He's just not that into you should not be recommended watching for single women

[LilMissRe]

Morning everyone!
I had a bit of a light-hearted debate with my friends yesterday over this film because in essence I think it is crap and they believe women should watch it before dating.

Th guy giving Gigi advice has given her the impression that he likes her, through his actions towards her. She, listening to his advice thinks he does and makes a move- ONLY TO BE SHUT DOWN by him, which leaves her confused. He then 'realises' he liked her all along and pursues her, so in fact 'he WAS that into her'

Ben Affleck's character admitted marriage was never for him and that causes problems for him and Beth, Beth leaves. He then 'realises' he wanted to be married to her all along, so he finds her and they do.

If anything, this film shows men have a delayed reaction to what they want i.e, women know what men want before men know it themselves and that men think they know what they want, but they don't always.

My friends insist that this film shows that guys are easy to read and I disagree. It's far fetched and stupid. A lot of girls watch and have watched this film and I do not think it is revealing anything of substance- just more confusion. Granted guys who are awful at the beginning stages of dating are easier to spot.

I will admit that I never realised how much a man cleaning the dishes without be asked was a turn on- that is it, and that is a dream I will hold out to have materialise.

If you have seen this film, perhaps you could explain to me how I am, if I am missing the message entirely?

It's such a bollocks film. And it's start with that toxic crap of "if a boy bullies you it means he likes you". Any parent teaching their daughter that needs to immediately stop parenting. The message is, girls: put up with abuse because the Ultimate Goal of Love is within reach

The original concept in the book is that men tend to continue relationships they're interested in pursuing, and if they're ghosting you it's because they're not interested. It counteracts the misconception that men play hard to get. Seems fair. But the film just had these pathetic vapid women simpering over POS men. Awful. It also perpetuates the myth that women are stalkers. Men are far more likely to be dangerous to women than the other way around.

I know I'm preaching to the converted OP but this film really does give me the rage 🤣 the only saving grace is the brilliant Juliette Lewis and the way she kicked Bradley Cooper to the kerb.

Scarlett Johanson, not JL, but I agree with you.

I've read the book, and all the film has borrowed is the title! The book has some useful advice.

@BitOfFun no I did mean Juliette Lewis, the wife, who I think was meant to come across and uptight and shrill but who was the best character. Didn't care for SJ's character at all - or for any except Juliette Lewis's

I was coming on to say the book is actually quite good and has some good advice in!
And bizarrely the film basically portrays a story that the book says wouldn’t happen!

Juliette Lewis isn't in this film.

Jennifer Connolly?

[quote GlummyMcGlummerson]@BitOfFun no I did mean Juliette Lewis, the wife, who I think was meant to come across and uptight and shrill but who was the best character. Didn't care for SJ's character at all - or for any except Juliette Lewis's[/quote]
I think its Jennifer Connelly. The one who hated her husband smoking?

@GlummyMcGlummerson

I don't think Juliette Lewis is who you think she is.

I didn't understand the premise of the film though. Just seemed like a bunch of different relationships to me and the title of the film was misleading. Some of the guys were into the female characters. And one was a dirty cheat. That's all I took from it.

Yes Jennifer Connelley 🤦🏼‍♀️ Sorry!
I even googled Juliette Lewis looked at her and thought "that's the one I mean!" 🥴

I'm glad I'm not the only one that scratches their head over this. It seems to be the go to film for anyone who has just become single and it baffles me as to why that is. You don't pick anything up from it.

I hated Bradley Cooper's character in this- awful cheat who threw it away for emotionally unavailable person- a fantasy

It's not just you OP. The film is quite poorly executed and its overarching point is lost in translation.

Agree with Bradley Cooper's character too, he was pretty pathetic and spineless. Also, as a straight woman, I don't get why he cheated on the beautiful Jennifer Connelly's character. She is gorgeous!

Disclaimer: I understand looks aren't everything

The book the movie is based on is rather bonkers too. Basically a smug married man mansplaining bad relationships to a single woman. The authors met as writers on sex and the city and they'd bounce bad dating experiences around for inspiration. So they made the exploits into a book.

I only like the movie when I'm hungover and it's fairly simple to follow and fall asleep to.