's dh had, daily brushing dealt with the shedding, and the brushing itself is quite therapeutic in a funny way! It is a failsafe companion in terms of temperament and reliability. And the live anything from 12(dh's 1st) to 15 (the last one) years. Super cuddly.

Good luck with the coming weeks though.

Hat.

I really feel for you all in this, but mostly your daughter. If you do go down this route, it would be really unfair not to get another dog.

If you think about this logically, this happened because you unfortunately found a bad breeder. If you went through a reputable rescue, this wouldn't happen, the last thing they would do is to lie and have the placement go wrong.

And ref the greyhound issue - surely that was just really bad luck? I'm sure there would be a great rescue dog out there for you

Well I'm mad but I've got a 14 yr old with issues and if she was clinging to our dog saying don't kill my puppy there's no way I'd be having it PTS without first trying several different routes . In the case of your dog I'd start with neutering ,for no other reason than you just don't know till you try . That said I'd be walking the dog with a muzzle and not having any visitors to the house so the only people he could bite would be us .

I honestly feel for you Viva, my DD is the same age.

Give yourself time and space this time, please.

I don't know your DD's history or character but, honestly, this needs to be your decision, that's what parenting is about.

I know my DD would do all the things your DD has done, and more, and it would break my heart like it's breaking yours, but I would still make the final decision.

You posted before that DD wasn't fully stepping up to the training and care of the dog (not a negative comment, my DC's are exactly the same, despite wanted the dog as much as the rest of the family). She can't be ultimately responsible for this decision, that's all.

Take care of yourself, I feel so bad for you.

Oh viva :(
To echo PPs I think you need not to rush. Personally (and that's just my opinion) I would have the dog PTS which will be devastating for your DD as well as the rest of your family.
I think your DD needs to understand the responsibility of owning such a dog, plus the very real possibilility of having the dog "destroyed" if it bites someone again versus making the calm and rational decision to PTS.
As to another dog I can see why you have reservations. I worked at greyhound rescue in a past life and took literally hundreds of dogs for dentals. Never had one die under anaesthetic so this is truly bad luck and unlikely to happen again.
Possibly consider an older pup, or a well assessed rescue dog. In your position however I would be very tempted to go for a puppy from a reputable breeder so that I was as certain as possible what I was getting.
Whichever you choose, could you plan to get the dog at the start of the school holidays (assuming DD at least will be home while you are at work) this gives you a chance to settle a new dog in, arrange a walker for the days you work and generally bond.
Good luck

You are doing so well in wanting to communicate with your dd about the situation. I was bitten by a dog which had apparently bitten other people. I thought it was entirely my fault, which in some ways it was. Some years later I discovered that the dog had been pts because it had bitten one person too many.
I'm so sorry you are in this situation. Please remember that it is not one of your making.

I know this is a really hard decision, but I am full of admiration for you confronting this. If you have got to this point it is the right decision.....(tbh I would have probably got there sooner you have tried really hard)

I think this is doubly hard b/c the only person the dog is nice to is your dd......I don't think you have to get her another dog, but I think the whole ordeal will be easier for her if she knows that you will get another dog.

From memory you got the current dog quite soon after your beloved greyhound past, maybe prepare her that it may take longer as you really do need to make sure it is the right dog.

Will you be able to persuade DH to be involved in the process? I know your current dog has given him a particularly bad time....

As for breed - what about a whippet ? Not sure if they have the same teeth issues? Scruples looks like a great rescue, and I am sure if you go to the right place , you will get a dog that works for your whole family. I love whippets, don't have one, but would love one, and recently consider taking on a rescue, but happily the lady who was fostering him has decided he is staying - which is fab as my kids love him and still get to see him, when we are out walking our dog.

You have had a really bad experience - brought on by a charlatan of a breeder...but all you have to do is read all the happy doggy experiences on here to know it doesn't have to be that way.

I am so sorry for your whole family you have been through this.