Did anyone watch Mr and Mrs The Mediators on BBC2?

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JUST FUCK OFF BERNARD WHAT'S IT GOT TO DO WITH YOU?

(If you've watched it you know what I mean!)

I've been watching it too as STBXH and I will shortly have to go through this.

Last week's episode seemed to have so much bitterness.

It's so sad to watch people who once loved one another arguing over their children.

diamogs I honestly think there's been one or two cases so far where the parents were genuinely disagreeing over what was best for their children. In pretty much every other case they covered their children seemed like pawns in an ongoing battle between emotionally immature adults.

So much anger, so much bitterness. This may well be me, too, diamogs.

Can't help watching, though!

Matt and Jess from last night are not in a good place. I agreed with Jess's annoyance about the lack of space for the children but clearly (and taking into account that she ended the relationship) she wasn't coming out of it well with regards to her bitterness about her friend. Tough all around.

I missed the first part of the programme so I don't know how squashed the kids would be. I also initially thought it was a new girlfriend and she didn't want the kids to share a roof with her. Then when I realised it was a family friend, who the kids would know, plus ex-dh and her had been together for two years, I felt she was unreasonable (subject to how squashed the kids would be, although for an odd night, surely they could share?).

I didn't quite get what she was trying to get at, either, 228.

I thought she was initially concerned about space and routine. I thought that was fair enough. But then she seemed to lose the plot a bit. Mind you, I'd be pissed off too if my exdp shacked up with my bf.

IIRC the children situation was a 12 year old girl would need to share with a 7 and 8 year old.

DD is same age and I just asked her how she would feel and she said she wouldn't want to stay overnight if it meant sharing, so I can kind of see Jess' point...especially as he has a house at the moment where they don't need to share.

True Abs, but she was the one who broke up the marriage (and initially had a boyfriend), and ex-dh only got together with bf further down the line (not sure exact time sequence).

This is why I'm surprised people appear on these shows. Their private life get discussed and analysed by complete strangers.

Is sharing such a big deal these days, that a child would be denied time with her father because of that?.....shocked if so!

i think if it went to court a judge would say that overnight contact should continue, if i were matt i'd just go the legal route, jess seems to have lost the plot a bit.

228 I missed the bit about her having broken up the marriage.

These programmes must be edited to buggery. We get to see the best bits!

And there must be loads of backstory too.

I think Jess is more upset at losing the best friend than the husband at this stage.

mini reminds me of the Les Dawson joke about his wife running away with the bloke next door ... I don't half miss him.

I thought Peter the accountant seemed a lovely man, really sad and hurt by his wife but still able to keep his dignity.

I also thought Jess came off badly. Obviously your ex getting together with your best friend will be pretty upsetting, there is no doubt about that, however she was using the children to get at her ex.

There had been no problem previously but now he was moving in with his new gf there was a big problem.

I don't see the problem with children sharing a room!

I thought Jess was being a bit precious until i thought about it a bit more.
He had the kids 2 nights in the week and every other weekend, so thats a lot of sharing not the 'odd' night. He's moving from an ideal house to a not entirely suitable one.
Theres also the approaching puberty fact, which i know sharing with a sibling and dealing with it is one thing but sharing with an unrelated sibling might make her feel more uncomfortable.
But my biggest problem with it is sharing with a child whose room it is permanently and so the two 'visiting' kids won't feel like its their own home and the other child has to suddenly share her space. I can see it causing resentment on both sides especially if theres problems with 'she touched my stuff'.
I don't think it helped the children agreed and he immediately dismissed it as 'mum's poison'. His kids might have genuine issues with it, but he was totally dismissive that they could feel that way on their own.

That poor bloke who had saved up £200k of his own money and his ex wife has that & then swans off to buy a new house with her new partner!!! He was so calm about it though, really seemed mature compared to the other prats.
Bloody Sue and Bernard. Piss off Bernard, go & eat your cheese toasties elsewhere.
Nikki was a complete donkey - he sneaked in your bathroom window and then you had sex???? Please.

I've just watched all 3 episodes back to back. I'm all a flutter !

Honey I also got the impression the new on had been on the scene rather longer than she was letting on.

Honey, that new bloke was definitely around when she was getting her settlement.. She kind of muttered something about there being someone to 'hang around for' when she explained why she wasn't moving. Her poor ex is well out of that situation.