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I Am Maria

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RoseGoldEagle · 11/08/2021 10:16

I have loved some of the others in this series, but found this one frustrating and whilst understanding her predicament, couldn’t empathise with her.

So Maria is feeling frustrated because she’s at a point in her life where the kids have left home, and are starting their own lives, she wants more adventure in her life, she wants to still feel attractive and wanted, and her husband doesn’t really feel anything needs to change, and is happy to keep plodding on into old age. Granted he hasn’t much get up and go, but he was doing what he’s always done and she’s the one that’s now changed the goalposts. Nothing wrong with that- but I feel like she should own that- rather than trying to blame him for still essentially being happy with the life they’ve built together; she can’t just expect him to want a sudden pace change just because she does. That’s not to say he shouldn’t make changes and make more effort in general, but big lifestyle/travel changes aren’t something you can just do to make someone else happy.

And then I lost any sympathy for her at the point she made the family meal so awkward (they both did to be fair) and then cried on her daughter’s shoulder about it. Ultimately it’s good that she left if it’s what she wanted, but I felt it was a sad situation and have more sympathy with her family than with her.

But maybe I’m missing something as I know other people loved this one? It did at least make me look at my own situation with 3 young kids and reaffirm to myself that I need to live for myself as well as for them, and also to chat to DH about our plans for when they’ve left home!! Would love to hear other people’s takes on this episode!

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 12/08/2021 16:04

I think the birthday was The Final Straw after years of her needs not being met and she finally snapped. He was horrible to her, dismissive and didn't listen to what she was saying.

AbsolutelyPatsy · 12/08/2021 21:04

i found it annoying,
she didnt seem to be spelling out what she wanted,
i felt for her poor husband when she left him, but where did she go

i thought it was a silly romance with no point.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 12/08/2021 21:10

i thought it was a silly romance with no point it wasn't a romance and calling it 'silly' is exactly what her husband was doing and why she left.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 12/08/2021 21:11

but where did she go anywhere she wanted, that was the WHOLE point!

Aquarius1234 · 12/08/2021 21:18

Loved this great acting.

Allywill · 12/08/2021 22:49

I agree. She annoyed me. If it had been her husband who shagged a colleague, then walked out after 31 years together saying he wanted to go on an adventure you can bet he’d get some tough comments on the relationship forum. Plus she was supposed to be talking to and supporting her daughter when daughter said she as scared but then just made it all about her.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 12/08/2021 23:10

She was quite willing to go an adventure by herself , she didn't expect him to come along, he just wanted to clip her wings.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 12/08/2021 23:17

Also they were hugely sexually incompatible.

AbsolutelyPatsy · 13/08/2021 07:14

sexually incompatible?
i believe it was a one off that she wanted a fuck in the kitchen due to the charge she felt from the guy at work

there was not enough story, you are obviously reading into it more than I am @MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 13/08/2021 07:31

No I'm not, he clearly said he never just wants 'a fuck' only ever 'making love with candles.' he asked her why she was bringing it up AGAIN when she tried to explain and he said he didn't want to talk about it again 'as they'd been ok since last time.' it was clearly an on going issue.

AbsolutelyPatsy · 13/08/2021 08:09

oh i missed that bit @MrsPelligrinoPetrichor,
i was watching it with dd so was cringing

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 13/08/2021 08:19

It was all the little things that added up to a bigger picture. The fact he shot her down when she was telling the story about the woman she knew that holidayed solo every year to clear her head, made her a cake even though she specifically said not to, didn't take any notice when she said she wanted to clear up the kitchen by herself. The kids coming for dinner highlighted the fact she'd missed out on loads having a family so wanted to start having adventures now but he didn't- which is fine but he didn't want her to either which is not.

AbsolutelyPatsy · 13/08/2021 08:39

it was too subtle for me

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 13/08/2021 08:51
Grin
SheldonesqueTheBstard · 20/08/2021 12:52

The sad bit for me was when loverloverman asked what she’d be doing for her birthday. She said HE likes spaghetti.

So not even her choice for a birthday tea.

That said, I found it annoying. I understood the years of being ignored and pat-patted down. I just got fed up of the clunky dialogue.

I know some of it was improvised.

It just didn’t feel real.

Although I appreciate the acting of both LM and SJ this series (try as I might I couldn’t warm at all to LW or the story), I ultimately didn’t really care about any of the leads.

All a bit clunky and indulgent for me. When you compare it to the first series …

purpleme12 · 25/08/2021 01:33

Yes this series is not how I remember the first series

thatone · 26/08/2021 21:20

While I do find each episode fascinating, I am not loving all the close up camera angles. I do get why they do it but I find it quite disorienting and fragmented.

Like some other PP I found it hard to sympathise with her - she was angry, perhaps with good reason. The 'discussions' between husband and wife showed that they just weren't able to connect.

Anothermothernamegame · 16/09/2021 21:09

Sorry I'm late to the party - I just searched to see if there was a post on this because I thought it was fantastic! Really surprised at some people not getting it.
I feel like I could wake up in 30 years and he Maria, it's really given me food for thought, there's things I need to re-evaluate I think.

Anothermothernamegame · 16/09/2021 21:09

And be Maria

CaptainMyCaptain · 17/09/2021 13:40

I didn't like her character at all. She shouted at her husband for just making a cake - it's just a bloody cake - and made everyone feel uncomfortable at the dinner, undermining her son because he wanted to buy a house and not letting anyone get a word in edgeways. If the roles were reversed it would be just as bad. So she found her husband boring, it's not his fault, he's entitled to like what he likes too. I didn't watch to the end but it seems that she left, probably a good thing and she should have done it years ago.

the80sweregreat · 17/09/2021 14:12

She was annoying.
The kind of woman I would not like or get on with in real life .

Puffalicious · 18/09/2021 01:09

Well, I've just watched it and I feel so differently: I could have punched him and really get where she was coming from. He was controlling and jumped on her every word. HE was the one who ruined the lunch with his dismissal of her and being so angry. Perhaps it's because I very much need my freedom and envisage a life of travel (again) once the DC are older. Thankfully DH feels the same way. It was a portrait of a woman feeling stifled.

Anothermothernamegame · 18/09/2021 18:15

Those that think she shouted about a cake must have no understanding that it is the straw that broke the camel's back. It's not about a blinking cake, she was clearly exhausted by their relationship after years and years of being overlooked and underappreciated.
I know where she's coming from.

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/09/2021 18:47

I expect he felt unappreciated too. They should have split up years ago. She didn't seem quite at ease in the office either.

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