I have a 5mth old male labradoodle, bought from a very very well regarded small breeder. I have no concerns about his background, I've met his mother/grandmother and great grandmother and am in touch with perhaps 30 or so of his step silbings and his father. He's a standard labradoodle, mostly poodle (over 70%).
He's lovely and very easy around the house. He was housetrained, completely, from the day we brought him home at 8 weeks ... not one accident, day or night, in the house. He sleeps from 10pm to 7am without a peep. He doesn't chew anything he shouldn't, he doesn't mouth or nip in the house (though he did for a week or two at first), he eats what we give him but doesn't beg for food. He's on Burns mini-bites. if we leave things around (especially soft things like socks/cardis he will take them, but then just sits with them and doesn't destroy them). He's our only (and first) dog. we have two cats who keep out of his way. He's not aggressive towards them.
He's a great watch dog, barks when he hears anyone/thing coming towards the house but is all tail wagging and friendly.
so far so perfect?
I started training him when he was 10 weeks old, and had a trainer come to the house once a week to do reward based training with him. He's smart and he very, very quickly had sit/stay/down/watch etc. And just about then he started being overly 'assertive' with me on walks.
We are surrounded by acres of private farmland, and that is where is is walked about 50% of the time. He's great off lead, and has been from the beginning, never going out of eye sight. But a few weeks after I started walking him, he started to get very assertive (I can't call it aggresive) with me. He will suddently return to me and, tail wagging, start to circle me while barking and growling. Shouting 'no' ramped him up further, the only thing that worked was getting him back on the lead and even that would result in the bucking bronco effect with him snapping/growling at me (always tail wagging).
Eventually, about 8 weeks ago, I spoke to his breeder. She advised me to stop all reward based training and to totally ignore him for a few days, and she asked for him to go back to her to be looked at and to be back in the pack with his mum/grandmum/great grandmum. I did this, actually just stopping the training and treats sorted him out but he want back for 2 nights anyway. She was totallly happy that there's nothing amiss and that he's not aggressive in any way. He doesn't guard food or toys.
But he's started up again with the circling/snapping/nipping/barking at me and it's getting worse. The best thing to do is to ignore him but it's getting harder because his 'nips' really hurt and they bruise my legs, and he frightens my children when he does it to me. He only ever does it to me, and I am him main carer. I do 99% of his walks/care.
I can no longer catch him to get him back on the lead, he sees that as part of the game and will circle me faster and faster, barking louder and louder. Tonight (walking him alone) I calmed him in about 30 seconds by calming staring at him and putting my hand in front of his head and saying 'calm'. he lay down, I put the lead on him and he was fine after that. Two days ago, on a beach with the children, he barked and growled at me for 5 minutes with me ignoring him before he gave up and I got a lead on him. I was afraid, to be honest, and the children weren't happy.
What on earth do I do? Keep him on a lead until I'm certain this has gone? Seems the most obvious solution. I'm confident he's not aggressive, but I'm starting to dread walking him because it nearly always involves him having a go at me and I come back feeling miserable.
I've waited all my life for a dog and I love him, we all do. And he's so briliant and funny and easy. Apart from these horrid 'mad' 5 minutes and his teeth now really, really hurt.
Sorry, long. bit lost to know what to do, he's going back to his breeder to board for 2 weeks soon while we are away. But I know that's not 'the answer'.
Thanks in advance for anyone who read this far.