OMG Judging opportunity Teenage Mothers on ITV now

[Carmenere]

Poor babies

I think the programme will be helpful for some of the mothers.
Especially the girl with the two daughters, who was referring to her toddler as a little bitch because she was hitting the 5-day old baby.
Once she understands the sibling rivalry, things should become easier for her.

I have to agree that these programmes do have a way of making teenage mums look awful. There are plenty of new mums who are well past their teens who have the same problems as teenage mums. we all need a little guidance sometimes. i don't think its fair to judge each other on such a difficult subject as parenting. We're all learning all the time.

So let me get this right if a baby doesnt "feel" like eating you dont feed them [hmmm] ......walks away before says something else!!!

no you offer food which they pick up and eat them selves.

i wish i'd watched this

my dd2 couldnt sit up till she was 10 months so i spoon fed her in her bouncy chair till she was ready for the high chair.in fact i still had to spoon feed her till she was about 13 months as she just threw everything on the floor.BLW is great but not all babies want to feed themselves at that age IME.

i didn't see her call her a bitch. that's wrong. my step-brother and his gf say it to their dd in a jokey way. they are 40 and 30. i dont agree with it but i still know they are good parents. they've got 3 other kids who have all turned out ok so far. they are 12, 17 and 21. i still don't agree with it though.

i agree it is a good idea. its just some of the things they were trying to make out to bed badc weren't that bad and they just do it to make you think they are worse parents than they are imo so they acn get 30 mins footage and that's not fair.

nothing wrong with BLW from what i was saying - can see alot of +++++ to it - but by ten months i would have been doing puree and spoon.

cx

my DD was mostly BLW because she wouldnt eat off a spoon till early 8 months old
She still doesnt use a spoon herself but eats everything put in front of her shes 1

and judge away I'm 31 and shes my third

you still feed them. but with milk. like i said i didn't starve ds.

hertsnessex, many MANY children are not weaned until later, because of allergies, or baby's lack of interest. Just because the mother is under 20 does not immediately mean the reason the baby is late to wean is oncompetence. You wouldn't say it about walking, why say it about weaning?

Please remember these programs are heavily edited. It's not only teenaged mothers who are rubbish sometimes, and older mothers don't have the monopoly on fabulousness either

if a child is hungry enough, it will eat

i have heard a woman in her mid 20's saying her 10 week old was screaming 'cos he wants to be picked up.he's bloody spoilt' and a woman in her late 20's refer to her 9 month old as a 'little witch'.i dont think ignorance has anything to do with age.

No, LSM, if they don't 'feel' like eating, you don't make them. You still give them the food, but if a child who usually self feeds stops eating for the day, it says far mote about the baby's appetite than it does about the mother's competence.

And I would bet that every single instance of that baby happily tucking in with fists is lying on the cutting room floor

my 18mo has crap with food until about 14mno - when he started feeding himself - so I had 6-8mo of getting (slightly) stressed about him not eating. I would have been so much better off if I had just left him to it. He eats fine now, and unsuprisingly hasn't wasted away.
Don't quite understand why those are aghast at BLW - what would you do with a child that refused to spoon feed - force it into them?

was crap with food

escapefrom, i dont remember mentioning age at all - just re read my posts and age not mentioned once, also didnt say anything negative about blw or puree/spoon etc. My point was that i couldnt understand not feeding a baby because they wont pick up the food themselves - there are also reasons for them not doing this - so blw isnt a magic wand - nor is anything else.

when they are litle they don't need food. its just to get them used to it for when they do. if they won't eat milk is plenty at that age.

didn't like the way they said 25lbs is heavy for a 13 month old either.

ummm ds was 24lbs at 12 months. according to his red book he's on the 75th centile. ok so he's a bit above average but they were implying she was obese or something.

oh and until my brother was 4 he would only eat milky bars. doc said it was better to give him them than him not eat at all. and he was really tiny! not saying its right but its not always wrong iyswim.

This girl wasn't weaning her baby she just couldn't be arsed to continue to try to feed him when he was playing up a bit. She was feeling nauseaus because she is pregnant again so I have sympathy for her but that dissipated when she stormed off for a fag. No one had told her that she shouldn't be smoking

I live with a teenage boy dss 18 and I am fairly confident he would have been better equipped to raise a baby than most of these girls. It is NOT their fault. They are children themselves and whether this programme is heavily edited or not they will all benefit from being on it.

they said a 25lb 13month old was heavey?

dd2 was over 30lb at that age

i did storm out of the HV clinic when they suggested i put her on a diet though.

I have to say i watched it and nearly had a heart attack that baby was on the corner of the bed. I know she was only 5 days old and unlikely to roll, but you never know when ythey might decide to try.

I think the smoking thing was kinda weird, loads of mums smoke and it i have to admit it is my personal bug bear but hardly gonna be a problem in the big scheme of all the things these girls will face.

I think the 10pm bedtime was an issue as it wasnt a routine for the babies sake more for the mums as she was bored and lonely in the evenings and liked to sleep late in the morning... oh and buscuits for breakfast as she couldnt work mircowave, i would have handed her a saucepan

should be intresting watch.

Lisa

25lbs is not heavy, DS was well over that a long time ago, he's high up on the centiles too. but he's not overweight and doesn't look it. all babies are different, can't understand why the professionals get hung up on figures all the time

quite often i have to reoffer ds his lunch a few times. sometimes he just doesn't want it at the time and will go back to it later. that baby probably did the same but like escape said they forgot to put that in.

also they were saying it was bad that she gave him toast if he wouldn't eat it. what's so wrong with toast. i quite often eat toast for a meal. i love cheese on toast and will have it if i'm only a bit hungry and don't want anything to big and heavy.

ah but if the baby was tiny like my dd then she would have been a bad mother who never fed her child can you ever win

I'm not sure, carmenere, that the publicity thast will follow this will be good for them at ALL. I mean, look at the criticism they are getting here, a forum of mothers who know how hard it is? The real world is full of childless perfect parents!

They were telling her that she can't just feed him toast all the time because it is easy and doesn't make her feel sick. Toast isn't a balanced diet.