The Family Secret...anyone watching?

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I cannot believe they just said that the dad said she shouldn't report the rape by her brother because it would seem like the family were hanging up on him...did I hear that right?

Fucking hell @PorpentinaScamander and @delilabell So sorry that this was part of your childhood. I hope that you've been able to move on from it in some way.

@Ringsender2

Thank you. I hardly think about it now. I think it's so deeply buried in my memories. It's just part of my life now and I try not to dwell on it.

This was such a strange programme with so many unanswered questions. I too found it difficult to believe a ten year old boy would suddenly start behaving sexually without any outside influence.

I felt the mum was going through the motions and reacting to her son the way she thought she should but deep down inside I suspect she was as conflicted as the father.

And yes - there was way more to the entire thing than was suggested and I suspect mum thinks so as well.

I watched this.

What do you mean there was more to this than suggested? Like what?

Maybe I am naive but I also found it hard to believe he did this 2-3 times a week for so many years without the parents suspecting anything or noticing. Did they turn a blind eye? Did she show any signs of abuse that they also ignored?

Yes,you're being really naive porkpiehat abuse goes on within families all the time without anyone knowing.

@purpleme12 I suspect the boy was subjected to some form of abuse himself or witnessed it in some form. It's completely abnormal for a 10 year old boy to suddenly start raping his sister if he is from a normal, healthy environment with no outside influence. At least I think it is.

What channel is this on please?

Channel 4 Dingdong.

Thanks Dreamers

I was very pleased that the mum supported her. It must have been hard as he was the apple of her eye. I thought the boy was a chip off the father's block. Both were quite calm about it. The (now) boy seemed to think he could just be accepted by the (now) woman and the mother..

@Ringsender2 thank you. I can go for long amounts of time without thinking about it. I even have a relationship with him, but then it hits me. I've been diagnosed with ptsd from it.
@porkpiepat there was no way my dm or df knew it was happening. Simply because they were not looking for it. So even if things were a bit dodgy they wouldn't realise. If that makes sense? It's difficult because until your in thay situation (and I hope to god no-one is) that you can spot it.

So sad to watch. As he said, he "learnt it somewhere". I didn't buy the not remembering, as he used that a few times as a vagueness tactic to avoid straight answers. I had to wonder if the Father's minimising was because closer scrutiny would reveal where he learnt it was close to home. Abused children are usually abused by someone they know & often abuse other children to reframe the abuse with them as no longer the victim, but the perpetrator, to try & take back their power.

I've just watched this - it broke my heart.

The offending brother has obviously been abused himself - even if it was "just" allowing him to watch porn - otherwise how would a child of his age even think of raping his 7 year-old sister? Ir wouldn't occur to them.

I think the father has to have been involved somehow.