The World's Oldest Mums

[kathyis6incheshigh]

On now (C4).

C'mon, we have to have a thread about this!

[LynetteScavo]

How would the woman who is 72 now cope with a tantruming toddler?

[helpet]

I'm 35 and ttc DC2, but having just miscarried last week I've got into a panic about my age (I know I know - I'm overreacting - blame my hormones, and have plenty of friends having children older than me) - anyway - this extraordinary programme is selfishly making me feel like a spring chicken. Meanwhile my best friend has just been in hospital today having her eggs 'harvested' for another round of IVF - I hope she's not watching this - it might make her feel a bit weird ....

[helpet]

LynetteScavo - have been wondering that myself!!

[helpet]

Wow - that American woman is probably a lot fitter than I am ...

[kathyis6incheshigh]

'I used to change my mother's nappies'
That's quite a good response if someone asks her how she'll cope with a toddler.... I know women in their 60s who are caring for elderly parents in their 80s and 90s and it is bloody hard....I can see why a toddler would look easier....

[GoldenSnitch]

It spooked me out when I realised that the American women was the same age as my Mum is now when she had her twins!!

Luckily, my Mum is content waiting for me to pop Grandchild number 2 for her and is not out trying to get herself up the duff!!!

That would be weird!

[hester]

Of course it's not a good idea to have a baby post-menopause. But I feel very sorry for these women, particularly the 72-year-old who seems quite lost, and I really hate the public opprobrium they endure.

[LouMacca]

Such a shame for the latest woman on, against all my beliefs on this matter I do feel sorry for her. She has spent her whole life looking after her mother which is why she had her children so late.

It seems so unfair that after she has given her life to caring for her mother she now has cancer while her children are so young. So unfair. Am i right in thinking that this is the lady who recently died?

[GoldenSnitch]

I seemed to remember her being the lady in the news who had died recently... Very sad for those boys

[MollieO]

I've just switched over. Why does she want a baby at that age?? The American seems a young 70 but her children are now 16. The UK 72 yr old seems to be of her age (putting it politely). I had ds at 39 and I thought that was old!

[MrsMattie]

Not watching it, but these bints are batty as hell. What sane person thinks it's a good idea to give birth in their 50s/60s/70s. Get a grip!

[helpet]

Poor little Spanish boys. I too feel sorry for these women - but surely the public debate about whether it is ethical is inevitable and essential?

[kathyis6incheshigh]

She said at the beginning that just like with any other woman it was never the right time, she was busy having a career

[chegirl]

I do not think that the 72 year old cuts a very sympathetic figure. I saw her on GMTV this morning and again on this prog tonight.

IMO she seems deluded. She is not listening to any advice. She is simply not interested in weighing up the pros and cons. She wants what she wants.

The fact that she thinks that she is likely to get pg at her age is pretty indicative of her delusional state.

All that stuff about waiting because she had a career is going to be lapped up by the Daily Mail. Thats what they think we all do (apart from the ones having babies at 13 of course).

I am waiting for the backlash. I had my first at 25 and 27 and my 3rd birth child at 40. TCC no 5 and I am 42. I am quite certain that some would put me in the same catagory as the women on this prog

I have seen those threads on certain other forums. Talking about selfish older mums 'when her kid starts school she will be 45 OMG that is soooo disgusting' except its usually spelt dicusting.

[nancy75]

che girl, there is a small age gap between 42 and 72 , you are not in her category, or even close i'm afraid!
tbh she doesnt strike me as actually really wanting a baby, more that she wants to be the oldest woman to do it.

[BakewellTarts]

In fairness to the 72 year old she did start trying at 50...but I think after 22 years and 5 failed attempts it would be time to throw the towel in? (She did come across as battier than my MIL though)

[BakewellTarts]

I've been thinking a lot about this issue since the very interesting thread on the "In the News" topic the other week and feel some regulation / rules are required not least to protect everyone involved including the mum.

This is not to say that I'm without sympathy for them god knows having needed IVF to have my family I think I understand feelings around the strength of the desire to have a family and the frustration when you can't.

Those Spanish boys were gorgeous and I am sad for them and the loss of their mum. Glad they have a supportive family around them.

[MollieO]

Why did she wait until 50? Even if you delay children to have a 'career' you are pretty much where you are going to be by the time you are 40.

[kathyis6incheshigh]

"Thats what they think we all do "

LOLOL Chegirl!

I quite agree the 72 year old does not come across well. It worries me a lot that she seems to be on her own. The Spanish and Indian families all had extended families around them and the American woman had a younger partner.
I am not particularly repulsed by the physical side of it but how can it be responsible to have a child who has such a high risk of being orphaned and left with no family? (The Spanish situation wasn't ideal, but at least they were cared for by family.)

[chegirl]

nancy dont worry, I am not that sensitive about my age!

I had a feeling I had seen the 72 year old somewhere before though. What did she do before she started her quest to be the oldest mother in the world?

I do sympathise with the yearning for a child. It must be awful. But bloody hell can she not take the hint? Every single person she spoke to said Nooooooo. On GMTV even that shiny, smiley, vapid man had an edge to his voice when he was questioning her.

Fact is, sometimes we just cannot have what we want, just because we want it (unless we are Madonna of course).

[kathyis6incheshigh]

They said she was a zoologist.

[bethoo]

i am sorry but it is jsut wrong, i felt for the spanish later who died as her life had been put on hold, and to be honest a bit unfair on her as her brother was saying how basically they disapproved of what she did yet where were they when she was changing her mothers nappies? thats right, having kids with their young wives!
the 72 year old was a fruit loop and best off with a couple of cats to be blunt, she had all her fertile years to produce a child but left it too late. you can put your career on hold but not your fertility!
and i thought that the elderly indian woman was prob ok and since her husband took on another wife who also cojuld not conceive made me think that perhaps he had fertility issues yet no doubt the woman was blaimed and god help them if his other wife produced a girl! prob dispose of and make her try again, that shit happends over there.i sound horrid but i jsut feel for the children. strong views that some may disagree with but it is how i feel. sorry

[chegirl]

I have already forgotten her name. Anyway if I google her I am sure it will all be about the baby thing.

Its going to drive me mad now.

[kathyis6incheshigh]

found it - Jenny Brown.

[chegirl]

Oooo aint you quick!

I will have a google tommorow.