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If you're worried about your pet's health, please speak to a vet or qualified professional.

I'm retiring my girl, I don't want to face today.

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TotallyBursar · 02/08/2013 01:33

We have been Pets As Therapy volunteers for a long time, most of her life really.
Now though she is getting older, getting more tired and it's time for us just to be together. She loves her people and is still ready to go, having collected her jacket and lead, for every session, always ready to meet someone new. But I still think of it as her job, one she loves, one she would do until she can't get out of bed...but still work of a sort. It's time to have the happy retirement she deserves.

Which all made perfect and logical sense until yesterday - I cleaned her jacket for the last time, I opened her new birthday and thank you cards and letters and put her old ones from the shelf into her box. Letters from some of the people whose life she has touched profoundly, who sometimes had few others, dc she assisted in reading schemes, patients at the hospice, bright crayoned cards from the children in hospitals and schools, all written to her (and never read by me without permission).
Families of her people greet her in the street or grounds, they tell me that she has been mentioned at gravesides and funerals, as important in her way as carers sometimes Shock , we have even been invited to some funerals too over the years.

Today I will take her to say goodbye, to people that love her, I will enthuse that they are luckily getting a wonderful new dog and we will try not to cry. A few members of staff already know (obviously) and have gone wobbly voiced - we're all hard as nails really! - and then it will be over.

Sad

If you think you and your dog or cat can offer your services to Pets As Therapy, or even just donate or spread the word, please look at their website and consider it. I didn't comprehend the deeply touching experiences we would have, or the difference to people one battered little rescue mongrel would make.

I'm off to practice my brave face because it looks like this atm Sad.

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TotallyBursar · 02/08/2013 01:36

Well that was a novel. I only intended half of that.
Really shouldn't have packed her box away and written this.

Blaaargh. Sorry.

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NatashaBee · 02/08/2013 02:28

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ratbagcatbag · 02/08/2013 03:20

I'm tearing up reading that. So can't advise you how to be any different.

I think you know how much of a difference she's made and it is a lasting memory for people at sometimes very difficult times in their lives.

I think it's also hard for you as you understand what it meant to them, your lovely little dog just enjoyed the attention. Flowers to you both for giving so much to those that need it.

Bearandcub · 02/08/2013 04:33

Oh how sad. And what an amazing job she's done, I didn't even know this service existed. Wonderful.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 02/08/2013 04:47

I work in the world of children's hospices and have worked in special schools, i've seen first hand the amazing work that Pets as Therapy animals do. I would like to wish your girl a long and happy retirement and thank you both for your dedication and love.

Grumpla · 02/08/2013 04:57

Damn bit of dust in my eyes.

MissMarplesBloomers · 02/08/2013 06:03

Have been thinking about looking into this with my Goldie.

How do I go about it?

Your girl sounds like she has given a lot of folks some comfort & affection at difficult times ...she deserves a peaceful retirement.

TotallyBursar · 02/08/2013 07:33

Thank you for the replies, I didn't expect any after that brain dump!
She is incredibly special for lots of reasons and will certainly have a better legacy than me!

NatashaBee - link would be helpful, d'oh I will do one asap.

MissMarple- have a look on the link I post as it has factsheets and a copy of their handbook.
Initially it is a case of printing their application form - your dog needs to be ovemonths old and no older than 9 when you apply, have records of full vaccination and flea/worming, in good health and of the right temperament (calm, sociable, good with strangers and able to remain calm in new/emergency situations - sudden loud noises, it doesn't mention specifically but not distressed by shouts or screams & machine noise is, I think, is important)
you need two personal references also.
You will have a temperament assessment where you will be asked to show control of your dog on a loose lead on a collar, be able to restrain them without them panicking (in case of emergency), groom them and have a conversation with the assessor whilst keeping your dog under control.
They will treat your dog to ensure they take food gently, get quite intense (but not beyond expected acceptable behaviour or what you would expect children to want to do so up close, touching face, a cuddle etc) with handling to ensure they are happy with new people in their space and accidental rough handling or touching of face, feet and ears. They will see if your dog jumps, paws or licks people - if so you may be deferred for 6 months for training.
General presentation - clean, fresh smelling coat (obviously a bit of dog is fine!) and short blunt nails. Fairly common sense things that you will have thought of tbh to make sure your dog can not only do it but be happy doing it.
You will have an area co-ordinator and depending on your area of interest (aat, read2dogs, general pat visits) can discuss starting your visits.
You may be required to have a CRB.
You will have a handbook and can also discuss with your person the safeguarding rules, ways to develop communication with different clients (so people with dementia, physical challenges with visits due to disability/surgery etc).
You will be supported and shown the ropes though!
Last thing is your fee, about £20/year, uniform which is discounted t-shirt and smart comfy black trews and jacket for dog. You both have id and 'uniform' is optional but I would recommend going for it if you can afford it - I found non service users were more respectful to my dog while she was in her work gear.

That sounds loads but actually you will be talking to excellent, dedicated and professional, kind people that want to help you get visiting who make it a joy to do.

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TotallyBursar · 02/08/2013 07:38

Whoops, over 9 months. Not sure what I did there?

PAT Volunteer can also navigate to donation pages.

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Imsosorryalan · 02/08/2013 09:10

I'd love to do this with my dog...unfortunately she is a nervous scary cat so prob wouldn't be suitable. Hmm

TotallyBursar · 02/08/2013 18:13

Not right now no, but you never know.
Old lady was a terrible wreck when she arrived and just the sight of teenaged boys would cause her to shake and wee. She wouldn't walk through a door if a person was holding it because she used to get it slammed on her, couldn't go in a car as she was used to being kicked and punched in the footwell when the child was bored, couldn't cope with loud noises, strangers or certain other triggers. She was terrified of everything.

Now though you wouldn't believe she was the same dog particularly when she sat and did an eyeroll/shrug combo (well ykwim!) when accidentally clonked with a crutch as she was helping calm a young teen boy to get him into the back of the car instead of being paralysed by utter terror, as that situation would be her kryptonite!

Point of the ramblings being - They never fail to surprise you.

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Imsosorryalan · 03/08/2013 10:38

Thanks totally, that's good to know. We are feeling a bit negative about our dog at the mo. as she too is scared of everything and it doesn't seem to be getting better! So that is good to know.

She's very good with us and loves cuddles ( from us) so who knows, maybe one day.... I'd love to do something like this.

My friend recently died from melanoma and a pat cat visited him in hospital as he missed his own cat. Was a great comfort to him.

oldandcrabby · 04/08/2013 12:09

Totally, I hope it all went well. Flowers
My senior PAT dog is now 11 and I know there will come a day when we need to think about retirement. Fortunately junior dog is now a PAT dog too. Smile.
What a good idea to encourage others to become PAT visitors. It gives us more than we give.

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