Hi everyone, this is my first mumsnet post!
FTM here, never even held a baby since I had my own 15 weeks ago!
She initially slept well, waking 3/4 times a night as ebf which was great. Barely any resettling required.
Since 10 weeks old, she has a quiet initial stint of anywhere between 2.5 and 5 hours. After the first night feed she then begins to grunt/thrash around an hour after going to sleep. This consists of raising arms and legs and almost slamming them back down on mattress, turning her head constantly, rubbing her face with arms/hands, lots of grunting noises, the odd cry, all before stopping completely for 15-20 seconds and then restarting. I know she is asleep still as her eyes are closed but I usually pick up at this point because she is noisy and my partner is drives for a living.
When I pick up I offer a feed which she will always take, will feed for her usual time and fall asleep. I then wait until she’s in a deeper sleep (20 mins) to make a transfer to the next to me cot. Then the process starts again in 40 mins time so I am shattered. This can mean I’m awake up to 10 times in the night with just 40 mins rest between wakes.
Since then, I thought that she might not be hungry at every grunt in the night and I’m probably doing it wrong!
The last week or so, I’ve been settling her and putting her back before she wakes properly for a feed. This could be anywhere between 1.5 and 2.5 hours.
After this feed, I wind/cycle legs which often releases some gas, but she won’t then be put down for another 20 mins (which is fine).
My questions are I guess, am I doing this all wrong?
Should she still be grunting and trashing around so much during the night? Is active sleep still a thing at this age?
Does this sound like the 4 month sleep regression? If so, is there an average length of how long it will go ok for?
Does anyone have any tips? I would just like to feel a little more rested in the mornings, and I know she’s definitely tired of waking so often because she’ll nap very soon after waking for the day!