Never have I ever - netflix

[Catsanfan]

This is a 12. I'm on episode 2 and more or less the whole thing so far has been about sex and a 15 year old is dying to lose her virginity. I have a 12 year old who would be horrified by it and I would absolutely not let watch it. It should absolutely be a 15.

Sorry, just needed a rant!

OP let me give you some advice - it will not do you and your DD well to either pretend like sex is some dirty awful thing or that it’s not perfectly natural for people 12+ to be interested in societal issues around sex.

I don’t get it when people object to sex being mentioned in teen shows? Do you think they don’t know what sex is? Or that they aren’t going to want sex very soon? These shows are supposed to speak to them and their complex emotions - of which our generation probably don’t understand anymore because attitudes around sex are very different to when we were teens.

Watch the rest. NHIE is a brilliant show that deals with sex, pressure to have sex, cultural issues around sex and dating in a really sensible and sensitive way. I wish I had a show like this when I was a teenager as I remember feeling conflict that messages from society (and my mum) were Sex Is Bad and the innate feeling of being very horny and fancying anything with a penis and a pulse. I was very like Devy and her friends, too immature to be going out with boys but so desperately trying to all the same. Shows like this for teens and pre-teens are fab. Mentioning sex does not mean it’s encouraging 12yo’s to have sex FGS.

Also it’s not at all about sex but about Devy grieving the loss of her father, and how grief plays out in the most bizarre and confusing ways especially when couple with teenage hormones

My early teen dd watched. I watched some with her. I found it pretty appropriate for her age tbh. I'm neither strict nor relaxed, probably middling in comparison to other parents of my acquaintance.

I know it deals with other issues and I probably need to give it more time to evolve. DD obviously knows what sex is but I personally think 12 is too young for this show. Constant references to 'boinking', 'railing' etc. I disagree that a 12 year old should be hearing 'I won't be able to walk tomorrow after all the railing' or something of that ilk, and it being seen as being cool to be having sex at 15. (They probably deal with that later but I'm not there yet).

Teen shows, yeah fair enough but 12 year olds are not teens, and I know my DD well enough to know that she is absolutely not going to want sex 'very soon'. She is quite a young 12 I think

Appreciate all the comments and I will def keep watching, just on my own...for now 😀

You think a 12 year old doesn’t know about sex?

Of course they do. My 10 year old knows about it. Obviously not doing it, but she knows what it is and how it’s done.

I’m currently watching Buffy and Angel with her and there are a few sex scenes in it.

12 year olds are at high school.
If you think she's not exposed to chat about sex at school you are mistaken. Absolutely not the same as wanting to have sex...
It's a great show. Very thoughtful and funny.
I think DD watched it when it was first streamed so would have been 13 maybe? Wasn't too 'old' or 'sexy'.

Sorry, I meant of course she knows about it but I still don't feel she needs a show that goes on about it that much. It's a very teenage show and she's a young 12. At this point of where I have seen up to, it seems Devi thinks losing one's virginity is the be all and end all, and that is not the message I want for my 12 year old.

Did not mean to be inflammatory, I come in peace 😀

There is so much more to Devi, she's a good student and trying to balance being a good student with grief and hormones and attention from boys and friendships and family it's a good example of the bombs going off in teenage brains during puberty.

I watched every series of this and I’m a 63 year old woman! I certainly did not feel it was all about teen sex or I would have been bored by it. Much deeper than that. Devi was a complex character who had been through trauma. The psychologist was brilliant.
Also I think she was older than 15.

The ‘boinking’ and ‘railing’ made me laugh because it showed the immaturity of these girls who were not at all ready for sex.

I don’t think hearing crappy jokes about sex will be the least bit alarming or detrimental to a 12yo.

If your DD is a young 13 then fair enough but mark 12yo girls are beginning to become curious, they don’t want baby shows to watch any more and they are more receptive to watching relatable shows about people like them.

Better than the cringey shite e had to endure in the 90’s like Dawson’s Creek 🤣

But definitely watch the rest - it’s not just about her dad’s death but about connecting with her mum despite a slightly volatile relationship.

I sob at the last episode of season 1!

But the point is Devi learns that losing your virginity is not the be all and end all - you’ll see in the coming episodes. A great lesson for a 12yo IMO!