MAFS OZ 6 - Join the queue for a ride on Duncan's big boat (but not if you have a CHILD) No spoilers please

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Here we go, can't have the old thread filing up overnight!

I think Alyssa is a bigger gaslighter than Harrison.

I don't think what Alyssa does is gaslighting. Harrison still has the gaslighting and most abusive partner crown for me.

Alyssa is either a superb actress or incredibly damaged and needs a lot of help.

I've caught up. Alyssa has absolutely no self awareness nor ability to read a situation. She shouted 'I gave everything up for you' yet the point when it went seriously tits up was when she said they'd be able to see each other every other weekend and on Wednesdays. She wasn't changing a damn thing.

I still wish Duncan had fully shared everything, but he comes across so well maintaining such composure. That said, I'd glad he did push back a bit tonight at some of what she was saying.

Yes please, me too 🤣

Put a padlock on the rabbit hutch, Duncan; Alyssa gives bunny boiler vibes!

I’m not going to be ignored Duncan…

I really hope the weekend/Wednesday thing comes out tomorrow. I know Duncan's maintained his composure, but he could have calmly revealed that when she asked him the direct question about when he felt it wasn't going to work.

I think he’s been very good, not telling anyone about her relationship with the married man, or her batshit schedule for seeing him

Was Rupert at the dinner party? Don’t remember hearing anything from him.

Yes he was. He hugged Evelyn straightaway.
And I’m sure he commented something to tayla

Alyssa will probably flounce out again if the .Ixperts have a go at her. Don't they know she has a child???

The dinner party was some incredible TV. Harrison coming with his pathetic receipts and being laughed at was my highlight.

Alyssa needs help. Tayla needs a slap.

Tayla and Cam deserve each other. Both horrible people.

Do not understand the naked nightclubbing AT all, I mean, WTF?

How would anyone prefer tayla over lyndall! Tayla was awful laughing at the dinner party and justifying her behaviour by saying she’s not friends with lyndall.

I enjoyed the laughing as Harrison tried to hold court. He has lost his power.

Yes he did, I think it was something about Tayla being inappropriate which made me chuckle because he's also said some very inappropriate things (albeit in a different way).

Duncan must have extraordinary patience and composure to just sit and take everything Alyssa was throwing at him and remain completely dignified throughout. It looked like he'd been at the Just for Men which is a shame as he'd be even hotter with a greying temple.

Everyone laughing at Harrison was brilliant. He looked genuinely confused that they weren't taking any of it seriously!

The reunion dinner comes after the cast have seen the whole programme, doesn't it? So Duncan knows that the viewer will see Alyssa reveal herself to be completely nuts - he doesn't need to tell everyone what she was like. He's a master of show don't tell 😀

Yes I watched again and it was when she said she was up for a three some and he said “tayla” in a disapproving way.

Duncan comes across far better than if he was shouting back. I can't remember his key line from last night, something about at one point he thought they'd have been good together but not anymore. Far more effective been said calmly than hysterically.

I hope Alyssa watches it back and can see how things evolved based on her behaviour. She's missed out on a really good man, but she thinks it's all him. I can't think any guy would put up with her.

I dont either

I mean she tries but she's totally failed to manipulate Dunk-in

I enjoyed the laughing as Harrison tried to hold court. He has lost his power.

I particularly enjoyed the others laughing given Harrison's veiled threat to anyone else who interrupted his monologue.

Whoever said "tampering with the evidence" - genius! 🌹

I think it depends whether Alyssa's behaviour was a deliberate attempt to manipulate Duncan into believing her false account of what happened.
Harry's behaviour was definitely was intentional. It's clearly gaslighting.
I think Alyssa has difficulty reflecting and accepting her own faults. She's defensive and demanding and apparently devoid of self awareness. I think she's entrenched in her position of victim and interprets everything that happens to her through that filter. That doesn't excuse her behaviour but I think it's different to gaslighting.

But having said that I think if she'd been paired with a less emotionally intelligent groom, she could have really damaged him with her accusations.

Yy Harrison knows exactly what he's doing. He deliberately manipulates people and lies about what happened to try to achieve his aims and to deflect blame away from him. Alyssa genuinely seems to struggle to self-reflect and to see what is right in front of her. I still wouldn't be surprised if it turns out her ex put strict parameters round Dunc having any contact with her DC. But Alyssa (possibly because of her unconventional background and childhood) seems as though she could benefit from counselling.
Dunc dealt with it perfectly. When someone is screaming and being irrational, you can't reason with them. It's better to stay quiet. It's like dealing with a hormonal, tantruming teen. (may just be projecting because of the stage my own DCs are at )