AIBU
MumofTwinsErinsborough:
My job meant we had to move back to the town where my DH grew up, it was a fantastic opportunity and meant my HD could concentrate on coaching our son to become an olympic swimmer (sadly an accident has meant his dreams have been shattered and my DH had to return to teaching to bring in some money to help with family finances). The day we moved in, his old girlfriend moved in across the street too.
Bit of back story, he cheated on his girlfriend with her, they dated for a bit but he went on to marry the original girlfriend and the ex left. He was still with his wife when i met him but i didn't know he was married (he lied to me), his marriage fell apart and we got together and have had 3 children together.
any how fast forward to a year or so ago and his ex-girlfriend (the one now living across the street) confesses that when she left all those years ago, she was actually pregnant with his baby (have to say i doubted this as the dates don't truly match up and how would any know not know they were 6+months pregnant! - but the dna test show he is the father), he and his ex went to where the baby was adopted to look for her and they kissed - both claiming it was a heat of the moment thing. Since the i have been suspicious of them together, which given my history with him and his history with her i think i'm allowed to be.
They did manage to track down their daughter and now have this bond and kept spending time together. I discovered that the daughter was trying to get them together but my husband said it was all in my head and that he only loved me.
I'm not blameless in this, i have to confess i started drinking a lot as a way of coping.
Anyhow now the worst has happened and he spent the night with her, i only found out because my boss sent my some photos of them together - my husband kept it from me and was going to just lie.
My problem is that i am being painted as the bad guy, that i drove her into his arms with my unreasonable behaviour - behaviour which stems from them kissing in a hotel room and spending lots of time together which resulted in them sleep together - so my instinct was right!!
AIBU to expect my friends and neighbours to take my side and to not have anything to do with my notdoD H and this women?
Can you just imagine the mumsnet replies!!!!