The men on first date who say “ladies first” when deciding on whether to see each other again

[Uyhmo]

Then they let the lady say “yes I would like to see you again” and then announce they actually don’t want to. How can they be so rude/mean? And they say “ladies first” like as if they think they are such a gentleman. Are they just clueless about what the etiquette is here?

It's happened plenty the other way around too. Also, the women who let the men pay for their meal knowing they'll then say no to another date. Just bloody pay half!!!

Yes you are probably right it does happen the other way too. But they don’t say “ladies first” I suppose

Yes I hate that. Men should announce their intentions first. For very sexist reasons.

I agree about the paying thing though . It’s enough to clock that he offers to pay but I think go halves or it’s enough if he gets the pudding or drinks or whatever. I’m keen to know what the prices are like. Is it a special menu?

Agree it’s rude and seems unaware. Also agree with the poster who said women not paying for their meal when they know there won’t be a second date is even worse.

I always feel sad for the date that says on their own to camera that they like them and then when they’re together and are asked the date speaks first saying that there wasn’t a spark but they had a great time and then their date nods, agreeing when we know that inside they’re gutted.

And if you know you don’t want to see them split the bill. When the date offers, accept.

I don’t think the men should always go first. But if they know they are going to say it’s a no from them, then surely it’s better to offer to go first. I wonder if perhaps they are hoping the woman says no, so they can agree, and then the woman does the difficult bit for them.