4 month old deciding not to sleep anymore

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I have a 4.5 month old baby and it doesn’t matter what time we take her to bed I feel like I’m fighting with her all night. I’m currently 4 hours into a full blown fight with my daughter who’s refusing to sleep. I’ve tried everything from giving her a bath, giving her a bottle, staying in a low light room, having no distractions, I’m losing the will to live. Im exhausted & feel like I have a newborn with the lack of sleep I’m having. My partner works and he’s trying to help out as best as he can but with 4am wake ups for work he can’t sit up all night fighting with her. Throughout the day she’s only having 20 minute naps so I know it’s impossible to try and catch up on sleep throughout the day. I’m worn out, I’m emotional, everything is getting to me and I’m too ashamed to ask for help from family as I feel like I’m failing as a first time mum. Does anyone have any tips as to what I can do with her. A few weeks ago she started just falling asleep on a night and would sleep all night but recently it’s like she doesn’t want to sleep & I feel like I’m trying for hours just to get her to sleep.

Have you tried the rusk bashed to death then put in bottle , obvs need to make the teat hole bigger

Look up 4 month sleep regression

This is the 4 month sleep recession. It’s totally normal, and it’s not you! It’s hard. It’s your first real taste of understa Everything is a phase with babies - good sleep, bad sleep, toddler tantrums etc etc it all doesn’t last because your baby is always changing.

Try looking at the ‘beyond sleep training’ support which helps explain biologically normal infant sleep. You might need to actually reduce amount of sleep you’re aiming for to get better sleep as sleep needs are changing - you don’t have a sleepy newborn any more.

And it’s very dangerous to put anything in your babies milk - please don’t give baby rusks etc until they are 6 months old as they won’t be ready for it yet!!