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Separation anxiety

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toboldlygo · 03/11/2011 19:37

Right, separation anxiety. As mentioned on the other thread it?s a very common reason for dogs to be rehomed or abandoned because the results can be utterly devastating. As well as the unacceptable distress for the dog it leads to noise complaints from neighbours and destruction inside the house (can be more extreme than you imagine, I?ve seen pictures of what was previously a solid wood door after a dog finished biting and clawing their way through it).

We all know ?pack theory? is a load of bull but there is a kernel of truth in it in as much as dogs are what you would call a pack animal. They need companionship, human and/or dog, and do not come mentally equipped to deal without it. It?s actually a pretty big deal to expect a dog to be alone for periods of time. I?m also of the opinion that dogs have a poor concept of time ? and of course cannot understand you when you tell them you?re only going out for ten minutes ? and thus every time you leave them the dog might as well assume that you?ve gone forever. This is especially true for rescue dogs who may well have been left for unacceptably long periods of time in their previous home(s), confirming their fear.

As such, for many dogs being able to leave them alone requires an active process of teaching and conditioning. It?s been a long time since I?ve had a puppy so I?ll leave any puppy specific advice to others, though most of this will also ring true for them, and concentrate on adult dogs.

The first step is to create a secure and limited space. For many dogs this will be a crate ? again, there?s been discussion on crates here before if you do a search, crate training requires a conditioning process as well but the long and short of it is that you need to make the crate a wonderful place to be. Cover three sides with a blanket to make a nice den, feed the dog in the crate, give them nice raw bones and stuffed kongs, pop the dog in and out of it at regular intervals, always with treats and toys, close the door briefly while you?re in the room and then immediately open it again, work up to being able to leave the dog in there with the door shut while you go about the house doing chores, making sure the dog can hear you and not see you. This process can take months.

The same applies if you?ve made a safe space somewhere else ? this is usually the kitchen, so the floor is easier to clean. Fit slide or hook bolts at the top of doors so dogs can?t open them or close the area off with stair gates (extra tall ones are available especially for dogs). The smaller the space the better. Fit locks to the fridge, bin and accessible cupboards.

As with the crate process above you need to practice in tiny steps. Start by putting the dog in the crate/safe zone with something really stimulating ? a big raw bone from the butcher is ideal, a kong stuffed with something yummy (and frozen to make it last longer) ? and then stay in view but ignore the dog for a while. Very, very gradually, repeat this process but move a little further away each time ? have the dog sitting in the kitchen chewing their bone while the family sits in the living room and watches TV, a stair gate separating you so the dog can see and hear you but not reach you.

Stair gates are ideal for additionally preventing the dog from following you from room to room which should be discouraged. Basically the aim at this point is to get the dog used to spending time on their own in a room while still being aware that you are in the house, just not being able to reach you. Again, this process can take a long time ? if the dog becomes distressed, you?ve gone too fast.

Some dogs become anxious to triggers like putting on your shoes and picking up the keys. The solution is the same again ? practice doing these things without leaving the house. Put your shoes on, chuck the dog a filled kong and then sit down and watch TV, jangling your keys. Repeat ad nauseum. Practice slamming the door without actually leaving until the dog doesn?t react to door, keys, shoes, coat etc.

When the dog has no reaction to any of these things and can stay in the safe zone alone for short periods while you?re upstairs out of sight and hearing, you start leaving. Initially, you leave for a matter of seconds. Open the door, step out, shut the door, immediately open the door and re-enter. Ignore dog completely. Gradually work up to being able to stand outside for 10, 20, 30 seconds at a time. This process is really tedious, I?ll admit. Again, if the dog shows signs of distress take it right back to the last point. It can take weeks or months to get as far as 10 minutes with a really, really distressed dog. Include any other triggers here ? starting the car engine, for example.

At all times ignore the dog when you return ? the urge is to praise them for their silence, or comfort them for their distress, but these are only confirming to the dog that they were right to fret. Ignore, ignore, ignore until the dog calms down.

Once you get to about 15 minutes with no reaction you can start increasing the time in longer increments. I know this sounds like a really tedious and long process (it is!) but this is the solution to SA.

It goes without saying that the dog must be receiving an appropriate amount of exercise at all times; a tired dog is a good dog. This includes mental stimulation ? an hour?s training class will tire a dog out far more than an hour?s walk. Practice focus training at home, teach your dog daft tricks, set up some agility jumps in the garden, have half an hour of heelwork in the garden with stops, turns, down, send away, teach them new things all the time. Keep them busy! Never leave the dog unless they are physically and mentally tired.

Some people have good results from things like DAP spray/diffuser/collars (NOT spray training collars) Zylkene tablets etc. which are potentially worth investigating.

What have I missed? :o

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RedwingWinter · 03/11/2011 19:46

Excellent post, toboldlygo. We have been through this with our dog. It kills me not to say hello to him immediately when I come back in!

silentcatastrophe · 03/11/2011 19:48

There is also lots of information on the net. APDT, and other professional organisations will have advice. Dogs Today and Your Dog magazines often cover this kind of issue. Yes, I think you've got it covered!

feesh · 03/11/2011 19:51

Excellent post, thank you toboldlygo!

I have a question - does SA always manifest as destructive behaviour? I know (gut feeling) that our dog isn't happy being alone and sometimes she doesn't touch anything we leave for her to keep her busy while we're away, including tasty treats/kongs/stinky bones.

Does this mean she has SA, or does she just take the opportunity for a sleep?

It upsets me a bit to see her go and un-bury something from the garden once we come home, and bring it in the house to enthusiastically chew on. I wish she had eaten it while we were out and it kind of makes me sad to think she didn't feel like she could eat it until we came back home again.

feesh · 03/11/2011 19:52

PS I should add that she is a slightly neurotic saluki mix and we have done lots and lots of alone training with her since she was little. I know that no dogs enjoy being alone, but I'm just wondering what the signs are that your dog is REALLY unhappy or being affected by being left alone.

toboldlygo · 03/11/2011 19:55

feesh - no, it doesn't always mean destructive behaviour. Ignoring everything you've left for her and then rushing to get it when you get back would indicate some degree of anxiety, to me. A lot of people (not saying in this case, but generally) also aren't aware that their dog is howling and barking while they are out, if the neighbours haven't complained.

Any way you can set up a webcam to record while you're out? I have one built into my laptop so just left it running on a high shelf while I was out until I was sure they were ok on their own. Can be quite entertaining to see what they get up to! :)

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feesh · 03/11/2011 19:59

I'll see what I can do on the webcam front. My gut feeling is that she just curls up and does nothing while we're out. We normally leave her in the kitchen, where she is fine and happily chows down on kongs etc. But if I am worried she might need a wee while we're out (e.g. if I couldn't get her to pee in advance or she takes a massive drink just as we are about to leave) we leave her in a different room which has garden access. I think this room stresses her out, as it's when she's in here that she doesn't touch treats etc and I don't even think she takes herself out for a wee as she often goes straight out for one as soon as we get back home.....

hollyfly · 03/11/2011 20:04

So you know about ignoring dog when you come in- Surely you are just punishing them for being happy when they see you again. :s

TBH I just thought that ignoring dogs was part of the alpha pack theory shit. I can see if your dog's fretting it might be best to ignore but surely if you are there the dog isn't fretting??? I just don't see the logic I'm afraid- dogs only connect events if they happen in quick succession- how are they going to be happy when you're out just because you ignore them when you come in? I suspect the de-sensitising thing does a better job than ignoring does.

I'm happy to be told I'm wrong - just flicking through 'In Defence of Dogs' to see if there's anything in there.

hollyfly · 03/11/2011 20:15

ok in defence of dogs says

"the trick is to link such cues with good outcomes- affection and the owner's return- before they can become associated with the negative outcome of separation. Thus: pick up your keys, praise dog (or feed titbit) pick up keys go to door, praise dog, cput keys down etc etc go out for ten mins come back praise dog. If there's any anxiety, go back a step."

As I thought. Praising is the way forward- NOT ignoring. There's no need for this and is a really horrible thing if you think about it. The doggie doesn't know why you are ignoring him and will connect you coming home to no affection. Surely this is a bad thing?

KatharineClifton · 03/11/2011 20:20

Would all rescue dogs who have spent quite some time in pound/rescue have this? Could it just wear off naturally with time?

Could a second dog be the cure?

Thanks for the post - very informative.

toboldlygo · 03/11/2011 20:20

"I suspect the de-sensitising thing does a better job than ignoring does."

Well yes, of course! The ignoring thing is just an addition to the systematic desensitisation which is the crucial part.

The way I see it, you want to encourage the dog to think of you both coming and going as a total non-event, not worthy of their reaction. There's a better description/explanation in The Culture Clash, I think, but I have a comfortable dog on my legs and can't be bothered to get up and fetch it. Blush

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toboldlygo · 03/11/2011 20:31

"The doggie doesn't know why you are ignoring him and will connect you coming home to no affection. Surely this is a bad thing?"

In my opinion the dog will connect you coming home with... well, you coming home. For a dog with SA this is something of a reward in itself.

I do greet my dogs when I get home (if they are calm, sit nicely and wait for me to get my shoes off Grin) but neither currently suffer from SA.

If I think back to my first bitch, rewarding her when I came back while she was in the throes of SA would have heightened her anxiety by confirming that people coming and going was a big event, worthy of a heightened response from her. Instead I wanted her to come to regard this as a completely normal, boring event.

I think you're in danger of anthropomorphising a bit, it is not cruel to not greet a dog, they're not capable of thinking 'oh god, she's ignoring me, what have I done wrong, she doesn't love me'. Plenty of time for affection and cuddles from calm dogs when I've got my shoes and coat off, put a brew on and settled on the sofa.

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goingdownhill · 03/11/2011 20:34

Thank you so much for this really useful post. As you can tell from our other thread SA is making our life hell at the moment. I am going to put these tips into practice from tomorrow. Our kitchen will be converted to his safe place. I just need some larger stair gates as he jumps the regular ones.

I also pondered if a second dog would help the situation, but the fear of two lots of this hell is more than I can contemplate at the moment.

I will increase the amount of mental challenges we give him. He is exercised but I don't think he has enough mental stimulation.

Thank you Smile

toboldlygo · 03/11/2011 20:36

Katharine - no, not all rescue dogs will have SA. Some dogs naturally take to being left alone, some owners desensitise without realising, some breeds of dog are generally better at being left than others. Some dogs will just be anxious for the first few weeks in a new home and settle into a routine with no bother. Some unfortunate few have the anxiety so ingrained that they need a step by step approach to teach them how to cope. As I say, it really isn't a natural thing for a dog to be alone and it's amazing how adaptable they can be in this regard.

A second dog is often a solution but, worst case scenario, you end up with two anxious dogs. This I can see happening if the owner has had a dog from puppyhood and it's ended up with SA - how they think the second pup is going to be unaffected with the exact same treatment is beyond me. However, a rescue dog who's been well assessed and shown to have no problems with SA can often sort the problem for another anxious dog.

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KatharineClifton · 03/11/2011 20:42

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toboldlygo · 03/11/2011 20:43

You're welcome, going. :)

I would heartily encourage you to get a second dog in the long run but leave it until you've got the SA cracked, then speak to a rescue who'll be able to give you a dog that's known to be okay on their own. :)

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goingdownhill · 03/11/2011 20:51

I will continue trying to sort out Tom's separation anxiety. When my husband is back from Afghanistan, and my dd gets her hours in nursery we could consider a second dog. I cannot imagine dragging a reluctant two year old and two dogs at the moment. I would trust Many Tears to steer us towards a family friendly more independent dog when the time comes. Smile

miacis · 03/11/2011 20:55

Excellent post. Just wondering what can trigger SA? Could a dog previously OK at being left end up with it if they had a series of quite quick home moves?

anchovies · 03/11/2011 22:59

Thought I would add a blog post that I have found really useful here

Someone on here also suggested to us the use of a Thundershirt. We have used one for the past couple of days and are seeing an improvement (obviously impossible to know what to attribute this to though) however our dog certainly seems to enjoy wearing it! There is a 45 day money back guarantee so for any dogs/owners suffering with separation anxiety it may be worth a try.

Scuttlebutter · 03/11/2011 23:35

I'm a big advocate of having dogs in multi dog households. While there are undoubtedly many solo dogs who are happy, TBG has correctly stated they are highly social animals and I've seen several dogs solve a number of problems when they've lived with others. Generally, they seem to be happier, and more relaxed - it's very nice to see. If this isn't possible, I think it's worth trying to do as much socialising etc as possible, and this is another benefit of doing regular training classes.

toboldlygo · 04/11/2011 18:04

"Excellent post. Just wondering what can trigger SA? Could a dog previously OK at being left end up with it if they had a series of quite quick home moves?"

One thing I've encountered a lot is when people get a new puppy or dog, or move house, and take a week or two off work to get the dog settled in. Then they suddenly go back to work 9-5 five days a week and the dog is like - whuh?! and starts presenting with SA symptoms.

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