rhyksmum So sorry for what happened to you. You're making perfect sense to me.
I'm coming from this from the POV of a woman and a journalist. The programme and the presenter may have been well-intentioned but it was very bad. It was an hour on the BBC fgs. She may have been passionate about the issue but she should have thought about it.
I've never been raped. Have experienced the pressure to put out as a teenager but not that badly because I was not in with the in-crowd, which protected me - though I didn't realise it, or appreciate it, then.
I don't like pressure on any women to behave in a certain way but recognise it has inadvertent advantages.
I was never in the kind of culture of the young woman who was attacked by multiple rapists. I have experienced sexual assault that I didn't realise was assault as well as pressure and judgement by men and women. Don't we all?
That's what I meant when I said there were too many threads. Multiple rapists, the attitudes of women, the attitudes of men, stranger rape, acquaintance rape, attitudes of jurors and society.
It was all done in an hour. She could have handled one issue properly in 30 minutes if she'd have resisted the temptation to march up and down and emote.
Julia I agree. BBC3 was an excellent opportunity for this kind of issue. But something targeted at making young women question why they do things that men want them to do and why they care so much about the opinions of their peers -both men and women.
Sadly, I don't think a programme with 'rape' in the title will appeal to men. But slowly, slowly...