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Benefits Britain,

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WireCat · 03/03/2015 18:24

Vile programme.

But here was a lady on there (last nights programme) called Stacey who had a baby. She was such a lovely lady & loved her baby so much. I felt so sorry for her, stuck in a tiny bedsit. Not even a bathroom. Baby bathed in the sink.

Why wouldn't the council give her a flat. Even just a 1 bed. The poor lass.

Everyone deserves housing btw. I'm just singling her out cos she was so lovely, & deserved a home for her baby.

These types of programmes are ramping up with the upcoming election aren't they Hmm

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HedgehogsDontBite · 04/03/2015 11:37

I've just been watching this on catchup. What's with all the references to people's homes as 'her benefits bungalow' or 'his benefits flat'. It was weird.

CandyAppleFudge · 04/03/2015 12:04

I felt really bad for her Sad

Samcro · 04/03/2015 12:05

lol so vile you watched it

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WireCat · 04/03/2015 17:46

Ha ha Samcro!

Was a bit bored.

All the references to benefits was also horrible. I don't get that.

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HollyJollyDillydolly · 04/03/2015 20:24

There wasnt even room for a moses basket for the baby. Felt really sorry for her saying she's fainted due to lack of food before To make sure the baby gets his milk. :(

Timothy80 · 04/03/2015 21:16

I felt really sorry for that young girl as well. And her baby was gorgeous!

Aeroflotgirl · 04/03/2015 23:01

.they should not be living like this, it's not acceptable in Britain today. I hope the Council take their finger out and give them something more adequate. The rest, need a good scrub in a hot soapy bath.

ilikebaking · 06/03/2015 23:26

Sorry, but whose responsibility is it to provide for people and their off spring?
If you choose to have a baby, you should be able to support it.
Babies are a choice. Being pathetic is a choice.

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WireCat · 07/03/2015 15:01

Well aren't you a ray of sunshine ilikebaking

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bigmouthstrikesagain · 07/03/2015 15:09

"choice" is an interesting word - it implies things all being equal and people being in control of their lives. Which of course is an illusion. I did not choose to be born, I did not choose my parents, my upbringing, my economic status, my hair colour, my ethnicity. So for people have a lot of choices 'opportunities taken away before they are born. There is no more loaded a term in discussions like these than "choice"...

myusernameisusername · 08/03/2015 20:40

i agree with ilikebaking there is contraception these days get an injection or a coil its not hard

JazzAnnNonMouse · 08/03/2015 22:01

Ok but even if you think as harshly as that the BABY didn't choose to be born and so deserves better.

myusernameisusername · 08/03/2015 22:27

well it shouldn't be with her then should it

JazzAnnNonMouse · 09/03/2015 06:46

You believe a baby should be taken from his mother because she's poor?
Wow.
Do you realise that would actually be detrimental to both lives and totally unnecessary?
Have a read about attachment theory.

If my dh left me I would have to be on benefits - should my children be taken from me??

bigmouthstrikesagain · 09/03/2015 08:29

Hey Myusername the Victorian era is calling...

myusernameisusername · 09/03/2015 12:11

the baby would be adopted by someone who could care for it in something other than a grotty bedsit while starving themselves to do so it wouldn't remember the biological parent

JazzAnnNonMouse · 09/03/2015 19:43

So what age would the cutoff period for babies from the poor to be adopted out?

JazzAnnNonMouse · 09/03/2015 19:47

Sorry to rephrase- up to what age would it be ok to adopt out the poor peoples kids?

Just at birth? Or ?

My kids are 3 and 20 months - should they be adopted if for whatever reason our circumstances change?

targaryen · 09/03/2015 21:05

MyUserNameIsUseless have you never seen the programmes where the adopted child and biological parent spend years thinking about and looking for each other? Quite often the mother had to give up the baby due to the way society worked 40 years ago.
The mum on the programme was a lovely and loving mum who needs help and support so she and her son can both have a fulfilling life and he can then contribute positively to our society.
They both don't need punished due to the mums situation.

Blondeshavemorefun · 10/03/2015 21:10

Stacey seemed a great mum. You could tell she truly loved her son

kilmuir · 10/03/2015 21:13

Contraception. Responsibility

TeaAddict235 · 10/03/2015 21:46

why should she be blamed for the housing situation that her baby is forced to live in? where is the dad? I bet that he can have a bath whenever he wants; a filling meal and a bed ready whenever he wants. why does a mother ALWAYS have to choose food for her child over herself irrespective of the country or culture that she lives in? Society always blames the mother!

Blondeshavemorefun · 10/03/2015 22:18

I wondered about the dad. Don't think they mentioned him. She had a job etc so wonder if was planned with dad and he buggered off :(

She also had half the money to live off as paying back loans and no doubt at high interest :(

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