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Rehoming advice needed

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EmmalinaC · 05/10/2012 12:06

A couple of weeks ago, friends of our made the painful decision that they should rehome their 3 year-old lab. They're in a tiny one-bed flat, with a small garden but since the birth of their first DC they have realised they can't afford a bigger property with garden in London and have admitted the dog is probably not getting the attention she needs.

I found them the perfect new owners - friends who dog sit my own dog - a child-free couple in their forties, who live in the country, are financially secure enough to not have to work and who have the time and inclination to give the dog a fantastic life. It couldn't be a more perfect arrangement.

In the course of my match-making I asked the owners loads of questions and the answers made me really sad... She was only walked twice a week before their DC was born (so is hardly ever walked now), she is left alone all the working day and in the pictures they sent me of her she looked utterly miserable. It convinced me they are absolutely right to give her up.

The problem is, now they are stalling for sentimental reasons and want to wait a few weeks - a few weeks where their dog is left all day in a tiny garden with no exercise. I have told them gently I think this is unfair but I'm not sure if I can do more.

Could any more experienced owners give me some advice? I'm not sure it counts as cruelty but it's not ideal.

Would it be a good idea for me to offer to 'foster' her for a few weeks so
the transition is easier (for them) or would it confuse the dog more?

Help! I am having sleepless nights.

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EmmalinaC · 05/10/2012 12:07

Sorry - typed all that on iPhone so apologies if grammar/spelling is sub-standard Grin

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Bubblemoon · 05/10/2012 14:57

Do your friends live near enough for you to be able to take their lab out when you walk your own dog EmmalinaC? Or could they hire a dog walker? That might help the poor dog in the short term, but it also might make them think it's more feasible for them to keep her so it's tricky.

Agree that even if it's not cruelty most of us dog lovers would think that it absolutely isn't fair to a young dog who would love and benefit on so many levels from company and a regular romp in the park.

Have you considered having a gentle, but frank conversation with the current owners. If they're true friends it shouldn't harm your friendship and they'll value your advice. Show them your MN post on the subject - it's perfect and shows just how much you care.

Bubblemoon · 05/10/2012 15:04

I've just reread your post OP and I'd missed this bit left all day in a tiny garden with no exercise Left outside for a full working day and the commuting time - that must be well over 8 hours, in all weathers. I would appeal to their better natures just once. Then I'd call the RSPCA.

Toughasoldboots · 05/10/2012 15:06

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Cuebill · 05/10/2012 18:28

It is not recommended to privately re-home any dog. Re-home through a no kill dog rescue or breed rescue. That way the dog will be guaranteed a home for life regardless of what happens to the owners circumstances.

Don't call the RSPCA they will not do anything at all if the dog has water and food. - The RSPCA will definitely not prosecute.

If you are certain that the dog needs to be rehomed you can only discuss this honestly with your friends. However there is no legal way you can get them to give up the dog.

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