Re:behaviour. I have noticed in my school that the whole idea of respect is declining rapidly. The caretaker who was painting over the graffiti is right. No respect for the rules, the staff, their environment, other pupils, and themselves. And there is a lot of talk of rights, but with no thought to their responsibilities. Without all that, a school will go downhill fast. A lot of the ones who DO show respect when they enter year 7 and who are easily influenced quickly lose it when they see the older ones behaving so badly. I think a couple of pupils actually admitted this, that they were good in primary and aren’t anymore because they just decided to follow the crowd. What you are left with is a handful of despairing kids and staff trying to uphold the standards all on their own.
I wonder when and how this societal shift started. it’s extremely worrying because this lack of respect for authority is now spreading to lack of respect for the police and for our ambulance and fire services.
Henry’s mum seemed quite switched off. Had that been my child coming through the door after school they wouldn’t be greeted with a friendly “hello”and half hearted questioning about what had gone on at school. My child would be getting both barrels. I just didn’t sense any real disapproval from her, I just got the feeling like she’d behaved similarly at school herself maybe and so half understood his actions.
This is the problem, I think. The kids who misbehaved at school in the 80s after the decline of corporal punishment are now parents themselves. They’re unlikely to be the best role models on the whole.
Obviously we can’t go back to the days of corporal punishment but we do need firm sanctions that actually work. Not many actually do. I don’t know what the answer is.
I do think a lot of kids just aren’t made to stay at school for as long as they have to these days. My Nan left at 14 with a good enough education to go and get herself a job. Into the adult world, earning a living and some self-respect, a place in the world, working alongside adults as peers.
However even if we wanted to go back to kids leaving at 15, there are no jobs for them to go to. No wonder MPs want every single child in education or training till they’re 18 and most going to uni after that. It keeps their NEET figures down but it’s not actually doing a lot of good for a lot of kids.