MAFS UK Allegations

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https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cp8pz1k4r2lo

Can't see that anyone else has posted about this. Quite shocking.

I'm another who gave MAFS a go, but stopped watching before the episode had ended. It was such an emotionally overloaded situation with so many obvious potentials for abuse. I get that this is what can make shows addictive but, in order to enjoy them as entertainment, you have to kind of depersonalise the participants.

Reading the BBC article, it looks clear that CPL and C4 put the support structures in place and the treated them as a box-ticking exercise. The psychiatrist must've been pretty good, though, as all three women said they finally felt safe to tell him the truth. Shameful that the 'support' team were not able (or willing) to be as trustworthy.

There's an AIBU thread that's started up already

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5531499-and-just-like-that-mafs-is-over?page=5&reply=152390862

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I wonder who “Lizzie” was with fhe really violent partner? He sounds awful

right ok 👍

'Chloe' was an actor. I imagine they'd pick someone who looked nothing like the real person.

Im guessing the welfare team are junior production assistants who are way out of their depth

This is so true. Scott is a good example.

Indeed: so i wont be arrested for mentioning that then

phew

Agree I unfortunately think this is true and they were out of their depth

I might have to stop watching this now. On the MAFS threads, we are always calling out the experts for failing to safeguard when behaviour is clearly abusive. This is shocking.

God only knows what happens on Virgin Island

i cant watch

I watch some shite but I draw the line at that.

I actually used to enjoy it but the tipping point for me was seemingly every bloody year there's a man on there who's been accused of sexual abuse, domestic violence or physical violence of some sort so the 'vetting' must be non existent. It's a disgrace.

Wouldn't surprise me. It's becoming increasingly problematic imo. I'm being slightly hypocritical here as I do watch it, but am beginning to feel uncomfortable doing so given the trauma some contestants have suffered. Too much emphasis on fuelling 'drama' for the ratings and not enough on contestant welfare. Admittedly the UK version isn't as bad as the Australian in that regard (haven't seen any of the other countries' version), but the UK version too is becoming an uncomfortable watch.

Isn’t as bad ? It’s the UK version that’s being portrayed in the Panorama investigation! I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s taken off screen. The fact psychiatrists are on hand is a 🚩

astounding but sadly not surprising. The thing that stood out for me in the panorama was that the production company was not able to say that the women were offered the chance to report to the police. If it had been handled properly that would have been offered early on. I dread to think what happened in the six hour meeting one woman was subjected to. Someone on the programme made the point of one bed no alternative sleeping arrangements and it’s always documented as a problem if the woman wants to sleep separately. The show is over for ever. And Virgin Island I dread to think what goes on there

The original MAFS was nothing like the current format. It was more like a quaint (in hindsight) arranged marriage.

Agree. The whole franchise was already plainly toxic even before these revelations were made. It's hard to see how it will not be permanently tainted. Good: it's a manipulative and abusive format.

Fair comment. What I meant was that what’s seen on screen tends not to be as extreme as what we see in the Aus version. Clearly there’s been a lot going on behind the scenes, though. 😢

How anyone could think that this show is entertaining baffles me. It’s totally vile, cringeworthy shite!

I heard on the radio earlier that Tui who sponsor the show have pulled all episodes. It's over.

Sadly I think it's going to come down to the women's word against the men's if it goes to trial now as it's so far down the line.

Ditto. Nicely done btw, without naming names and having the post removed.
I had also suspected the groom who grinned in rival's faces and threatened to laugh at them as he drove past in his Range Rover Evoke of being one of the perps ;-)

Just want to add, I'm gutted for the women involved. I've loved watching MAFS over the years, and although I know a lot of what we saw was down to edit, I naively believed it was all done in a very safe and very controlled environment.