who needs fathers? BBC 2

[DuelingFanjo]

Anyone watching?

"Mummy said that Spencer has to go to the chinese restaurant with her"

not sure I like what the dad is doing there, telling his son he has to come. Poor child must feel so torn.

'mummy says spencer has to go with her to the chinese'

from the mouths of babes, hey?

Very mean of her to behave in a way that is going to effect not only the father/son relationship but also divide the siblings

appalling

If she can afford an au pair, what exactly is the financial situation? Why is the father going through all that grief if she's got that much spare cash? (I might have missed something).

Imagine yourself in that position though?

I think it's reasonable, it's what the court ordered, so he is left with little choice
the mum should be saying the same
'this is daddys weekend, you need to see him, you and I can have fun when you get back'

That was to duellingfanjo btw

4 years.. and I was thinking a few months is dragging on a bit trying to sort ourselves out!

she is very mealy-mouthed and mean

using the bairns to get at her ex

terrible childish damaging behaviour

What did the text say at the end? Missed it...

I think she can afford the au pair, cause he remortgaged, sold the house he was living in - moving to barking and enabled their old joint house to still be paid for, for a bit longer....that's how it sounded anyway. SGM, didn't realise she worked at LHR! but yes Barking to LHR bit of a trek to say the least....

13 more months to sort - they now have agreement - he gets more than 1/3 of year with the children.

totally agree. she hardly let them go to their Dad's if they wanted to on 'her' weekend would she. It was his time and she should have respected that.

god she came across as awful didnt she?

Apparently they reached "an agreement" 13 months later and Alex now has the children two thirds of the time.

DH's ex was like that woman. There was always something they had to do which cut down his contact time. Very sad.

It took another 13 months in the courts - Alex now has a third (?) of the year with the boys.

I think.

haha Narrated by David Thelfall! Irony not missed!

That after 13 months he was awarded more than 1/3 of the year with the kids.

I'm glad I didn't watch this

'let me get on with my life and move on'

yeah, let you do whatever you want, withhold contact, poison your childrens minds and dad keep shtum

they are not just your children
I hope she is ashamed of herself having watched the doc
probably not though
no self awareness
horrid cow

"At Homesdirect365 ? we're passionate that everyone should have access to high quality furniture"

strange use of the word ACCESS.....not got the same passion for your children having access to their Daddy?

We've had family members in a similar situation. DH's uncle didn't see his kids for 10 YEARS after his wife left him.
They only got back in touch in 2008 because DH and I were getting married and invited the kids to come - they are now 19 & 16.
DH's uncle had continued to pay maintenance the whole time, even though she refused to let him see them. She even made the daughter (who was 10 at the time) get on the phone and tell her dad shed never see him again if he didn't leave his girlfriend! He didn't even meet the girlfriend until 2 years after his wife left him!

Thankfully it appears the kids know it is not their dads fault as the son said that he had always planned to go looking for his dad when he was 18 coz he knew "something was wrong".

Some women have a lot to answer for and many, like DH's "aunt" have had to explain themselves to their children.

But they have NO self awareness at all.

My mother poisoned my sister against her dad and sulked when she spent any time with him during her teens.

She's now in her mid-twenties. She no longer sees her father but my mother's opinion is thaat "she decided what she wanted, it was nothing to do with me".

Truly scary.