Little one wakes so much not sure I can leave him for a hen?

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It’s my best friends hen do when my little one will be 10 months. He is currently 8 months and wakes up during the night to feed quite a bit. Sometimes it’s just to settle and sometimes it’s because he’s hungry. We are definitely going through the sep anxiety but I am so worried about what to do for the hen do? I have left him for 4 days work so far but even then my MIL bought him to me at lunch time for feeds.

DS has been EBF but loves his solids!! He has never taken a bottle but does love his sippy cup so we need to try giving formula / expressed milk through that.

My worry is the nighttime.

I am maid of honour so will be very hands on with the weekend. We have hired 3 apartments on a shared site, and as some people have dropped out one isn’t being used. My mum has offered to come stay with my little one so I can just come back and feed him but not sure it will go down well him being there? It’s about 1 hour / 1.5 hours from home.

I want my bestie to know I’m there for her but at the same time I need to put DS first.

I think my options are:

1. I just go for the evenings and days and go home to sleep (about an hours drive)

1. Mum brings DS to stay the night so I can put him down and go back when he wakes. Husband takes him for the day time? Or husband comes to stay?

1. Husband stays in an Airbnb close by and I don’t drink so can go there if needed?

1. Husband stays at home with baba and if it gets so bad I just drive home or he drives to me, bring him to me in the morning for a feed and cuddle?

1. Go away for the whole weekend and leave him with hubby and hope he’ll be okay (I am really worried this could have a lasting effect on him though if he becomes distraught)

Help!!

Personally I'd have baby on site and feed him when needs be. My bridesmaid did this on my hen do and it was absolutely 100% fine. She nipped off a few times to feed the baby and was able to be with him overnight.
It sounds as though either your mum i or DH could do that and you can still be a brilliant bridesmaid without worrying how they are managing at home.

Hubby stays at home with baby and you enjoy your weekend.

Baby's food is mostly solids at that age, milk overnight is not nutritionally essential. Hubby and baby) need to learn how to settle without a boob on standby.

I say that as a bf mum myself, I'd have killed for an opportunity to night-wean at 10m, but instead I had to fight with my exdh as I was literally on my knees from lack of sleep.

Hubby should be instructed to reassure you all is well even if he wakes every 30 mins for the whole weekend.

Your husband needs to step up, between now & then he needs to get used to settling him at night, why do you need that consider getting your mum involved, why can’t your husband look after him whether that’s nearby or at home?