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Why is Shabnam not going to midwife/hospital ASAP??

12 replies

Fluffy24 · 28/08/2015 20:06

Just that, finding this painful to watch.

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Wankarella · 28/08/2015 20:07

Yes. I thought the same.

LST · 28/08/2015 20:32

So sad :(

Gymbunny1204 · 28/08/2015 20:34

I understand her not going.

Midwives can make you feel stupid when you turn up worried, it puts you off going again. I nearly lost mine thanks to an incompetent,mu caring midwife.

Gymbunny1204 · 28/08/2015 20:35

uncaring*

BuckyLastard · 28/08/2015 20:36

I presumed it was because she didn't want confirmed what she already knew.

InQuiteAPickle · 28/08/2015 20:46

Could have been a number of reasons. Maybe she felt silly and was wasting their time, some health professionals can make you feel like that. The most likely reason was that she didn't want it to be real. If she doesn't get it confirmed then it's not true.

Elsie212 · 28/08/2015 20:47

Didn't want to be toldSad

Tamisara · 28/08/2015 21:46

It would seem so obvious wouldn't it - and raise the guilt levels of anyone who didn't get to hospital in time.

Also well-meaning idiots who advise lying down, drinking cold drinks, eating sugar etc. Also the very little known fact that a baby in distress is likely to move more before they die - which is when they stop!

Just before I got pregnant with my first-born, my friend noticed her son had stopped moving, and by the time she got to hospital he was dead.

This made me paranoid in my first two pregnancies (in fact I was neurotic in all of them). I regularly went in if I didn't feel them move.

When pregnant with my third, I had lots of concerns, not shared by professionals, as she was healthy, I was healthy, and she was growing well.

One night she moved more than ever. I had no idea that moving more was a warning sign.

I did the stupid cold drinks, laying down, etc... I distracted myself (thinking she was fine last night, and she never moved as much during the day.

As a poster above said - I didn't want to know.

Of course they couldn't find a heartbeat at the hospital. I was full-term, two days away from her planned birth.

landrover · 28/08/2015 21:51

Hugs to you Tamisara xxxx

Rosduk · 29/08/2015 16:56

I thought that was good that she did that, I really identified with that scene. I knew there was something wrong, I laid in the bath and went to bed and did exactly as Shabs did, begged him to move. I thought about having to tell people, his big sister, friends, I also thought about having to watch my best friend at the same stage and cried a lot. In the morning, I faffed about trying to convince myself it was fine. Eventually I went in. He was actually still alive hanging by a thread, had an emergency section and he died 2 hours later. I wish every day I'd gone in earlier.
Masons breaking down was heartbreaking. My mum told me that losing a grandchild is bad enough, but watching her own child be in so much emotional pain and not being able to do anything was heartbreaking ????

Rosduk · 29/08/2015 16:57

*masoods

Rivercam · 31/08/2015 20:41

I was shouting at the TV for her to go to hospital sooner also.

Hugs to anyone who has been through this experience. It can't have been easy to watch on TV. Well done to Eastenders for having this storyline.

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