Emily Atack: Asking For It?

[Wafflehouse]

So I’ve seen/heard a lot of promo for this and have just started watching, it was on last night on BBC2 if anyone wants to see it, I’m 10mins in and already really pissed off. Not just for the shit that Emily and other women have to put up with on a daily basis but the purile fucking response from Sean Walsh when she was talking to him about what she gets sent.

How the fuck is it ever meant to get any better when even when you’re being filmed as part of a documentary about the effects of male behaviour towards women the first response of a man (albeit a pretty bloody childish one) is to find it hilarious?

I might give up on this if it keeps frustrating me. Has anyone else watched it?

I watched it. It is really good and Emily has a big self learning curve as it goes on. (can't think of a better phrase sorry). I liked her.
Sean is a total dick though.

I thought this too re her colleagues laughing. Just goes to show that even men who wouldn't necessarily send those things have a baseline reaction of thinking it's all just a bit of a laugh.
When she goes on to talk about her experiences of sex as a young person I really thought how the things she is sent online are just re traumatising her again and again. Feel really sad for her. Also I thought her mum could have been more supportive, just walking off because it upset her to hear probably made Emily feel guilty and responsible for upsetting her mum. I'd like to think if that was my daughter that I would be able to listen to the most horrific things but put my emotions to the side to allow her to talk about it.

Yes, I was a bit annoyed with her mum. She seemed to miss the point, she was upset so was able to choose to walk away from it but when you’re sent an unsolicited pic or message you don’t have that option.

She could’ve been more supportive whatever her own feelings were.

I think men fundamentally don’t understand how upsetting and degrading it is - because they will never have to face this in the way a woman does.
I also thought be might be embarrassed- but I don’t think so really.
I didn’t watch the whole documentary. I hope she can find a way to find peace. And maybe step away from social media - for her peace of mind if nothing else’s.

When a married (with children) man at work sexually harassed me during a work event the men in my office laughed the next day when they heard about it, until I said "Would you be laughing if he'd done that to YOUR girlfriend?"

Thankfully my decent manager didn't find it funny.

Some women I know still think getting a random
Dick pic online is funny though. People have weird mentality like it's a joke or flattering to get such male attention (AKA harassment).

Also, did you expect anything better from a man who adds an extra N (Seann) to his name and who gaslighted his girlfriend? Not sure why a misogynist was included in the programme, was it meant to be ironic?

I thought it was a good programme and definitely eye-opening to me (late 40s, no DDs). What blew my mind was the volume of messages Emily gets. She showed that group of male apologists just two weeks' worth and it was a big pile of sheets of A4, all covered in pornographic messages and photos. I found the men in the doc, apart from her dad, really infuriating - most of them basically made piss-poor excuses for the disgusting behaviour of other men.

Emily came across as vulnerable and she definitely shares a lot of her life online and allows her vulnerability to show, but OMG! I'm not surprised her DM had to walk away, because otherwise she'd cry in front of her DD. I'd be utterly devastated if that was happening to my DC. Those school girls she spoke to as well, god it was depressing what girls have to put up with these days

Also, she should be naming and shaming the disgusting mostly married men sending her messages. Re-post them, shame them, let their wives, girlfriends, family see what a pig they are.

Don’t get me wrong, my expectations of Sean (one N) Walsh are not high at all but to see someone so lacking in self awareness that he thought it was ok to respond in that way was infuriating.

I’m going to admit to my own naivety here, I’m not on any social media at all so I was shocked that the group of school girls were saying that it’s basically something they have learnt to expect from older men. I have a 9 year old dd and the thought of her being exposed to this sort of shit in just a few years is horrifying.

I found it all very sad. She has a highly sexualised presence on social media is not willing to give up the attention that she gets from that. The result is that men think of her as sexually available, and indeed she IS available in a way, because they can send her messages and she reads them.

@Wafflehouse part of my job is working with young people and just last week a year 7 girl told me about a dick pic another student had sent round at the start of the year. She seemed pretty unphased by it. When I was 11 I had never seen a penis, now it's normal to have seen pictures of at least one outside sex ed, usually belonging to someone you know and may see day to day.

I think Seann Walsh must know where the bodies are buried. He's good mates with comedians like Romesh and Katherine Ryan which disappoints me as I don't think of them as people who would normally put up with his level of fuckwittery ( even leaving Strictly out of it, he comes across as an absolutely dim blokey bloke who hasn't been told that Nuts magazine hasn't been in business for years)

This was sad and shocking. Sad that Emily seems to be so damaged and her mum didn't come across very well running away rather than supporting her daughter. Shocking that she receives hundreds of inappropriate messages every day and that school girls said they received unwanted sexual messages from men at such a young age.

Emily seems to have been craving love from a young age. She said she had sex with an 18 year old when she was 12!! Her role in The Inbetweeners has not helped at all. She was thrust into the limelight aged 17 and her character was sexually experienced which then made her available online to the huge fan base the show had.

I really like Emily. She has been let down very badly

@PrincessScarlett did she say that about being 12 last night? I must have totally missed that.

Yes unfortunately. When she was talking to the therapist. Then went on to talk about how she used sex to control situations and feel confident and wanted but it just ended up the opposite and she would get blind drink and wake up to some bloke having sex with her. Absolutely awful.

I also found it quite disturbing that Seann Walsh was laughing at the messages. I had hoped he was laughing because he didn't know how to respond and it was more nervous laughter. But he still came across as a complete knob and demonstrated the huge problem that women face when even their so called friends laugh at such obscene messages.

Sean walsh is a childish little prick

Not the point but she looks
Very different than she does on her insta

I was sort of half watching it but also commented on Sean Walsh finding it hilarious and other men almost excusing that sort of behaviour.
One said something along the lines of "so many expectations are put on men and they cant live up to them.." which made me frickin incensed.
And you dont think women have unrealistic expectations put upon them, that they cant live up to??
And why does that somehow excuse sending a dick pic or disgusting message to someone...?

Can't stand either of them, Emily is totally talentless as is Sean

Agree