Violent Children

[Deathraystare]

Sorry cannot remember correct title and Radio Times online refuses to reveal what time I watched it yesterday.

A guy in wales is single parent to one boy. He was being punched, kicked and spat at by the boy.

I was just marvelling that this burly ex soldier was not bashing him every time he hit out! But of course according to the expert he needs to be more dominant! Sadly he thought he was doing well as trying to be the opposite of his violent father!

Imo, kids will do what they can get away with. It's not a popular opinion, but if every time the boy lashed out, the Dad gave him a whack, then he'd think twice before misbehaving again.

Growing up in the 70's and 80's, if I had shown any violence towards my parents, they would have knocked me into the middle of next week. No chance would I have dared to even try. This is the same of my peers. We all knew the parents were in charge.

These day however, naughtiness seems to find parents trying to reason with the child, or ask the child to please not do x/y/z. As if it's a negotiation. We are losing the art of parenting and acknowledging that the parent is in charge.

I always see in the animal world, that any out of line behaviour is swiftly dealt with by Mum, and it's often a pin down or swipe - just enough to make the message clear.

SummerBlondey TOP MARKS! You are TOTALLY spot on!

But just something to contemplate:
SOMETIMES, just SOMETIMES, a child will have a neurological problem that affects their behaviour, its in their NTURE, not NURTURE.

If this programme (I didn't know it was on!) showed a snowflake dad, then yes, I agree with you, but if the child was diagbnosed with something, that's a different thing., although manhy things are ''excuses'' for a childs behaviour and parental failings.

One of the problems the expert signposted was that the dad would often walk away (or go out for a fag) at the time he maybe should have been paying attention to the lad.

It showed the kid's mum who lived elsewhere (not sure if they are divorced/separated) and not sure if the kids belong to the dad or somewhere else. Mum did say she couldn't have him full time so it only concentrated on the dad.

Did feel sorry for him describing life with his own dad. He ran to his Aunt's as he thought his dad was killing his brother. Dad turned up and pulled him along the road by his hair!