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Devastated- my mum's beautiful young dog killed on Christmas Night

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prayingmantisgroupie · 26/12/2011 00:47

I don't know if anyone's around, but writing it down may make me feel better. We were all having a lovely Xmas at my mum's, her dog was a beautiful Saluki lurcher cross, only 18 months old. Mum had had for almost exactly a year. My brother recently went to Uni, so this dog really was my mum's baby.
Early evening, my brother took her for a stroll over the recreation ground. Next thing we know, a hysterical call from him. She had run the wrong way, (we have no idea why), straight down the path, and onto a busy road. She was hit and killed almost instantly.
My mum is distraught, I have never seen her so devastated. I was the one who had to tell her Lucy was gone, and then hold her while she howled, "not my Lucy, my baby", over and over again. Brother is distraught too, blames himself naturally.
We have had to come home, as my DD was becoming very distressed, (she is only 3), and to make matters worse, kept asking for the dog. I left my sister, brother and brother's GF looking after mum.
I don't know what to do or say to make it better. I am so, so sad too, I loved her so much. I keep thinking "what if?". Why didn't we just skip the stroll for one day; she could have just had a run in the garden. I am very worried for my mum, she is quite a fragile person generally, and once my brother returns to Uni in January she will be all alone, (parents divorced). I work full time and live an hour's drive away, so can only see her at weekends.
Thank you for reading this, please light a candle for our lovely Lucy tonight. RIP beautiful girl. xxxx

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FizzyMakeFeelNice · 26/12/2011 00:55

Don't know what to say, but didn't want to leave this unanswered. :(

RIP Lucy, and hope your mum's okay.

RobinSparkles · 26/12/2011 00:58

How awful Sad I'm so sorry. Your poor mum. I don't know what to say.

bumpybecky · 26/12/2011 00:59

I'm so sorry :(:(

Parly · 26/12/2011 00:59

Oh God that's awful. :(

lisad123 · 26/12/2011 01:00

Oh your poor family and especially your mum Sad

LEttletownofBOFlehem · 26/12/2011 01:01

Oh, I'm so so sorry Xmas Sad

HoneydragonAteCliffRichard · 26/12/2011 01:05

Rip Lucy, my thoughts are with you all but particularly your dmum and dbro Sad

prayingmantisgroupie · 26/12/2011 01:07

Thank you, you're all so kind. Sad Don't know how I'm going to sleep tonight. Need to be normal for DD tomorrow; I don't want her to associate the first Christmas she can remember with tears and sadness. Shit, why do these things have to happen? My mum is a good person, she doesn't deserve this.

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ohfuschia · 26/12/2011 02:36

That is so sad, I really feel for you, your Mum and all your family. So sorry for Lucy too as she was clearly treasured, but she must have felt how loved she was even in the short time she had. So sorry again x

yellowraincoat · 26/12/2011 02:38

That's so sad, but she was loved, as ohfuschia said. And she was out on a walk, and she'll have been enjoying that.

Sorry for all of you xx

ditavonteesed · 26/12/2011 09:31

Sad so sorry for you all xx

FiveHoursSleep · 26/12/2011 09:45

I'm so sorry for you all. We have a young Saluki X and although she drives us nuts ( ate santas mince pie Xmas eve and half of the gingerbread house yesterday) she is very much part of the family.
Your poor mum :(

fluffygal · 26/12/2011 09:55

Oh no poor Lucy.I have a 2 year old saluki x lurcher and like Fives drives us mad scrounging food but we love her and wouldn't be without her (must be a naughty x breed!) We can't let her off near any roads as if her chase instinct kicks in then there's no calling her back. So sad,especially on christmas day,hopefully she didn't feel any pain and it was instant. Thoughts with your mum and your brother,it was an accident he shouldn't feel guilty.

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prayingmantisgroupie · 26/12/2011 10:51

Thank you again everyone. I just spoke to my mum, she is ok, but sounds so sad. I will go and see her shortly. xx

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RedwingWinter · 26/12/2011 19:03

How awful. I'm so sorry to hear this.

musicposy · 26/12/2011 22:30

So, so sorry to hear this Sad. She's going to be sad for a long time; just support as much as you can. Your DD will have lots of good Christmases to come, even though it seems so awful now. And very true what Mutt says. Your mum will one day be able to focus on the good times, though I doubt she will ever stop being upset that she didn't have longer with her. x

ChickensThinkYouCanGetStuffed · 27/12/2011 21:30

Oh that's so very sad :( I hope your mum is coping ok x

Alouisee · 27/12/2011 21:32

That is up there with my worst nightmares, I feel so, so sad for you all.

Toughasoldboots · 27/12/2011 21:35

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prayingmantisgroupie · 28/12/2011 00:37

Hello everyone, thanks again for your kindness. I saw mum today, she is ok, although having terrible stomach pains, (I'm guessing grief?). She is going to see her GP tomorrow. The house is very quiet and empty without Lucy rushing about Sad. Mum has put all her toys and blankets in a box, and wants to donate them to the local rescue. I think she will get another dog eventually, as we have had them all my life and they have always been rescues. Lucy came from a shelter, she was a stray - Mum brought her home exactly one year ago today. SadSad
I just wish I could make it all better for her and my darling little brother who is beside himself with grief and guilt. It's mum's birthday tomorrow, so we're going to try and make sure she has as nice a day as she possibly can under the circumstances. xx

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Mutt · 29/12/2011 18:03

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Northernlurker · 29/12/2011 18:13

This is an awful thing to happen and there is always a lot of misplaced guilt involved. So sorry. Sad I hope your mum and brother can start to feel easier about it soon.

prayingmantisgroupie · 01/01/2012 20:46

Mutt and Northernlurker - thank you both. I read your post to my mum Mutt, and I think it helped. Both she and my brother seem a little better today - can hardly believe a whole week has gone by already. Time heals all wounds they say, but Lucy will be in our hearts forever. x

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Rhinestone · 02/01/2012 15:17

So sorry. What an awful thing to happen.

Your mum should comfort herself with the fact that Lucy knew she was loved and had a lovely life. I hope your mum gets another dog.