AIBU to want in-laws to do an overnight during sleep regression?

[Hunterrose]

Our 1yo DD has started through a sleep regression - getting up in the middle of the night for 2/3 hours before going back to sleep (usually in our bed). She was meant to stay over at her grandparents on Saturday to give us a break. We are both back at work so it has been a difficult week. DH doesnt want her to go to his parents on Sat, he thinks its not fair on them. They are both retired but still fairly fit and healthy and im sure they would survive one night of broken sleep to give us a break. AIBU to think we should still send her to theirs?
Thanks, from a tired mum zzz

Imo your dc will sleep through at dgps house. So def send her..
Then update and let me know I was correct!

I’m with your husband. I think it’s unfair. I’d at least tell them,

You need to warn your PiL about the current sleep pattern, and see if they are still happy to have her.

My rugrats always seem to sleep well there (my 11-12 hr sleeper with one or two stirs slept 13 hours no stirrings!) I don’t know if it’s magic or they’re just not as sensitive but it happens every time. As long as they’re aware of what they’re letting themselves in for I say go for it!

Sorry - I know you're probably desperate for the break - but I don't think it's fair either. You could explain the current sleep situation and ask if they're ok with it but only if it's done carefully to ensure they genuinely and actually feel they can say no.

My sister occasionally took my non-sleeper. For some reason, they always slept soundly when I wasn’t there. Likewise, they wouldn’t sleep in my arms and would thrash and fuss, but once when a stranger offered to hold them in a restaurant, they fell straight asleep.

My sister’s kids were always up at the crack of dawn, but at mine I had to wake them.

Take the offer of the help. You’ll feel so much better for it!

Ask them.

If they are uncertain, DH gets up with her and you sleep.

Sorry I should have been clearer - they do know the situation, we are all pretty close and chat most days about how shes slept etc. But you have a very valid point as they are the type of people that wouldnt say no even if they wanted to which can be difficult to navigate!
Anyway DH has now messaged to say she isnt coming, and they havent insisted she still go so maybe they are relieved after all... they have offered to take her during the day Sunday so maybe ill have an afternoon nap instead 😁

I think them taking her for the afternoon instead is a great compromise! I hope you can get a kip in!