Netflix sex life opinions make and female please (spoilers)

[Cherryberrybonbon]

So I’ve just watched Sex Life on Netflix, totally binge watched, I’d ignore reviews and just watch and make your own opinion! I thought it was brilliant, wished the ending hadn’t have been so sudden though.

The trouble starts for her marriage when her husband reads her sexually graphic journal that she keeps on HER laptop. So feeling like he doesn’t compare he decided to up his game and as most people would, it makes him feel sick to think of his wife in another life and it all starts to go down hill with the wife holding the blame and trying to keep her life together whilst her ex who she fantasies about quickly crawls back into her life and she starts running round NY trying to make sense of what is going on in her mind. Whilst her husband also has his head turned, gets a bj at a sex party off his bffs wife in front of his wife…. Then blames it on her journal for making him act different.

Now, me and my dp have discussed it and got mixed feelings on the this, I’m saying he should have kept his nose out of her personal business and it wouldn’t have happened I t’s her journal her private thoughts and regardless of whether they are married everyone is allowed their personal thoughts and they do not have to be put out there for discussion. He obviously disagrees with me because he’s an actual snooper!

My dp actually did this to me early in our relationship, read years old messenger messages that I didn’t even realise was there then had the cheek to say to me if you had deleted them I wouldn’t have read them shock and my response was you have no need to go into my phone and read everything that was before your time. I have never done that to him and wouldn’t.

This happens it lots of relationships I know, people get their head turned, they aren’t getting the attention the need so crave it elsewhere, but not everyone acts on it! So I just wanted some thoughts (male & female) on where people stand on this situation, do people actually think it’s right to read someone’s journal? I mean it would be wrong if your parents read your teenage secret diary wouldn’t it???

I’ve just finished watching this and feel like I’ve watched my own personal biopic! (Obviously slightly more dramatised) but along the themes of wild crazy promiscuous 20s, married lovely sensible man, had kids, fear of losing identify / adventure / spark. I’ve definitely been thinking of my ‘bad’ ex more but hadn’t realised quite what a cliche it was haha. Mine is more nostalgia though not quite the crisis the character is having on the show.

I would not be happy if my husband read a private diary. I’ve also had exes do similar in the past / old messages like you said.

I thought it was brilliant, literally they’ve written a series about “85%” (lol) of people’s lives. Didn’t need the full frontal dick pic though. I just thought watching it, how dare you have a go at her when you are the one who crossed the line and ruined your own image of your wife by invading her privacy….. lots of men I know of! Would love to hear some mens views on it

I thought exactly the same. This show actually hit a nerve with me.

I've got the most wonderful DH, who is so thoughtful, we have a 7-year-old, a great life with good careers and money so we have nothing to sniff at. We have what when I was younger, was the dream and the goal.

However, in my teens and early 20s, I was definitely adventurous and had a string of men that were wrong for me. I had one relationship where like Billie, the connection was great, the sex was amazing, although he never cheated, he wasn't the settle and meet the parents for Sunday lunch type.

Like I said, DH is wonderful and is my best friend but I really miss the thrill and spark you get. I'm bored of missionary.

I have thought a lot about her comment on can the person that gives you safety and security be the same person to give you the thrill.

I would never have an affair but it's definitely made me want to have a brutal conversation with my DH about spicing up our sex life.

Wow that feels good to get off my chest.

As with PP, I loved it but it definitely hit a nerve.

After more than a decade the mundane has set in a bit and the idea of fun and exciting youth is more appealing. I would never ever cheat on him but I can see how people do when you get bogged down by day to day life, especially with little kids.

I write erotic fiction as a hobby and have not told DH and will not tell him. So much of it is based on experiences from before I met him, or fantasies that would never happen. Him reading it would only lead to him being anxious and potentially jealous about absolutely nothing. I don't publish, he would only know by snooping through my laptop, and more fool him if he did for invading my privacy.

I think a lot of women settle for safe men who will make good fathers and be a good life partner. I know a lot of my friends who are still married did. I’m the other way now. Married young and divorced as I found that I enjoyed meeting new people and married life with all its confinement just didn’t suit me. I decided not to have kids. My wild time was 35-50 when I was so much more confident in myself and my body and not afraid to explore and seek adventure. I could write three books on my exploits during those years! I’m mid 50’s now and still a free spirit but my wild side has settled down a bit now!

So true about hitting a nerve...I love my husbands qualities so much but no idea how you keep the spark alive especially in the years when you have young children. The spark to me was always associated with novelty, mystery, and the uncertainty of a newer relationship. All the things I love about my husband like reliability, stability and knowing my good and bad points inside out seem to clash with this! I’m not sure you can ‘have it all’. I also would never cheat but it did get me wondering about open relationships....