Autism programme BBC3

[lottiejenkins]

Anyone else watch?
I thought that Oliver was badly let down by Asda,,,,,,,, I thought Tom's mum had a very negative approach to her son. I thought that the young couple were so sweet together!

missed it , dh had sport on..
sooo wanted 2 see it .

I watched it.

I felt so sad for Oliver. He was so desperate for work and must have been over the moon when they said that he would have a job with ASDA. It was awful seeing him going from such positive thinking to being so depressed when they didn't call.

It was great to see Tom finally find some friends. He was like a completely different person when he was with his band. His mum looked so much happier too.

Alex and Kirsty were great together. I hope they get the chance to spend more time together in the future.

I also watched it, I saw the first episode last year too.

I think that the programme was very good and highlighted some of the main issues of becoming/being an adult and having ASD.

I am really angered that Oliver didn't get a job. I really think he would make a great employee in quite a few different roles. It was saddening to see him sink into such a depressed state. I really think he is a credit to his parents and I hope that one day soon a company or business will realise how much of an asset he is.

It was great to see Tom make a group of friends. I was quite surprised to learn that his placement in the special residential unit was so short but I'm glad that he is doing well at college. I found it difficult to watch when his mum was saying that she thinks he'll never make it anywhere and he couldn't survive in sheltered accommodation. Obviously she knows her son more than we viewers of the programme do but the negativity was difficult to watch.

Last year I didn't realise how old Alex was. In this programme he was 25 and I thought he was about 20. It's great to see that he is doing well in his job and he has found a company who are willing to look past a certain view of autism to see that in fact Alex can make a good employee.
His relationship with Kirsty is very sweet and I'm very glad they have found each other. I found his mother suffocating and quite negative. She came across as being worried that Alex would find some other type of life which would involve her less and she was trying to stop this. However, I imagine she has had a lifetime of protecting him and can't/won't let go of that.

A very good programme.

It was the negativity that upset me, and in front of him so he could hear it!

Was that that year on one?

Didn't watch it.

Started to watch the other one and it upset me too badly. I fear so much for my boys' futures. Watching things like this make me worry. Imagine my boys lonely, struggling, you know?

Yes it was and i know what you mean. My son is gradually learning to look after himself but it is going to be a struggle.

I actually saw Olly being filmed outside Asda and thought YAY 'Someone's seen how dedicated he would be and put some faith in him' but was very when it didn't come through.

Was it just me or anyone else think Tom's mother is just sooo negative to him, telling him that he can't do this that and the other without trying to help him or anything?

I said that in my first post. I thought she was wayyyyyyyyyyyy to negative. Poor Tom!!

I really enjoyed this programme. It was good to see Tom doing well after all he'd been through. Its disgraceful the way ASDA have behaved towards Oli.

me and DS watched it,then we watched how the other half lives after.

Yes i thought Toms mum was quite negative but she also looked quite worn down with everything but Alex,s mum was very suffocating,she so obviously doesnt want him to lead an independent life without her,which was quite sad,i think kirsty is lovely tho.

Aw i felt so sorry for oliver and he was very frustrated,i really hope he gets better and is able to take Asda up on their offer shame they made him wait so long before contacting him.

hope there is a follow up next year.

Just posted on another thread about this programme.

Thought this programme was great, have a ds with HFA so very close to my heart.

Thought Tom's Mum was pretty shocking the way she talked about him achieving nothing right in front of him. Got the impression also from last programme that both parents deal very negatively with him and not willing to make that many allowances for him.

Loved the end when he had made friends and started his band, felt that his tutor was wonderfully positive about him, which must have contributed greatly to him feeling able to move forward like this. To be fair to him Mum though she does seem to have an awful lot on her plate, but I do feel he was very much left to flounder.

I hope they do another follow up programme.