Newborn been awake since 4.30pm I haven't slept more than 4 hours a night in 3 weeks

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Feel like I'm going insane

Second child but feel like this time is so much harder

I'm so tired

Husband sorts toddler so I do nights on own as he is back at work

Know baby is only 3 weeks but finding so hard and can't see light at end of tunnel

Miss playing with my toddler and spending time with him but have no energy.

Please remind me it gets easier

Your husband needs to help

I understand he's at work but he doesn't get to have 8 hours sleep whilst you're suffering

I'm so sorry it's hard at the moment

Maybe do split nights?
Even breastfeeding this can be done

I hope it passes soon - your toddler will still know they're loved

Breastfeeding including tandem feeding here. I also haven't slept more than four hours in a row for three years now. I co-sleep with the youngest so barely wake which helps though. I also agree that splitting nights with your husband can help and of course baby won't be wanting milk every couple of hours forever so you'll soon be able to get your husband doing one of the re-settles, or you nap in the day etc if someone else can be around. It is hard but getting sleep at other times can help. I used to ask my husband to get up with the toddler and then sometimes take the baby after the early morning feed as occasionally then I'd get another two or three hour chunk of sleep say 5-8am. It's not the same as having 8 hours a night of course, but having 6-8 hours in various split chunks still allows your body some recharge and recovery. Soon your baby will start with the witching hours so you could also potentially go to bed with baby for the final big feed say about 9/10 and then possibly get a good stretch then, broken through the night but then another good stretch early hours.

If you have another room consider feeding baby then go to sleep elsewhere so your husband does some of the nappy changing and settling after feeds (if needed, my youngest would immediately go back to sleep with the boob whereas eldest would not at all).

Hope these help. It definitely gets easier. The guilt hasn't here though! A quick motherly search will show up good articles on how to make your toddler feel loved despite now coming second a lot.

Over the weekend he must do nights so you can get more sleep, and in the week at least once.

It will pass! You’ll get through it of course. But it’s bloody awful at the time I know ☕️🫖💐

Thanks all. My son is suffering from hrorednsou gas so every wake is 2 plus hours. Currently had 12-1.40 sleep and been awake since then

No leg pumping cycling etc works

Just feel so down

You need to speak to your husband and sort a new schedule or you'll go insane.
Talk to him asap and come up with a new schedule to get you more sleep.

No tips, just solidarity.

I'm 4 months in with baby 2, I have no idea how I'm functioning on so little sleep a night.

My first didn't sleep until 16 months. I don't know how I did it?!

Is there anyone that can come today and watch the baby while you get some sleep?
If you were my friend, I'd do it.

FWIW my 3yo and 15mo (23 month gap) have been up since 4.30. Although they both generally sleep through until 550. So yes, it gets easier. Can DH take them out to the park / for a walk at the weekend so you can have an hour or two to yourself? I used to look forward to the two days my toddler was in nursery, then I could "sleep when the baby slept".

Hang in there, it does get easier. It's harder the second time around because you're running around after a toddler/preschooler in the day so there really is little rest in the day. It goes so fast though

Share the wake-ups with your DH if he's around, even if he works don't let that be an excuse. When baby wakes up, feed in bed/lying down if possible to maximise your rest time. If baby is still awake after an hour then tag with your DH and let him try while you get some sleep.

If baby is gassy, could it be worth getting your latch checked by a lactation consultant?

Does your eldest go to nursery? Can you put them in an extra day to take some pressure off you in the day?

It's exhausting but I promise it gets more manageable and sleeping does improve. My eldest started sleeping through when I was pregnant with #2 when pregnancy was keeping me awake at night, and then #2 arrived and was awake a lot. I've had my first full night sleep last night in close to 5yrs and weirdly I felt so much worse for it 😂

This.

If not today, then another day very soon.

Ask your husband to take some leave.

You'll feel a lot better if others share the load for a bit and you can reset.