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cbeebies...what do I tell her?

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mrsout · 12/02/2009 16:36

Ok, without offending anyone, nad this may have already been covered, but.... Whats the correct thing to tell my DD aged 3 when she asks where the ladies arm has gone? And should I tell her off when she puts her sleeve over her hand to copy her?

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ClaraDeLaNoche · 12/02/2009 16:42

What lady? I should know this shouldn't I.

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mrsout · 12/02/2009 16:43

The new presenter. New man and woman. Both as dull as dishwater.

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Seeline · 12/02/2009 16:45

I think honesty is the best policy.I don't know her exact circumstances, but explain sometimes people are born like that or sometimes they may have an accident. As for copying... I don't know either

ClaraDeLaNoche · 12/02/2009 16:46

Oh the blondie? I hadn't noticed, except that she has usurped Poi. Your DD will probably be fine with it, whatever the explanation.

Melscorp · 12/02/2009 18:49

Yes, my husband pointed it out to me when he first saw her.

I am glad my two year old hasn't clocked on as yet.

I don't mean to make people feel uncomfortable, but why does she have to have the sleeve pulled so high up? She didn't have to hide the arm, but I think she should pull her sleeve down a bit more.

I do miss Poi and Chris!! Thank God Andy and Sid are still about!!

JackBauer · 12/02/2009 20:18

DD1 (just turned 3) only noticed her arm today, I just said that arm didn't have a hand, and that sometimes people don't have hands or other parts on their bodies.
She just accpeted that so have left it as that.

AngeChica · 12/02/2009 20:19

Has anyone's DC really been scared by Cerrie? She's so gentle & unthreatening (even a bit soporific at first but she seems to have livened up a bit now).

IME working in schools, small children (i.e. pre-schoolers, infants) are far more accepting of "difference" and visible disabilities than any other age group. If they are curious, just she was born without a hand (I think).

EllieG · 12/02/2009 20:26

But where are Poi and Chris? I miss them. One day they were there, then they had gone. And we had two dull people in their place. And a squeaky woman who came with the frog.

onepieceofbrusselssprout · 12/02/2009 20:29

Melscorp I disagree with you. Why should this presenter have to "pull her sleeve down a bit more"?

It's not frightening or disturbing; she has a disability affecting her arm/hand. As others have said it wouldn't concern the average pre-school/young child.

BirdyArms · 12/02/2009 20:33

I also disagree with Melscorp, she can wear her sleeve however she likes. I'm actually a bit disappointed that my ds1 hasn't noticed it.

RaspberryBlower · 12/02/2009 20:35

I don't think you need to tell her off because she doesn't mean anything by it.

I think it's good that the woman shows her arm so dc get used to seeing her and accept that there are all kinds of 'normal'.

ProfYaffle · 12/02/2009 20:35

dd1 asked me about it, I can't remember exactly what I said, something along the lines of " yes, sometimes people have bodies which aren't quite the same as everyone else's." She accepted that happily.

StewieGriffinsMom · 12/02/2009 21:27

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wintera · 12/02/2009 21:29

I love how kids don't have that sense of embarrassment that we adults so often have. It would be so freeing wouldn't it, to be like that again?

As a matter of interest, how many of you have had trouble off your kids about Chris and Poi leaving? Beforehand when it was mentioned they were leaving there were lots of posts about how the kids were going to feel etc .. My 3 year old really isn't bothered about it at all. The first time she mentioned it was one day this week and that was just in passing really. Amazing how quickly they get on with life!

As for the new presenters, I must say they are growing on me as the days go by. I am sure they will be fine, they just need to loosen up a bit that's all. I actually pointed out to my daughter that the lady had no hand and she was interested for a bit and asked a few questions but now she doesn't seem to notice. Like I said, kids just get on with things don't they? Its us lot that worry all the time!!

crunchyontheinside · 12/02/2009 21:31

DS1(5) explained it really well to DS2(3) imo. "People are all different and that is how she is different. Its ok though, she is still a lady"

ClaraDeLaNoche · 12/02/2009 21:32

I hadn't noticed at all and we watch it every night. I am either a paragon of equality, as I do not notice the superficial, because hey it's what's inside that counts, or completely clueless.

BananaFruitBat · 12/02/2009 21:35

Chris & Poi have GONE?

Where?

Why?

When?

(We've been 'on' NickJr recently)

dragonbutter · 12/02/2009 21:36

Do they still have Handrew?

wintera · 12/02/2009 21:36

Oh sorry I've just had a realisation about something. My daughter goes to a nursery where there are also disabled children included in her group. This might be why she doesn't seem phased by disabilities at all. Just out of interest again, are there any others on here that have kids in nursery's with disabled children?

ChampagneAndStrawberries · 12/02/2009 21:38

I don't think DS has even noticed the absence of Chris and Pui -- or at least he hasn't commented on it at all.

I don't see why she should pull her sleeve down at all firstly and most importantly she has nothing to hide, and secondly it's clear that she actually does quite a lot with that arm steadying things, pushing stuff, etc., that would be more difficult with a layer of fabric flapping around near the end.

samsonara · 12/02/2009 21:42

My dd has asked several times where Chris and Pui are and when they are coming back. I told her they have got new jobs and they will be back doing another program soon and that Alex and Cerrie were the new people.

Dd noticed Cerrie's arm in the beginning and said Cerrie's very clever doing all those things with one hand. Then recently she asked me what happened to her arm. I just said something like "well you know baby's have to grow and all their body parts grow, well sometimes something goes wrong and that bit doesn't grow very well and that's what happened. She accepted that answer.

I liked both at the beginning but find them abit boring, I think they lack the dramatic voices the other two had.

BananaFruitBat · 12/02/2009 21:45

DS has a disabled boy in his class at school (reception). He was describing this boy to my parents...

X is my class. He's a bit naughty though. We were talking about the weather and he kept pointing to the wrong pictures.

No mention of X's leg braces/walking frame/ inability to speak.

Why can't it stay that way?

[wanders off in to Dreamland, sighing]

muppetgirl · 12/02/2009 21:46

This reminds me of my friends mum who lost all her body hair when she found out her daughter was dying. When ds 1 met her she explained that she had no hair and now she was indoors she was going to take her hat off, that her head would be shiny etc etc. Ds 1 didn't bat an eyelid, it was so funny and I think she may have been a bit disappointed!

SalmonintheLiffey · 12/02/2009 21:47

Oh yeah, my dd noticed this, we discussed it for about 5 seconds but spent about 2 minutes discussing how saccharine sweet and fake they both seemed, and how we hped they 'd warm up a bit.

my dc1 aged 6 considers herslef too old for cbeebies but my 3 yr old likes it.

wintera · 12/02/2009 21:54

Bananafruitbat - Yes exactly right! My daughter tells me about things happening at nursery but she never mentions any disabilities at all. As time has gone on, I now know the names of the children with disabilities, but I can honestly say she hasn't talked about them that way at all. This particular nursery was recommended to me for many reasons, but the main one being that all the children mix with each other no matter what disabilities they might have. I am so glad she got a place there!!

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