Sweet Bobby - WTAF?

[Merryoldgoat]

Just how? I understand how you can start a relationship online and it become serious but all those years, no video calls, the utter absurdity of witness protection - even a rudimentary search would tell you there’s no way he’d be communicating with you whilst in the plan.

A British man shot in NY would make the news - maybe not national but local and it would be Google-able

I just can’t get my head around how you could be so fooled.

@Bigapple19

I understand the narrative but it’s still way too far fetched.

No FaceTime? In 10 years??

They were not in a ‘relationship’ for ten years though, most of that duration was an online ‘friendship’ where they would send email type messages with life updates from time to time. The ‘relationship’ part of the equation was only at the end of that. It’s still ludicrous, but I think it’s understandable that she didn’t realise he was a made up person. Most people I think would have thought he was a dodgy person and cut things off much sooner but probably wouldn’t have figured out he was not a real person.

@Bigapple19 that’s valid - I hadn’t thought about it like that.

There seemed to be a lot of pressure on her from her parents to find the right kind of man from their community and settle down and have kids and quickly.
Given the time she'd spent on the relationship and her age I think she probably felt too invested to question it. The relationship failing at the that late stage was probably difficult for her to confront when there was a hope that he was being a bit fragile and would change. Plus there were 'trusted' people convincing her.
Agree with PPs it's a boiled frog situation.

I'd thought it would be unlikely too, but the podcast went into detail about how all the other members of a Facebook group, all the family members of Bobby's that were messaging and talking to Kirat were also her cousin. She'd created this entire system where all the things "Bobby" said were corroborated by his "aunt" or "cousin" or another friend. The names were real, but Kirat's cousin hijacked them for her catfish.

And then it turned out she had also catfished Bobby's brother way back at the start of the whole decade of lies.

So while I could say I'd like to think I would never be in the same position, if you've been slowly reeled in over time, by the time you find yourself in the middle of the most ludicrous situation in the world you can't quite figure out what is and isn't real or how you got there.

Where does this come from?

Agree with the others that the podcast is far better than the Netflix show.

I thought this too. How daft and desperate must a woman be to fall for this?! Nearly TEN YEARS with never meeting this man, crying into the camera about how much she loves him and needs him, without ever seeing him 'live,' and falling for excuse after excuse about how he can't meet because he's ill, and can't speak because he's ill/has got a sore throat etc etc.

I honestly struggled to feel sorry for her, because I just thought the whole thing was ludicrous and farcical.

I do agree with a pp though that she was very likely so desperate for a man - because of the pressure from her family. So she WANTED to believe it. She would have been better off concentrating on finding a real life man - if she was so desperate, not a fictional one - instead of believing this obvious bollocks.
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This is the comment that best reflects my feeling on the matter.

I find it interesting that most PPs centre on how naive/gullible/even stupid Kirat was. While I simply cannot get past the level of deception on her cousin's part, and cannot comprehend why . Poor Kirat.

She turned up at bobby’s house. She said that she wanted to run over his wife. To my mind that is wanting to murder someone.

Also agree the podcast was better. I listened to that some time ago, and although the events were crazy, it was much more convincing about how she got sucked in. At the end of that she was still saying she still loved him, like she just couldn't believe he didn't exist (at least not the version of him she knew).

The tv version made her seem completely naive and deluded.

I’ve just watched this. I can’t believe the levels her cousin went too!! Why did she do it?
I think part of the reason Kirat was duped was because her trusted cousin was in Kenya when Bobby got shot and visited him. She also brought a T-shirt back from New York from him. Why would you think a cousin you were close too (or anyone at all for that matter) would be making this all up?

I don't get why she never went to NY to see him? Yes I know there was the 'witness protection' rubbish but Simran and his other friends were there so why not his fiancee?

Where did you get this information?