the adoption programme last night

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channel 4 9pm
was very interesting ,my dh is against adopting but i would ,so many kids need love and a good home .
didnt realise the long process the potential parents have to go through.

I was just looking for a thread on this, surprised there isn't one from last night. It was very interesting. I found it surprising that the guy seemed to be trying to talk the couple into adopting siblings and/or special needs/disabled kids and somehow dismissing how that may affect their 8 year old.

i didn't see it - dh wanted to watch ashes lol.

was he dismissing it, sandy? or was he just of the opinion that kids have to get on with having siblings/ special needs/ disabled siblings, in the same way that they would if they were born into the family? it sounds v interesting - (just clicked on this as i missed it but wanted to watch it lol - does ch4 have some sort of i-player thingy?)

channel 4 on demand

I thought that couple were being a bit too precious about their DD; bearing in mind we were watching a heavily edited programme.

I came away thinking that any adoptee would have to 'fit in' to their way of life, with the DD's need being prioritised, rather than everyone being treated as equal. very surprised they were unanimously approved.

thanks candy... i'm sure i should've known that before entering a telly addicts thread lol

Highlander I thought the same as you at the beginning, but by the second hearing it was very obvious they had learned to talk the talk and so I was not surprised they got through the second round.
It was also obvious from the start they needed a younger child so the dd would not see her as competition. In the end I thought the mother seemed like, once she'd bonded with a child, she would be the assertive type who'd move heaven and earth to get what her new dd needed, which could make her quite a good person to be a mum to a child with special needs (if the new dd does turn out to have them).
It was lovely to see them so happy at the end when they'd seemed so unsuitable at first.

i thought that was the rule of thumb anyway? potential adoptees must be younger than the youngest existing child in the family?

that wee sports mad boy - I felt like yelling at the TV - come here, we'd LOVE to have you!!

All those siblings needing a home. it was heartbreaking

its on every night this week at 9pm

Very interesting programmes. But does anyone else feel they are making the announcements of whether or not the prospective adoptees have got through to the next round in slightly too much of an X Factor / Apprentice / WWTBAM stylee? The adoption panels seem to be carefully making very balanced statements, pausing and then saying 'So, yes, we think you'd be great', as if they have been told to hype up the drama for a TV audience. Having said that, if it raises the profile of adoption I suppose it's worth it.

I thought it was great. Though did think the blokes tactics to get the to choose a 'challeninging' child were highly questionable - expecting them not to put the needs of their family and their daughter first. There is no shame in that.

Agree with these comments but was upset at the lack of regard of the welfare of the goldfish!Lovely mum of Sirus and he was a gorgeous child.Felt is was unecessary for the goldfish to suffer,and Sirus`s grief was hard to watch.

I must have missed that bit

EightiesChick yep i found that aspect really shite. but otherwise v. interesting program.

whats everyones feeling about tonights 2 male adopters?
I htink they want a kid to slip inot their perfect little life, and i hate to think what will happen if that kid hates horses!!

I thought the couple last night were lovely. The older one especially seemed very kind and patient when looking after the little girl.

Very suspect that they had not been given a child yet when they seemed to me to have the most to offer a child of all the adopters so far.

really liked the couple last night and felt the older guy was very loving

God I really disagree about the 2 guys last night.

Whilst the older one was indeed very loving and natural with the little girl I really didn't get a good vibe from them.

They had such a unrealistic view of what their adopted child would be like (a horse mad child who would automatically fit in with their already hectic lifestyle).

The younger one came across (to me) as more than a bit insincere and his total unwillingness to even consider a child who had behavioural problems or any kind of disability really put me off him.

I've watched all 3 of these shows and every time I've cried seeing the pile of cards representing the kids they "would not consider" (.

I agree bunny I didnt get good vibes from them and thought they saw a child as an extra thing they needed to complete their perfect little lifes.
Nearer the end i warmed a bit to them but do think they werent getting a child because they were gay in all honesty. Older children arent so forgiving as we think and babies dont come up so often.

Oh my god I obviously meant rather than

I liked the gay couple especially the older one.He had a haunted look as if he had experienced bullying and I think he in particular would be a good parent.
The other I wasn`t so sure about,he seemed to need a parent himself.I do think they would have a lot to offer a child.The older one providing stability and the younger one energy.Much better for a child to have a family and do not feel the gayness should have been such an issue.

I also warmed to the older man of the couple, after seeing him with the little girl, but wasn't sure about the younger one. However, they did say at the end they were making changes and cutting down their working hours / time with the horses etc. to be more suited to having a child, so I thought they really seemed to be moving in the right direction. It was quite funny nearer the start when they were asked what they would do if they got a child who didn't like horses, and they tried to conceal their obvious horror that such a thing might happen!

Think to be around horses would be lovely anyway.All that fresh air and they obviously cared well for their animals.I think they have a lot to offer a four year old boy and best of luck to them.