fed up with people being negative :( feeling sad

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were getting a new pup in a week, :)

we have told a few people were getting her, and all of them have been really negative about it, and be like.."what another one?"

we have a 4 yr cocker, who is a angel, and is very good, well trained and generly a lovely dog,

just feeling a little down after eveyone being so negative,

people who have a 2nd (or more) dog, are people like that with you?

xx

Nasty bastards, just because they couldn't cope they're imprinting their feelings onto you.

I only have one dog and people are always asking if and when I'm getting another one. I just tell them that he's an only dog.

When i was expecting my second baby i was called a "daft old bat" by a friends step father. I excommunicated the miserable old git forthwith and suggest you do the same.

We had a couple of the "you must be mad" type comments when we said we were getting another Springer but I just ignored them. I love watching my two play together and I know our 3 yr old dog is happier having the company of the pup than he was before.

Get your puppy and enjoy them. Ignore people who can't be pleased for you.

i do have a young family, (15 month old baby and a 8 yr old) but i know what im doing, my dog will love having a friend,

i know its going to be hard, and my dog was a rescue dog so we missed her puppy days, :( and iam little nervous about the pup but im looking forward to it,

just wish people would think before they moan, or be negative. :(

My children are older at 11 and 12 but my ds 11has ADHD and AS so is a daily challenge to live with. Our dog was also a rescue so like you we missed his puppy days. Our pup is a menace that is always up to mischief whereas the dog has always been a good boy. Its lucky she is so adorable that we can forgive her the chewed shoes, several pieces of eaten homework, paperwork and whatever else she can find lol

im my husbands carer too, he is disabled so i do have a full plate so to speak,

i know its going to be a change for us all, and im really looking forward to the focus the pup will give me, i have my own problems and having a foucus is a realy help for me, but i dont show my problems to friends so they dont know,

so i wasnt expecting any negative reactions,

dustystarry did you find it hard? x

I got a ot of that (mainly from my mother), my 2nd dog is 4 months old, 1st dog is 20 months, the minute we got her I knew we would get another, walks with 2 dogs are so much fun, watching them play together. they really arent that much more work than one but for twice the pay off.

I agree with ditavon that 2 isnt really much harder than one. Our puppy is a handful but I deliberately chose the most dominant bitch in the litter to make sure she could cope with how nuts it can get it our house sometimes. It took longer to get her house trained than Id planned and she's terrible for chewing things but she's so much fun and so affectionate that she more than makes up for the bad stuff. My H was worried that as I was already stressed that getting her would only add to it but its actually the opposite. When Im having a crap day I can just sit and watch my daft dogs for a while and they will always do something to make me laugh and lift my mood. I wouldn't be without them :)

i totaly get that, i have PTSD and severe depression and my cocker has been my rock, without her i would be a even bigger mess, and im thinking a friend for her is my way of saying thank you to her, (i know it sounds silly)

but i get some much relife from my dog :) and she realy lifts my spirts,

thank you dustystarry i was starting to doubt and was starting to think friends were right with there "what another one" :)

7 days till we get her and im sooo excited, we've been wating for her to be ready for a month x

What breed is your new pup

she is a border collie husky x (more collie than husky)

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She sounds lovely. I expect she'll be quite a handful with that combination but with training she will be fab.

i had border collies as a child, and luckly she is only a little husky as dad is half husky, im really looking forward to the training, and my cocker is very well trained so i hope she follows :) lol wishfull thinking i think x

I found that our pup has learnt lots from our dog but that if I want to do specific training with her I need to do it without him as she gets distracted and they get silly.

oh def, im going to train her with out my cocker around and take her too puppy classes too, :)

thank you for the advice, its very much aprecated, :) x

there is a dog where I walk sometimes that is a collie X husky X german shepherd, he is beautiful.

Well I'm jealous. I'd love another dog to be friends with my Lab/Collie X but it's not possible at the moment. Most dog owners in our village have at least two. I hope she settles in well.

i have 3 dogs and it is lovely to watch them playing. i love having a few dogs but it is hard work. to be a voice of reason it is more work having more than one dog. each dog deserves to have some one to one time training every day. two of my dogs i had when they were puppies (one was only about 5-6wks old when dumped by some scumbag) and puppies are hard work. i dont ever want to go through the first 18mths with a pup again. not only are they hard work but you cannot go for a 10mile walk to use up their energy because of their joint development. so you have all the work but with less of the joy. have you thought about what will happen with pup while you are walking your older dog, who will need considerably more exercise than the pup for the first year or so of pup's life? also, you will need to train pup independent of older dog so that pup bonds with you. it can work but hope you are prepared for the extra work. good luck

thank you everyone,

im going to take the older dog for a walk first, and then take the pup out for little one when i bring the older one back, hubby is home with me all the time so he will be here with the older one and can give her some love while i take the pup out so she doesnt feel left out.

i knows it going to be hard work for a little while, but i think a little(lot, lol) hard work will be worth while with all the good stuff,

my older dog is very independnt and likes to sit in the garden on her own, so i will have time to give to the pup, but on the other hand she is very much my dog and gets very jealous so im going to have to find the ballence with her,

let the scaryness begin :)

xx

fab, hope it all works out okay for you. fwiw i am a carer and have mobility restrictions myself now. it can work out and i wouldnt be without my dogs now, they bring me so much joy (just felt i should point out pitfalls)

chickchickchicken, thank you x

was just down after everyone being so negative, xx

I totally get this; I had just the same when I announced we were getting our puppy last year (she's now all grown up!). We have an older dog of 9. I'd just been through an awful traumatic late miscarriage after 8 years of trying and IVF and I desperately needed something to hold on to in my life as I was such a mess.

Friends just said things like "are you mad?" and "you'll never cope with it" and worst of all, "you'll be rehoming the first one, then".

In the end they were all wrong. She's been my lifesaver, my rock. She was a pretty demanding puppy and adolescent, much harder work than our older dog, and that was actually great, just what I needed. It meant I had to take her to lots of training classes and put lots of work into her and gave me a real focus.

We now have two very much loved dogs and have proved the naysayers wrong. But I still remember all those negative comments. Enjoy your new dog, you'll have a great time. :)