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I think my neighbour is being really rather unreasonable...(sorry, long!!)

34 replies

IreadthereforeIam · 19/03/2012 22:40

We've had our Wire Fox Terrier puppy for a week - she's 13 weeks old, and she's absolutely gorgeous! My 3 year Lakeland Terrier has surprised us all, and is getting on really well with her.

The only problem is, I thought, night times. We've been putting her crate with the door open in a puppy pen, so that she has room to sleep in the crate, and can pop out of it in case she needs the loo in the night (we've put paper down for her). She started off horrendously - the first few nights we were up all the time (it felt like!!), and we expected that. She has improved a little, but she's waking at 4am, and then not really getting back to sleep after that (even though we let her out into the garden for a wee - she prefers to go out there than in her pen tbh.)

I have to work - I work 2 half days and a whole day in a Preschool (and I come home for 45 mins for lunch on the whole day), and I go to a pilates class for another morning.

I came home from a morning in work at lunch time today, and was accosted by my neighbour. She was really quite aggressive, told me that the puppy was barking all morning, and that her and her dh had been out into their back garden, because they thought that we'd left the puppy in the conservatory (?? She was in the kitchen!!), and that we had to do something about her. I told her that we had her in the kitchen, and I couldn't get her any further away from their dividing wall, I apologised, and said that she was just a little puppy, we'd only had her a week, and that I'm sure she would improve with a bit of time and perseverance! She said it wasn't good enough, and that I had to do something. She was fed up with listening to her bark all morning. I asked what she would suggest (she'd already made the comment that they had had dogs in the past, but hers weren't 'yappy' little dogs) - she said I would have to move her 'away'. I asked her what she meant, and she shrugged. I'm assuming that she wants me to get rid of the puppy after a week. I'm livid, actually. I had to walk away, because I would've said something that I know I would have regretted (or not!).

I'm really genuinely worried now about what she's going to do. I know her and her dh have been very aggressive towards other neighbours in the past (in that passive/ aggressive kind of way). I'm trying my bloody best with the puppy - I adore my dogs - exercise them loads, train them - but how I'm supposed to work bloody miracles in a week, I'll never know!!

Does anybody out there have any advice for night times? I opened up the puppy pen bigger and put my 3 year old dog in with her when I collected my ds's from school today - I couldn't hear her barking when I came home (I made the children tip-toe up the drive so that we could listen!!), but I don't think he will be terribly impressed with being locked in there with her at night - he usually sleeps on the floor in our bedroom.

To be honest, I'm desperate for some advice - or even just some reassurance. Ok, even if someone comes and has a go at me - and gives me a reason for it, I'll be satisfied!!

Thankyou!

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Sidge · 20/03/2012 17:36

YABU.

If I had to live next door and listen to a yapping puppy throughout the night and most of the day I'd be driven demented.

Your neighbour doesn't want to, and shouldn't have to, listen to your dog barking a lot. How you deal with it isn't her problem, it's yours. However much you love your dogs doesn't detract from the fact that their barking can be a noise nuisance for others.

ChickensHaveNoLips · 20/03/2012 17:45

Twll, I think that's very true. It just goes to show how much dogs rely on their noses to 'read' a situation. I never smell Jasper in the house now, but initially when he was left you'd walk in to a fug of smell. Poor little chap was very anxious :(. He is much more relaxed now, and doesn't have to shadow me quite so closely. I'm allowed to nip for a wee or make a cup of tea without accompaniment. Mostly Grin

ZZZenAgain · 20/03/2012 17:50

I think the neighbours seem unreasonable to you because you are not there hearing all this barking. I bet it drives them round the bend.

TheProvincialLady · 20/03/2012 17:58

I think your neighbours are pretty reasonable really. If I was your neighbour I would have been a lot more shirty with you, plus I would have been on the phone to environmental health and the RSPCA. Why on earth do you think it is acceptable for you to allow an animal to make that amount of noise in your house? I know very little about dogs but even I know that you aren't supposed to leave young puppies for hours and hours. I feel very sorry for the poor thing, and for your neighbours.

fussbucket · 20/03/2012 22:36

You need to either take a few weeks off work to settle your puppy in, which you should have arranged before getting it, or employ someone to be with your puppy for the next few weeks, which is not ideal as your puppy will be very confused about who to bond with. Your neighbours are not being unreasonable and a puppy that age should not be left alone for more than the occasional couple of hours.

charlearose · 22/03/2012 21:16

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IreadthereforeIam · 23/03/2012 10:23

Thanks all - the pup comes in our bedroom at night now, so we can get up in the night to take her out if she needs the loo (she's in her crate), and I've cut my one full day to half a day (I work 3.5 hours for half a day). I leave her in a puppy pen with my older dog - they get on great (don't know why I worried, he was always great with her, and likes other dogs anyway. I was the same bringing ds2 home from hospital, worrying how ds1 would get on with him!). A 'doggy' friend of mine pops in for 15 minutes or so for a loo break for them about halfway through my work session too. Swapped Pilates to an evening when dh is here too. I'm still adjusting to starting my day at 5am, though - but the clocks going forward should help with that!!

Stopping work isn't do-able, even for a short period of time - my manager has done as much as she can - and lets face it, someone has to pay for the pet insurance (that'll be me and my wages!!). So I'm only out 3 sessions of 3.5 hours now. I can up the other half day when I feel she can be left longer (but I've asked for my timetable not to include any full days after the summer holidays.), and Easter holidays start at the end of next week, so I'll be at home / with her 24-7 for 2 weeks (we're going away in our camper van - should be interesting!!).

I've not had any feedback at all from the neighbour since the run-in, but I'm not expecting anything anyway. They've had arguments of one sort or another with practically anyone that lives in spitting distance, so they haven't many people left that they can talk to and therefore complain to. We were the last ones that actually spoke to them. Ho hum.

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frostyfingers · 23/03/2012 16:43

That's good about your work - why don't you go round to your neighbour and explain the changes, it'll help keep the peace and make them more sympathetic.....

fussbucket · 23/03/2012 17:21

Glad you've managed to arrange more time at home, and a visitor to break their day up. Have just reread my last post and it sounds really judgy, sorry.

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