lost my little pooch on sunday - cant function

[ThatVikRinA22]

how do you get past this?

i lost my dog on sunday - he had a massive fit and just didnt come back. he died in my arms and he went really quickly, but he was my baby. literally my baby substitute - i wanted another baby and couldnt so i got him, 10 years ago.

i know people probably think this is pathetic but i just cant function. work sent me home on monday. ive got another dog besides him but now i know how it feels when they go im dreading her going already, the house feels so odd and my dd is devastated. she has had a couple of days off school but now people are being horrible about that and she is upset enough.

how do you get past this? yesterday was just awful. i could still smell him on his collar. im a wreck. its ridiculous. when does it get better?

My girlie is going to be pts at some point this week. she has cancer and she can't wee properly any more. Bitch hasn't even gone yet and I am in tears.
She has lived with my mother for 8 years as our garden isn't big enough to have had her live here.

The next visit to my mum will be horrid.

((hugs))

I'm so sorry VITT.

I've been there 3 times now and it was worse the first time (though she was my favourite). I found my lovely doggies collars today which I'd put into individual sealed plastic bags to preserve their smells and that kept the smells there for lots of years and can be very comforting, so it might be worth considering?

It does get easier to live with their absence, but it does take a while. Be glad that he was your companion and that he had a great 10 years with you.x

. I really feel for you. I have an old boy of 15, and I am already dreading his exit. I guess the fact he went quickly is a blessing to him, but a huge shock to you- at least I have had time to get my head round the fact that old boy isn't going to around a whole lot longer.

It does get better, though. Like any kind of grief, eventually you will stop hurting so much and be able to remember the happy times with a smile. The 10 years that you spent with him will eventually become more memorable than the time you have spent without him, if you see what I mean.

In the meantime, allow yourself your grief, and don't let people undermine your feelings with "it's just a dog" Most pet-owners will understand what you are going through and have sympathy. Take care of yourself.

thankyou,
need bed now as not slept brilliantly since sunday but will bob back tomorrow.

secretnutellafix - sorry about your dog. not sure i could have coped knowing when it was gonna happen but id have done the same if he was suffering. (hugs back)

I know exactly how you feel at the moment.

My darling cat of 13 was pts on Sunday night.She seemed fine..my DH saw her urinate without moving on Sunday afternoon and wem ade an ote o check her after trick or treating as she went running under the bed.
Sunday night he checked her and she was hardly moving so took her to emergency vet.
Turned out she was very poorly and we thought pts was the best for her.
I have been very upset the last few days..mostly because my DH arranged for the vet to cremate her and as it was emergency vets many miles away we didnt know where she would finally end up.I wanted her back hme with us.
Anyway today my DH emailed the local pet crematorium and asked them what we could do as he thought she was already cremated.The lovely man at the crem called the vets and it turns out shes still there.So we have now arranged for her to be picked up tomorrow and be cremated by them..she will be joining my lovely dog that passed away 5 years ago.
This has gave me more comfort and I feel a little happier knowing she will be here wigh us.
I think I have found it hard too because it was so quick and I still expect to see her everywhere.
Anyway..just to let you know you are not alone and I understand exactly x

My puppy died unexpectedly at 7 months old and it literally tore my world apart. I loved him so much I didn't think I would ever get over him dying.
It's been just over 5 months since that awful day and i still shed some tears for him.

It helped me slightly to get another puppy although I am often afraid he will die too. Infact, I am doubting myself for getting him as I know how much pain I'll be in when he does die. I convinced myself that the few months I will probably miss him drastically for will be worth the years we spent together. I am hoping I have years with him unlike the 5 short but wonderful months I spent with my previous puppy.

There is no time limit on getting over a pet dying. You can get counselling for it if you feel it will help you or your dd. It's very hard for people without pets to understand or sympathise with you. Do not worry about those people, a pet is a member of your family so when they due, you need to grieve.

Take care x

Oh Vicar

I am so sorry. All I can say is that you do get past it, impossible as that may seem right now. In time the pain fades and you are left with all your happy, precious memories.

I've had, and lost, many dogs and despite the devastation when they go, I still want to have dogs in my life.

You need to give yourself time and space to grieve properly for a dog who meant so very much to you.

Sending you hugs x

So sad to hear your news Vicar. It does get better with time, and like Bella said you are left with all the happy memories.

Like the time he ate the electric cable/telephone/remote control.

I have been through it a few times now and it hurts so much. Lost my 10yr old German Shepherd a year and a half ago, the pain has eased but I still miss him so so much. My children were devastated, they both have photographs framed in their bedrooms and I know my DS has a little chat to Kaiser often.

I'm so sorry Vicar.

You're not being at all pathetic. Allow yourself to grieve,and don't feel bad about it.

It does get better though I promise,and in time you'll find yourself smiling more often than crying when you think of him,though there'll probably still be the occasional tears,they'll be outnumbered by the smiles.

So sorry to hear about your dog Vicar. I have no advice as I am in the same situation having lost my oldest dog, who was 12, on October 2nd.

He died in a similar fashion to your boy and it is very shocking and upsetting. They are part of your family and as LetThereBeRock says you need time to grieve.

The first week was awful - at times it almost felt as bad as when I lost my db, but a month on and I am still really upset about it and get tearful from time to time but it doesn't feel quite so raw.

thank you all for being so kind, and it does help to know im not being daft, and that im not alone in feeling such overwhelming grief at his loss. im waking in the night and crying for him. then i suddenly panicked the day after we buried him just in case id got it wrong...i know i hadnt but i didnt get him checked by a vet, and i got myself into a cold sweat thinking maybe id buried him alive or something.
DH had to reassure me that he was most definitely gone, which i knew.

i just cant imagine life without him. he was my little heat seeking love missile...the runt of the litter, he was as scruffy as they get but i just loved him. my girl dog is lovely but she wasnt mine from the off....she was a rescue at 6 months where as he was mine from being 12 weeks old and he was my dog through and through.

ill await the day this doesnt feel quite so awful. i think if id known how bad it is when they go id have had a rethink before getting them. but thank you all for your kind words, i dont think anyone else understands.

He sounds like a very special boy Vicar.

I know what you mean about not knowing how bad it was going to be, losing them, I had exactly the same thoughts but when you weigh it up against all the years of love, fun and companionship you have then I think it is worth the horridness at the end.

I also understand what you mean about worrying you had got it wrong, I was exactly the same even though rationally you know you didn't and he had gone.As my dog also died at home,I felt I wanted the vet to double check, just to be sure.

You are definitely not being daft to feel so upset - you have lost a member of your family and it takes time to adjust to being without them.

Oh Vicar, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

I remember when my first dog died, I was 16 and he'd been my dog since I was 3. I thought I would never get over it - the grief was all consuming for ages. But eventually I could look back with happiness that I'd had him, though I still miss him a little bit sometimes even now.

Like you, I got a puppy this year really as a baby substitute. I had a horrible miscarriage in the spring and knew that was that for having a baby. The puppy has been a lifesaver for me. She's my baby doggie and I absolutely adore her. Sometimes I panic because, unlike a baby, I'm going to have to cope with her death one day. Despite that, I wouldn't miss the wonderful times with her for anything.

Your dog gave you so much and I'm sure you gave him so much too. I don't think you're pathetic at all. It's a bereavement of a very real part of the family and that's going to take a long time. But gradually you will think about all the wonderful stuff more and the grief will become less all-consuming. Be gentle on yourself and give yourself time. x

I know exactly how you feel and it's horrible.

I had our little dog who was 5 and a half years old put to sleep on Thursday as she had had several fits over a week and the vet advised us that it would be the kindest thing to do as it became obvious that she would not recover. She had had an accident earlier this year and suffered from a head injury. We had her treated at a referral centre, hugely expensive, but worth every penny because it meant we got to spend 9 more months with her.

We are all devastated and telling our four children was the worst thing I have ever had to do. They are inconsolable. She was such an important part of our family. I am really shocked at how upset I feel. It feels as though a member of the family has died and I don't think I will ever get over it. I can't wait for this aching to stop.

I just wanted to let you know that I know how it feels and that you're not alone. I think it helps knowing that.