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Hit, shout, ignore or praise?: bad behaviour

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Confusedandfedup · 23/06/2013 18:52

I have a new nervous dog who barks quite aggressively at strangers/visitors to the house. One such person is my Dad. I have repeated asked him to ignore the dog, and not to look at her. So of course, he thinks he knows better and goes up to her and tells her to be quiet...result=even more ferocious barking Sad. My sister, who also think she knows better, tells me I should be grabbing the dog by the scruff and pulling her down to the ground whilst shouting NO. How am I going to train my poor dog to not be fearful when I have such numpties as family membersHmm? Why can't they just do as I ask FFS?

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fanoftheinvisibleman · 23/06/2013 19:15

I'm sorry but I just wouldn't allow people into my dogs home if they treated him like that. Sad

I'd meet them outside the home without your dog if they can't be trusted to treat him properly or the problems will just get worse.

Tiredemma · 23/06/2013 19:16

You should drag your sister down to the ground by the throat. How would she like it??????

SmokyHeart · 23/06/2013 21:48

I hope you have lots of calm, well-mannered friends who can come round and help you instead :)

Lilcamper · 24/06/2013 08:22

A nervous dog needs patience and understanding, physical punishment and shouting will make the fear worse. Sad

hennipenni · 24/06/2013 09:26

confused, I know exactly how you feel! I also have a nervous dog, in return for me asking to ignore him, no eye contact or speech etc I have had him barked at, I've had "oh it's ok, he knows me now" and the ones who do as I ask until they sit down and then conveniently "forget" what I've told them and try to fuss him which he does not tolerate.

Confusedandfedup · 24/06/2013 10:34

I know they mean well and are only trying to help, but my sister's answer to her dog misbehaving is to slap it (not hard btw) and of course the dog behaves no better. So I'm miffed that she feels the need to impart her 'wisdom' on to me!

Anyone got a tips for what I should do with Doggie when visitors she does not know or is comfortable with are due? I could put her in a different room so she doesn't have to deal with it? but this does not seem to be tackling the problem. Ideally I would like her to be calm and not worried by visitors.

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Lilcamper · 24/06/2013 10:40

You could get visitors to throw high value treats in her general directions so she learns that it rains chicken/ham/hot dogs when strangers arrive. By doing it this way and not trying to force her to take it from their hands, she still has an escape route if she needs it. Otherwise pop her in another room behind a stair gate with a lovely stuffed frozen kong.

hennipenni · 24/06/2013 10:59

We do the same as Lilcamper suggests but on advice of our behaviourist we put him in the garden if not raining or in a room upstairs until our visitors are in and sitting down, then we let him in and try to get our visitors to throw high value treats near him on the floor. He has progressed to taking treats out of ome visitors hands and will also jump up and want a fuss from a couple so it obviously works in our case. we also make sure that he has a safe place to go behind a stair gate if he feels the need to.

moosemama · 24/06/2013 16:50

I would stop them visiting and actually have done in the past when certain visitors (family members, as in your case) persistently encouraged my dog to jump over the baby-gate and jump up at them for a fuss. He's a really friendly dog, so slightly different, but they were constantly reinforcing the opposite of what we wanted him to learn and consistently undermining all the training we were doing with him.

If they are people you don't feel you can stop visiting the house for whatever reason, I would remove the dog rather than exposing it to their behaviour.

Whenever you have visitors to the house that you feel, for whatever reason, aren't willing/able to follow your guidance regarding the dog, it's better to remove the dog from the situation than risk undermining her training and setting her back. So eg, when the guy comes to read the meter, it's probably easier to put her in the garden than expect him to participate in her training. Grin (Although we have a plumber who loves dogs and is always keen to help. Smile)

With people who are more willing to listen, work with you and help, the treat throwing thing will help, as will people being calm and ignoring. The more people you can get to do this with her the better.

Are you taking her to dog training classes? That's something else that will help, as there will be experienced people who can be introduced to her properly and you may also be able to arrange some willing stooges, who will come round to your house with the sole purpose of helping you with the process.

Confusedandfedup · 24/06/2013 16:58

Thanks Moosemama, I'll will give your advice a go

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