Anyone watching My Social Network Stalker?

[EightiesChick]

I can't believe she didn't twig earlier that her boyfriend was very, very odd.

What I found really worrying was that while she was going through the teddies he had given her and that Valentine's card, her face lit up and she looked so happy! Why would anyone want to keep moments of such an awful betrayal of trust?

I wondered if the dad had come down hard on her and told her not to see the boyfriend again, hence the comment from the mum 'her dad will tell her to choose between him or me'

WHY would she still have him on face book right up until the last minute?

I think possibly cantgetlaid is right - something very odd and a lot more going on than was shown.

Is it not possible that she could be bright enough academically and yet be clueless in terms of social communication and relationships.
Someone with a mild asd type condition may struggle in exactly that way. Her father struck me as being cut from that cloth - aloof, crap at relationships, inappropriate humour etc. I know a man with aspergers who has a degree but still walks home through a pub carpark in spite of having been mugged/attacked there twice. When I try and dissuade him he says 'but It shouldn't ve happening' And her coping mechanism was not drugs or alcohol but OCD.

That may be bollocks. But her responses reminded me of him.

Very strange family. The sister's hysterical laughing as the prison van went past was just plain weird.

I also found it strange that she had kept all the things he bought her and she only deleted him from Facebook after his sentence

Pag I was just talking to a friend about the programme and she said the same and that she would be interested to know what SN she had.

I didn't actually find the dad odd.

oh good, not just me then Valium.

I guess I found him a bit odd in that he seemed to be able to talk in quite an upbeat, almost humorous way about what had happened.
Even simply to comply with social norms I woukd have thought most dads would feel obliged to stress how horrible it was when recounting what had happened in front of the cameras. He spoke as if he were talking about an unexpected win at scrabble.

Hmmm possibly, although they were prone to a bit of inappropriate smirking imo.

Seeing as how her judgement is SO off, I really hope he doesn't manage to talk her round once he's out of prison

Goodness, me too.
She was just completely clueless, so vulnerable.

I did notice it was a bit odd when the mum started crying at the dinner table the dad didn't even look up, jet carried on eating. That might be his way of coping though.

loumacca....yes that was very off, why keep all that stuff and only take him off her facebook when he was sentanced?

They all seemed a bit smirky and lighthearted at times.....considering how serious the subject was

I am not sure I have said anything approaching justification of what happened to her.

Why is OCD 'worse than' an alcohol and drugs problem sinister?

I don't think anyone has said it justifies what he did to her.

I found it odd too, the Facebook thing. Generally it would take a hell of a lot less than that to not be FB friends any longer! I think that, and other things shown on the program, made me think that she's quite naive and still vulnerable to more trouble from him once he's out. I really hope she stays safe and has people to support her.

I thought that the fathers delight at finding out it was him was slightly off. He didnt seem to show any sympathy for his dd at all or even anger that she had been through so much.
The mum was odd too chopping away like mad at that bushblike a woman possessed. The only one who seemed sensible was the sister.
I thought all the. Lose up shots of her were tasteless and a bit gratuitous too.
Doesn't take away from the fact that the scumbag got off lightly and will probably go on to do the same to some other poor girl when he gets out.

Sorry for the typos- stupid phone!!

She seemed very dim to me. I understand that he could have convinced her the picture sharing wasn't him, but then to agree to a porno? How could you feel comfortable with it after the photo fiasco (assuming you believed your boyfriend hadn't been the one to share).

And why keep all the relationship stuff - teddies, perfume etc.

Why not go to the police with the identity theft - msn accounts etc?

I think they glossed over FAR too much of the boyfriends behaviour and focussed on the sex pictures too much. The documentary didn't give a decent picture of what this shane character was up to to.

I agree. I don't know how much say the family had in the final show before it went out but I wouldn't have been happy with all those close ups of her naked.
Also at times I thought it was giving potential stalkers tips on how to hack Facebook.
Made me shudder it did!

I would hope - I really, really would - that it is obvious without even needing to state it that the boyfriend was a twisted individual who deserved a lot more than he got. I did express my surprise earlier in the thread that he only got 4 months, and said that that was outrageous as a punishment for years of harassment. No one is excusing what he did or saying it was the victim's fault. I have said, as have others, that there was still something quite odd about the family's behaviour. My family aren't perfect, at all, but they would not have 'asked me to choose' between them and an abusive boyfriend; they would have tried to help me and defend me. Her parents seemed very detached by the whole thing - her dad in particular as if he was gleefully solving a crossword puzzle.

I thought Aspergers as soon as I heard her speak, she reminded me of DS2. Her social naivete and passivity and the eyes closed in the early photographs made me suspect even more.

i am worried about DS2 being put in the bottom set at high school next year .

Yes totally agree with the posters suggesting strong asperger traits in both the father and daughter.
I actually don't think the documentary was the right thing to do for her.

Still don't get the father being odd tbh - just because he wasn't about to go round a kick the boyfriend into next week doesn't make him detached, it makes him realistic, he is over 50 and half the size of Shane!

I imagine after the doc there will be lots and lots of hits on the poor girl's name

yes I instantly cringed for her when the reporter outside the courthouse asked her about them...bastard!