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[Mosman]

Our puppy was killed yesterday in a road accident.

The kids have taken it very hard particularly the middle one who's dog it was.

I just want the hurt to stop for all of us but especially her, would geting her another puppy help or would it upset her more, I know the pup can't be replaced I just want the tears to stop.

I'm so sorry. I think it's far too early to be thinking of getting another dog, you need to grieve for this one. I don't know the details of the accident obviously but make sure none of your children feel guilty (am thinking if someone left a gate open or similar situation).

Sadly, time IS the only thing that will make this better.

I wouldn't get one now. It's too soon. Let everyone grieve, talk it through and decide when to get another one. I personally would definitely get another dog so they know its ok to have lost a pet and love another one too.

So sorry.

Oh you poor things. The tears will stop but the memory will take longer. Come together and talk about it and plan together for the future.

I'm so sorry to hear this. One thing that might help the DC is to involve them in thinking about puppy's burial/cremation. For instance, they might want to organise their own funeral in the garden, and could think about where pup's ashes could be scattered/buried (perhaps by pup's favourite spot?). They could also put together some of their favourite pictures of pup and things like vaccination certs, pedigree, etc into an album or scrapbook. I'd also make sure you have some nice pics of pup around the house so you can all still enjoy talking about him/her.

It's probably too soon right away but in time to come, you will all be ready to discuss having another dog.

We've buried her in the backgarden, had to be pretty quick as we live in a hot place and it didn't want to have to deal with more than I already did.
So we planted a lemon tree on top and I keep finding them out there crying.
I've played the "don't sit at my grave a weep" poem to try and make them think about her being with them in their hearts but in all honesty I'm not handling it all that well myself.

Oh I am so very, very sorry. That is utterly heartbreaking.

I'd agree with everyone not to rush in to getting another puppy while you are all still grieving but eventually, when you feel ready, look for another.

So sorry to hear about our loss. Eveyone is different but we waited a year to get new dog when our first family dog died and six months the second time. I've found this time round that when new dog arrived ( he is an older Staffie, as was his predecessor) his arival brought back some very poignant memories of the first Stafie and I did keep comparing the two for a while until it became very clear they are totally different characters. I'd say give it a while, and if you can get a slightly diffferent type of dog.

I wouldn't get another cocker spaniel, she was crackers. As soon as we brought her home people said for god sake don't get two (which was our plan) and they were right all she wanted to do was escape constantly, she would go for an hour long walk and then be trying to get under the fence 5 mins later.

I'm so sorry for you all. It is so hard to lose a pet. When our beloved cat died last year both children made albums/scrapbooks with their favourite pictures and memories. We still look at them now and remember his gentle presence. Lots of love to all of you.