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advise and encourgament for getting a puppy

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littlemisslost · 11/09/2010 18:14

I am strongly considering getting a puppy as my dd has been dog mad forever lol and me and dh are both very fond of dogs but we have 3 cats and not a massive garden by any means! This isnt a worry to me as were planning on moving next year anyways specifically for a bigger garden amongst other things. I am just a bit worried about the responsibility of a puppy, training it and all the horror stories lately about dogs attacking children NOT JUST STAFFIES! Hmm we have looked into it alot and are after a Lakeland terrier as they appear to have a great temperament, are not too big and don't shed.
Questions: Are they really good company for a child (she is an only child and Im hoping it will be good for her)
Is it really down to how you treat them and training them as to whether they attack?
Is it lovely having a little pet dog Smile

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assumpta · 11/09/2010 19:22

Hi, we just got our puppy last Saturday. She is lovely. We thought about it long and hard and although the children can be responsible for some things, ultimately it is up to me and dh to do most of it, which is fair enough. I am paranoid to make sure she is properly trained, there is no way I want a dog that does not do what she is told, and I hope that training classes and perseverance from me will do that. I want everyone to like her, not just us. I do realise that I will sound like a broken record for many months to come! We have a friend that has an only child, they said it was, without question, the best thing for them. We only spoke about it last week. Good luck!

shivster1980 · 11/09/2010 19:25

Hello, I will try and help you. Not an expert but a fairly recent puppy owner (he is 16 motnhs now), although my family had dogs when I was growing up.

BIG QUESTION:- How old is your DD? This makes a big difference. Under 4 + dog = managable but hard work, Under 3 + dog = possible nightmare IMO.

My DS was just 3 when pup came home, and it was rather manic at times. Puppies are very bouncy, and energetic, they tend to see small children as playthings (other puppies really) and their highpitched squeals really excite dogs. We have been ok, but ideally it would have been good to have waited for a pup until he was a little older.

If your DD is older then why not consider a rescue dog? There are some gorgeous dogs waiting for homes and you could avoid the toilet training, and basic good manners if you rehomed the correct dog. Having said that your cats may rule an older dog out.

RSPCA guidelines say that a dog should not be left alone with a child EVER. No matter the breed, temprament etc. Although our dog is a soft and gentle soul we always adhere to this.

Think about holidays. Will you want to use a kennels? We take our dog with us - which obviously means that we have to go to pet friendly places and plan our days with the dog in mind. BTW I am not being negative about kennels at all, childhood dogs were kennelled I just couldn't leave current dog in kennels.

Think about grooming too. We have a low shedding dog but therefore the nature of his coat means he needs regular grooming to keep him matt free.

All in all I really would never be without my dog. He fits into our family well and his relationship with our DS is growing daily. I firmly believe animals to be great for teaching children empathy and getting the whole family fit (Don't forget the walks!) Grin

Scuttlebutter · 11/09/2010 21:38

If your DD loves dogs, there are lots of things you can do to see how this might work before taking on a dog full time. Many rescues and dogs homes are desperate for people to come and walk the dogs - why not encourage your DD to get involved in this on a regular basis? It could also be a good way to assess her enthusiasm when it is pouring with rain, cold and muddy. Part of owning a dog is this responsibilty - so it will be good to see how she reacts.

You could also consider fostering a dog - there are many breed rescues or other reputable charities who would be delighted to help you - you'd get full back up, food and vets bills are paid, and again it's a good way to see how dogs fit with your lifestyle/cats etc. Many charities are desperate for foster homes with children and cats - you will be welcomed with open arms.

Finally, and I know lots of others will say this too, please consider a rescue dog if you decide to take on a dog permanently. There are so many beautiful, loving, well trained, young dogs in the care of charities and pounds that just need a second chance through no fault of their own.

As others have said, owning a dog is a commitment that changes your lifestyle but it brings huge rewards. Please don't take on a dog unless you are 100% committed. Without knowing your DD's age she could have grown up and left home while you are still looking after the dog. Lifespan does depend on breed and other factors, but lots of terriers go on well into their teens - one of my friends has a lurcher who is nearly 16 and still bouncing around.

Lastly, there is no such thing as a dog that doesn't shed Grin They may shed less, but they still leave hair everywhere and still need grooming/bathing regularly, and they can get muddy/stinky etc. (sighs resignedly, considering the three sheets that have been put on the bed this week, owing to one greyhound's muddy hole digging habits.)

Vallhala · 11/09/2010 22:11

As usual, ScuttleButter's advice is perfect.

WRT aggressive dogs... there were two awful attacks recently, as I'm sure you know. You probably got to hear of them through reading the papers or watching the news.

What you didn't get to hear of was news of the other eight million dogs estimated to be in the UK... because they did less newsworthy things like chase sticks and cock legs!

The very vast majority of dogs are just like mine and Scuttle's. Family pets. Forget the fact that 2 of my 3 are German Shepherds, the breed is irrelevant. What matters is that they are as daft as brushes! IME the majority of that small number of dogs who are aggressive have been either appallingly badly trained, using the wrong methods and often aggression, or they have been abused. Yes, there will always be some dogs, a tiny proportion out of 8 million, who are aggressive for no apparent reason. Breed, however, doesn't come into it.

Ask rescue... they'll tell you that they know stroppy Jack Russells and gentle giant Rotties. I do too!

I can't guarantee that any dog you take on will never bite. Nor can the Chief Executive of the Dogs Trust or even the queen. What I can tell you is how to absolutely minimise any risk - and that starts BEFORE you even get a dog.

This includes making sure that you all want a dog and that YOU will care for him when your DD has tired of the novelty. Being prepared for puddles on the floor, muddy feet, hair and walking in the rain. Being damn sure you won't get rid of him just because you are expecting/have had another baby. Being sure you can afford the vaccinations, kennel fees if needed when you go on holiday, vet bill insurance - FGS if you have a dog, get him insured. A simple broken limb can set you back many hundreds of pounds, if not more. It means being prepared to train a dog, at classes if you haven't the experience to do it yourself... and it means training your child on how to approach a dog, when to leave him alone, not to touch him when he's asleep, not to pull him around and so on.

It means doing your homework about which breed to choose... or whether you would be happy to give a mixer a good home. It entails finding a rescue, if that's the route you intend to go down, and I seriously recommend it, which will vaccinate, neuter, chip, homecheck and insists on taking the dog back at any stage in his life if you can't keep him. It means being totally honest to that rescue and going there with an open mind, prepared to let them guide you... and prepared to go in looking for a collie and come out with a German Shepherd! (After all, this is about the dog which is best for you and your family, not the dog which looks the cutest).

THEN, when you've found the perfect dog, the fun begins BUT still YOU have to put in the effort and the patience, the training, the time and the love, as do all the family. Do it properly and the risk is extremely negligable and the reward amazing. :)

Val (owner, network dog rescuer, fosterer and rescue volunteer... and nutcase!).

littlemisslost · 13/09/2010 18:40

Thanks for your replies: right I will respond to each point
dd is 6 years old
We did get a rescue dog 2 years ago and had a very bad experience and said we will not do that again and want a puppy so we know exactly where its come from
I am aware of the walking and we are all looking forward to walks and we live right next to large parkland.
I have been looking on you tube about each breed we have considered and keep coming back to Bichon Frise and lakeland terrier because of size, maulting, temperament with kids etc but my husband prefers look of Lakeland.We just need to find one now I think, lots seem to be cross bred or ridiculous ammounts of money or miles away lol

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littlemisslost · 13/09/2010 18:47

I will add we have been looking into breed etc for about a year now ever since we decided to try again after the last disaster with the rescue dog so we are definately not looking for cutest etc.

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