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The Conjoined Twins: An Impossible Decision

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purpleme12 · 05/08/2019 21:26

Anyone watching?
So hard

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Freddiefox · 05/08/2019 21:31

Yes, What a hard choice for all involved.
The poor father, is there a mum around?

Freddiefox · 05/08/2019 21:32

What a decision for him to have to make.

Sharpkat · 05/08/2019 21:32

I am not watching it yet but read in the TV guide that the mum was in their home country with the other children.

Am not sure I will be able to watch it.

Toddlerteaplease · 05/08/2019 21:33

The dad is incredibly strong. I'm also wondering about mum, although they said she'd gone home to look after other children.

TalkToMeAboutSocialWorkPlease · 05/08/2019 21:34

I read last year that she had rejected the children and their father is all they have.

Luxesoap · 05/08/2019 21:43

It’s just agonising to watch. The poor father. I just want to give him a huge hug. It really is an impossible decision. Poor poor man.

megletthesecond · 05/08/2019 21:46

It's brutal isn't it.
Poor dad and the poor girls.

ALemonyPea · 05/08/2019 21:49

What channel is it on? Read something on this at the weekend, such a heartbreaking decision for them to make.

Lepetitpiggy · 05/08/2019 21:51

Heartbreaking

Luxesoap · 05/08/2019 21:51

BBC2 Lemony

pseudonom · 05/08/2019 22:03

What a dignified man. I was of the 'separate them' camp right until the very end when they were shuffling down the corridor together and I had a change of heart. I think nature should take its course - whatever the outcome.

Pud2 · 05/08/2019 22:08

Such immense eloquence, intelligence and empathy from the staff at Great Ormond Street and the ethics committee, and deep respect and faith from the father. An impossible decision but there’s no doubt that those girls are loved and cared for by all involved.

Soontobe60 · 05/08/2019 22:12

He was an amazing father, so patient and loving with his girls. For those who asked, mum returned to her home to look after their other children. Please don't criticise her, no one knows what they would do in their circumstances. And actually, we don't know the full extent of their circumstances anyway.
It makes me very proud to live in a nation that can reach out and help others who are so despairing. At least dad will be able to know that his girls had the happiest life he could give them for as long as he could.

Toddlerteaplease · 05/08/2019 22:13

What ever happens at least dad can say that he gave them a wonderful life. And only ever acted in, what he saw as their best interests. I was also in the separate them camp, but like another PP seeing the way they are with each other made me change my mind.

Luxesoap · 05/08/2019 22:16

I can see how when the Das sees Marieme happy and playing that he can’t just go ahead with a procedure that will certainly kill her. Just to look your child In the face and literally sign her death warrant. It makes sense in theory but in practice as a parent no one should have to make such a decision. The choice has now gone as the risk to the stronger child is now too great . At least he no longer has a choice. What an utterly wretched situation.

22Giraffes · 06/08/2019 00:35

Poor dad, he clearly loves them with every ounce of his being. How could he possibly make a decision Sad such beautiful girls who seemed happy and engaged with everyone caring for them. I hope in the future he can be kind to himself. All the staff and people involved are stars Star

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purpleme12 · 06/08/2019 02:40

Yes I can't imagine I would agree to then being separated if it was me cos how could you knowing one would die.

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DobbyTheHouseElk · 06/08/2019 07:40

They obviously love each other so much, I can’t see how separating them would benefit one emotionally. The Dad made the right decision in the end. Awful for the GOSH team to have to make the decision as well. They look to have a very happy life.

I want to know if they are ok now. Last update was May.

NearlySchoolTimeAgain · 06/08/2019 07:49

I read this last night which says they’re getting ready for nursery:

www.bbc.com/news/uk-wales-48988489

Also that the decision not to separate was probably the right one in view of the medical complications.

Patchworksack · 06/08/2019 07:59

Nothing but respect for everyone involved. Right at the end they said scans had shown the girls' circulation was too intertwined for either to survive seperation. Presumably that was new information since it could have saved a lot of agonising over whether surgery was the right choice.

impossibletoday · 06/08/2019 08:39

Repeated Thursday 11pm (ish)

NoCauseRebel · 06/08/2019 08:46

An impossible decision to have to make. And I wouldn’t want to sit on that ethics committee either.

Read last night that the mum has since rejected the twins and that the couple are now divorced. So yes, I do judge her.

The father however was amazing and his commitment to his girls was incredible. He has lost his job, his home, and travelled half way around the world for them, and the outcome is potentially still going to be the same, yet he has never wavered in his commitment to them.

And those girls were just such incredibly happy bubbly little things, the idea of having to kiss goodbye to them at the theatre door knowing what the outcome would be is just unthinkable.

JustDanceAddict · 06/08/2019 09:58

What an amazing dad.
I was wavering on the side of separation until they spoke about psychological impact to the surviving twin - to know your Sister Was sacrificed to save you is a terrible burden to bear.
Much better for them to live a short and happy life together with a devoted father. He will be devastated when they do die, but at least he knows he’s done the best by them.

DobbyTheHouseElk · 06/08/2019 14:10

The Dad is amazing, he’d tried several other countries first. He’s lost everything including the mother of the twins his 2nd wife. He seems so compassionate.

Luxesoap · 06/08/2019 15:54

Nearlyschooltimeagain thanks for the link. So lovely to read that they are going through a stable period and getting ready for nursery.