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C4 NOW - Dispatches - Undercover Mother

36 replies

Whizzz · 23/07/2007 20:10

scary...

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FioFio · 23/07/2007 20:10

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TheMuppetMuggle · 23/07/2007 20:11

Watching now.
I can't believe what i'm seeing, i was soooo lucky when i was labouring & delivering, i had a midwife with me the entire time.

Imawurzel · 23/07/2007 20:13

Not sure if i wanna watch this. I want to but i dont.
I'm not due til december dont want to scare myself.

thomcat · 23/07/2007 20:14

Watching as well. Not sure if knowledge will be power or if ignorance is bliss.

Walnutshell · 23/07/2007 20:18

Does anyone know how you can investigate the quality of your local maternity provision? I had quite a good experience in Nottingham with my first but if any more are to follow, we have relocated to a different area...

God, that poor woman with her little girl in breach.

TheMuppetMuggle · 23/07/2007 20:20

I know walnut that is so sad. i know the midwife was stretched between 2 women and they all do a fantastic job, but she must of had 5 mins to check the presentation of the baby?

WideWebWitch · 23/07/2007 20:20

I know I can't watch this but if I were to it would make me grateful that a) I had mine at home and b) I'm not having any more.

The stories on here about hosptial birth horrify me.

TheMuppetMuggle · 23/07/2007 20:21

Also i was given a choice of hospitals and birth centres i wanted to go to early on in pregnancy so could research each one and decide.

Walnutshell · 23/07/2007 20:21

Awful, very worrying. Another thing to add to the worry list which triples in length after having babies...

2Happy · 23/07/2007 20:22

Just switched over to it...can anyone give me a quick summary of what I've missed? Thanks

Whizzz · 23/07/2007 20:24

Well I was left on the ward overnight alone in the early stages, my waters had broken so it wasn't much fun.
AFter having DS I was left overnight in the delivery room - to this day, not sure why!
No one came to help me have a shower the next day & the toilets were revolting...shall I go on ?

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greenoasis · 23/07/2007 20:24

Well, the doctor who keeps trying to change her mind about the c-section is SHOCKING. Hmm, some men really do not need to be involved with birth. Patronising git.

greenoasis · 23/07/2007 20:25

Oh summary: reporter is filming her experience after a bad first delivery at some N London hosp.

thomcat · 23/07/2007 20:26

I'm so worried that I'll be told there isn't anyone to come out to me for my home birth, even though I have it in writing I can have a home birth. What if they say 'sorry not enough midwives' when I call someone to come? Ohhhh scary mary or what!

2Happy · 23/07/2007 20:26

Yes, greenoasis, just wondering what had been so bad last time?

WideWebWitch · 23/07/2007 20:27

Thomcat, there's some advice on the aims site, will see if I can find it. I think you threaten them with legal action iirc.

TheMuppetMuggle · 23/07/2007 20:27

its so shocking.

WideWebWitch · 23/07/2007 20:29

Thomcat, found it:

"In AIMS' experience women who are determined to give birth at home, who make it absolutely clear (preferably in writing) that they have no intention of going into hospital to solve the Trust's staffing problems, are eventually provided with a midwife. To do otherwise, would leave the Trust in an indefensible position were a disaster to occur as a result of their failure to provide a midwife.

If you are faced with this dilemma we recommend that you send a letter to the Chief Executive of the Maternity Unit along these lines:

Dear

I have been informed that you have a shortage of midwives and when I call in labour the Trust may not be able to send one and I shall, therefore, have to come into hospital. I understand that it is Government policy that the NHS should support women who intend to birth at home. In a House of Commons debate (20 Dec, 2000) Lord Hunt of King's Heath stated: 'The Government want (sic) to ensure that, where it is clinically appropriate, if a woman wishes to have a home birth she should receive the appropriate support from the health service. At the end of the day, it must be the woman's choice'.

Your midwives have been aware of my intention to give birth at home since ...(insert date). I have no intention of taking the additional risk of a hospital birth in order to alleviate your staff shortages, although I am prepared to transfer to hospital should a medical complication arise. I suggest that, if your hospital is short of midwives, you contact the Independent Midwives Association and arrange an extra-contractual referral.

I expect a midwife to attend when I call her in labour. Should a midwife not arrive and any untoward event occur that is related to your failure to respond to my needs and those of my baby, my family will take appropriate action and we shall hold you and the Director of Midwifery personally responsible for this failure.

If, when you ring for a midwife when you are in labour, you are still told that a midwife cannot attend because they are short staffed, we suggest that you, or your partner, responds as follows:

'What is your name and your status? (Make a note of who it is). 'I have no intention of putting myself or my baby at risk of travelling in labour to the hospital and exposing us to the additional risks of a hospital delivery. If you fail to send a midwife and any untoward event occurs which can be attributed to your failure to provide a midwife you can rest assured that my family will take appropriate action'.

So far, in every case to date that we know of, the Trust has provided a midwife. You may also wish to ensure that the authorities know that there are problems in your area so you could also send copies to the contacts listed below."

TheMuppetMuggle · 23/07/2007 20:32

WWW - Thats good info.

Tutter · 23/07/2007 20:34

this is all very familiar

tutter (5 days postnatal)

thomcat · 23/07/2007 20:40

WWW - thanks hon, have already done that and had the letter back to say that yes I can have home birth, but still, what if on the night they turn round and say no? What if as I'm in labour they say ' sorry, only 2 midwives on we don't have anyone to come out you are going to have to come in'. Bit of a scary thought.

southeastastra · 23/07/2007 20:46

women have to go in now fully educated about their rights - it's shocking

choufleur · 23/07/2007 21:01

just finished watching and can empathise with the woman on the programme. I had an uncomplicated birth and the midwives were wonderful (the same one stayed with me throughout), however the post-natal ward was shocking.

www.drfoster.co.uk/localservices/birth/ gives stats about different hospitals if anyones interested in finding out about their local hospitals.

SydneyB · 23/07/2007 21:07

Whittington has always had an awful rep to be honest. But her experience on postnatal ward was just like mine and all the other people in my antenatal group (not in Whittington). Next time I'm discharging myself and getting the hell outta there. Or having a home birth. Is a total sodding disgrace.

SydneyB · 23/07/2007 21:07

Whittington has always had an awful rep to be honest. But her experience on postnatal ward was just like mine and all the other people in my antenatal group (not in Whittington). Next time I'm discharging myself and getting the hell outta there. Or having a home birth. Is a total sodding disgrace.

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