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Anyone watching Louis tonight? Assisted dying.

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Mrskeats · 18/11/2018 21:57

Anyone watching? What are your thoughts?

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Careofcell44 · 19/11/2018 22:26

Potentially triggering even though it's obviously a thread about death.

I watched it and have very mixed feelings. It's hard to have a 'good' death, not many people just go to bed and die in their sleep with no pain or illness.
Part of my job was sitting with people who had no family or friends, while they died, I could swab their mouths with water and talk to them but it was always a relief when they stopped struggling for breath. In my area when someone was very ill, in pain and with no chance of recovery the G.P. would insert a morphine pump driver to give regular amounts and make death easier on the patient.

Now, as someone with pretty much constant pain, very little independence as I'm no longer able to drive as I take morphine, and some days can't stand more than a few minutes I do feel like a burden to my husband. He's incredibly patient and kind but if he were like my ex then he could make me believe that my life is pointless and I should end my own life.

So although I can see that being able to end your own life in a calm manner surrounded by loved ones would be the choice for some, the risk of it being abused , for example by greedy relatives wanting the inheritance rather than it going to care home fees, is too great for me to be comfortable with it.

purpleme12 · 20/11/2018 01:17

It was definitely the hardest of his programmes to watch.

I thought the whole final exit thing was really scary. Surely it can't be legal?!

What did it mean at the end when it said she died of natural causes? Did it just mean she died of the cancer not kill herself?

purpleme12 · 20/11/2018 01:23

Yes I also fear it being abused in different ways too.

purpleme12 · 20/11/2018 01:25

I don't understand why in some cases there wouldn't be a big enough dose to work. Surely they'd give a big enough dose to everyone to make sure it works as that's the point of it?!

spreadmarmznotmisery · 20/11/2018 09:42

Gus is such an amazing person. I don't ever really cry at the tv but this is exceptional

PineappleTart · 20/11/2018 10:12

It was very emotional watching Gus, he had made a very informed decision and knew in depth what he was doing and held on so long wanting to give his family time.

Deborah seemed so sad and I didn't like the creepy couple who's intentions I didn't trust at all. I thought they'd at least see it through and report her death etc but instead her "discovery plan" left a friend to find a note and report it. I guess they can't be too involved but it felt like a terrible thing to burden on someone who wasn't involved. I do think dementia is a terrible thieving illness and it was difficult watching her speak about having to watch YouTube to re-learn something she did every day. On balance though I believe she was just incredibly lonely after the death of her husband.

The poor woman who kept living on through the six month diagnosis, I appreciate their honesty with their son but I can't help but feeling they could have protected him from some things. He was only 10

purpleme12 · 20/11/2018 10:17

But there are more exit guides as well. I find that really scary

spreadmarmznotmisery · 20/11/2018 17:21

I agree that the 10 year old did not need to hear absolutely everything. But it's an awful situation for anyone to be in so who am I to judge

Petalflowers · 29/11/2018 19:14

I’m just catching up,with these programme. It’s very sad.

I can’t believe that the patients are allowed to have the drugs in their homes. These are literally lethal drugs. Surely, if it’s known that these patients have them in their homes, they could be stolen and used to murder people.

Teenageromance · 29/11/2018 19:45

It was a very thought provoking programme. But in his small sample we all seem to agree there was one situation (Deborah) where there were complicated reasons for her decision and that it might not have been the right one but was facilitated for her. I think this shows how dangerous it could be to make it legal. I’m just not sure it’s a choice that we as a society should make.

starlight45 · 29/11/2018 21:16

The ones who provided the plastic bag had some kind of perverse joy in their jobs. All I could think of was Harold Shipman. He liked to watch too. I think they prey on vulnerable people.
I had to fast forward Gus. I was proper crying, I just couldn't watch. Such a great bloke.

sheldonesque · 29/11/2018 22:13

Another one who wishes that terminally ill people were allowed this option.

The shot of Gus with his pup and then the dog watching from the hallway got me.

What really set me off that despite the careful planning from Gus, the doctor friend wasn't sure he had a lethal dose. If they are going to allow it then why wasn't it definitely a lethal amount? I hope his family found peace with his decision.

And Deborah broke my heart but I understand.

Like others, my heart broke for that brave boy. Honesty about death is needed. I felt it a little too honest but better that than skirting round it.

I think we all wish for a good death. I worry about it being abused too. But I worry more about being frightened, alone and in pain.

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