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Feel like I'm forgetting everything and everything is going wrong

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TNmumof3 · 15/09/2024 00:40

Hello I was not sure where to post this but its keeping me awake and my mind is in overload 😖, I've got two DS's 6 and 5 and got a 8 month old DD
Lately I feel everything is in chaos , our house is being renovated and I've just come off mat leave when DD was 7 months. Since then I feel like everyday is a mad rush and chaotic and finding work and balancing home abit of a challenge. I had very severe PND with my second born and although I felt good lately, today has been the worst day so far, everything has just gone wrong and I feel like I haven't accomplished anything ,

fast forward My two DS's were invited to a lovely party and I had it in my head it was today, I thought I had looked at the invite thoroughly and had known about it for two weeks and my two DS'S were very excited and looking forward to it .

I had done two nightshifts and don't think I was thinking properly, I went round to the house and it seemed very quiet , I had a sinking feeling , somehow I had got it wrong I knocked on the door and the mum answered and the party was infact the day before 😓 the mum was very understanding and was so lovely and compassionate about my mess up.

However I feel like a failure, my eldest son has ASD and gave himself a nose bleed ( he picks his nose and skin when stressed and anxious), on this poor ladies door step and my other DS was crying. After we went to the park and both were crying and very upset, my DS with ASD had a full meltdown when we got home and said I forget everything and was very angry I had got the dates of the party mixed up.
I feel like everything I do is wrong and I'm forgetting everything sometimes I feel like I have early onset dementia 😩
I messed up badly today and my ASD DS had a bad evening because of me. I know it's not a question but wanted to get this off my chest I feel so low and feel like I'm failing as a parent. I don't want to let my children down.

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AderynBach · 15/09/2024 01:06

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. I can really relate to the struggle of keeping everything clear in my mind and that horrible feeling when something like this happens. Please be kind to yourself, it sounds like you work incredibly hard and do so much for your family. We all mess up sometimes. Life can be overwhelming Flowers
For your son with ASD, is there a possibility of arranging something special with his friend whose party he missed? He might prefer to do something quiet with just the two of them anyway?

TNmumof3 · 15/09/2024 07:21

AderynBach · 15/09/2024 01:06

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. I can really relate to the struggle of keeping everything clear in my mind and that horrible feeling when something like this happens. Please be kind to yourself, it sounds like you work incredibly hard and do so much for your family. We all mess up sometimes. Life can be overwhelming Flowers
For your son with ASD, is there a possibility of arranging something special with his friend whose party he missed? He might prefer to do something quiet with just the two of them anyway?

Thankyou so much for replying , everyone makes mistakes but feel like I'm making an awfull lot lately trying not to be so hard on myself but feel so guilty I got the Days mixed up and my boys were so upset we did say we will arrange to meet up next weekend so it has worked out all ok but it just keeps playing in my mind
Thankyou again for replying feels good to talk about it and know I'm not alone xx

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lovemyboyz247 · 15/09/2024 08:01

Please be kind to yourself.

We all have days like this. You sound like a caring hard working mum who tries their best for her children I'm glad you have managed to arrange something nice for next weekend but I understand you are feeling bad about what has happened.

Do you think having a planner would help? I used to keep dates in my head, but I did find myself missing things and always double checking dates. I started using a planner a few years ago and write everything on there for each member of the family and I feel it's helps to keep ourselves organised.

anxietyaardvark · 15/09/2024 08:02

Please don't be so hard on yourself. It sounds like you have a lot on.

I'm in a similar situation. I work full time, have three kids, ASC kids as well.

Sending you and your lovely kids a big hug.

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